How a Taxi Driver Became a Bank President? by Bo Sanchez

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Wise Words from Bo Sanchez on True Wealth

How to Be More Emotionally Present to Your Family No Matter How Busy You Are

6 Steps to Enjoying Your True Wealth
By Bo Sanchez

We were going to Hong Kong that day. I was going to preach for three days but had two extra days to be with my family. Picture us at the airport: My wife carrying our baby in her arms, my eldest son bouncing about like a rabbit and announcing to the whole world, "I'm going to Hong Kong Disneyland!" And the poor skinny father? Straining to push eight massive bags on a wobbly cart with a stubborn right wheel. (I've noticed that these deranged carts supernaturally end up with me wherever I go.)

That was when we heard the crying.

Correction. Not crying. But spine-chilling, lung-busting screaming. Two kids were holding onto their mother. They were separated by four-foot tall steel bars. But to those distraught children, those steel bars represented two years of being without their mother - the contract of a domestic helper in Hong Kong.

Four small arms clutching, grabbing, not letting go.

The whole world heard their pleading scream, "Mommy, please don't go! Please don't go!" I'll never forget the mother's pained, tortured face - as though a knife was ripping through her body. My wife cried openly. I wept inside and held onto my kids more closely.

That was two days ago. Yesterday, the story continued...

Those Small Arms Continue to Reach Out Yesterday was Sunday.

And I walked around Central.

If you don't know Hong Kong, Central is where thousands upon thousands of Filipina Domestic Helpers congregate. They sit on sidewalks. They sit on overpasses. They sit by storefronts.

I walked passed one woman who was reading a handwritten letter.

The handwriting was obviously a child's penmanship.

I walked passed another listening to a little cassette player - not to listen to music - but to a voice of a kid telling stories.

But what broke my heart was the news given to me by Shirley, the head of one organization that tries to help them get financial education. I was shocked by what she said. "Brother Bo, out of our 700 members who are married, 80% is already separated from their husbands."

Families aren't designed for prolonged separation.

They're not just made for that.

We're supposed to spend time together.


6 Steps to Spending More Time with Your Family
No Matter How Busy You Are

"Bo, why are you telling me this? I'm not in Hong Kong. I'm living with my family under one roof."



Listen. Yes, you're not in Hong Kong.



But if you don't have time for your family - and your heart is not focused on them - you might as well be in another country.



You could be physically present - but are you emotionally present as well?



Let me share with you five important steps you could take to become more emotionally present with them...



Step #1: Be Close.



I'm still in Hong Kong as I write this piece.



It's five in the morning as I type this article in bed. And my little family is literally around me because we're all sleeping on one bed. Yes, we've become one mass jumble of intertwined humanity - our limbs, legs and arms crisscrossing each other. And that's when I realize - gosh, I don't know how blessed I am.



Why?



Here I am with my family. I feel their skin. I smell their scents. We're so close, I feel their breath.



And yet I'm surrounded by 148,000 domestic helpers here in Hong Kong that have been away from their families for months, for years, for decades.


And for those who've separated - forever.



Let me say it again: We don't know how blessed we are.



We complain that our families are nutty. But we don't understanding how blessed we are to have them close enough to experience their nuttiness. We complain about our petty quarrels, our cold wars, our dysfunctionality.



But whose family isn't dysfunctional?



I've talked to some people here in Hong Kong who would give anything to be with their families again - even for just one day of nuttiness. The first step is to be more emotionally present to your family is to actually be physically present to them. Be close!



You need to know how precious your family is - and treat them that way. You need to see them as your true wealth - that nothing is more precious than your relationships.




Step #2: Be Deliberate.
Because you need to protect this treasure or they get stolen from you.

No matter how busy I am, I schedule a weekly romantic date with my spouse.



Yes, I actually write it down in my appointment book and treat it like a meeting with the President of the Philippines. These weekly nights are blocked off for the entire year. Nothing can touch it, except some dire emergency.



Why? Because if my marriage fails, everything else stands to fail as well: My ministry, my businesses, my soul... So it is an emergency that I bring her out every week.



I also schedule a weekly date with my kids.



I believe parents need to do these one-on-one dates with each of their kids. Unless of course you've got 18 children and may need to bring them out by two's or three's.



Sometimes my son and I just walk around the village and talk.



It doesn't have to be big. But swapping stories and opening our hearts to one another on a consistent basis is already very big to them. It means they matter to you - that you value them - and you'll see their self-esteem grow.



Step #3: Be Expressive.



I tell my wife "I love you" seven times a day.



I hug my kids countless of times a day.



At night, I tell my kids, "I'm so proud you're my son. I'm so proud I'm your Daddy. You're a genius. You're a loving boy. You're an incredibly gifted young man..."



This is true. I have met 40-year olds who long to hear these words from their parents - "I'm proud of you," and feel an empty space - like a gaping wound in their souls because their parents have never told them this.



Don't do that to your kids.



And before I forget: Praise your kids seven times a day.



And praise your spouse seven times a day.



I'm not kidding. It will revolutionize your marriage.



If I say, "Criticize your spouse seven times a day," I bet you'd say, "Kaunti naman. I do that already." But that's the problem. We don't realize that when we criticize our spouses, we actually destroy our marriage bit by bit - not just our spouses.



But when you praise and honor your spouse - you build up your marriage.



It can be very simple stuff:

Ang sarap ng luto mo ngayon, Hon.

I thank God He gave you to me.

You're so hardworking.

I love it when I see you play with the kids.

You know how to make me happy.

Ganda mo ngayon.



Keep on doing this and you'll see changes in your life and your marriage you thought were not possible.



Let me say it again: Praise your spouse - and your children - seven times a day.



Step #4: Be Deep.



Your weekly dates shouldn't just be watching movies, eating out and going home.



Talk deep.



Talk about your feelings.



Enter into each other's worlds. Dive into each other's dreams, hurts, desires, worries, hopes and burdens.



When you open yourself up to your spouse or your child, there are more chances for the other person to open up to you.



Step #5: Be Simple



Yesterday afternoon, I preached to 700 people in Hong Kong.



I usually give my talks for 45 minutes. That's been my trademark. But yesterday, I gave a solid two-hour talk. Vein-popping, heart-pounding, passion-driven talk - because I had a burden in my heart.



Because I preached on Financial Literacy.



I challenged them, "Raise your financial I.Q.!"



I scolded them, "When you left the Philippines, you told your kids, 'Anak, two years of separation lang 'to. After two years, Mommy will have saved enough and will go home and we'll be together again.' But after two years, you go home and you haven't saved. Because you repainted the house. Because there's a new TV set in the living room and a new gas range in the kitchen. Because the kids have new designer rubber shoes.



I taught them how to live simply and ruthlessly save 20% of their income.



Because unless they do this, they will be forever trapped in Hong Kong.



Look at your life.



Are you living simply?



Are you saving 20% of your income?



Step #6: Be Financially Intelligent


I also taught them where to invest.



I told them, "It's not enough to just save. You need to know where to put your money. Because savings accounts at 1% and time deposits at 5% won't do. Inflation - which is at 7% - will simply eat them up."



So I taught them about mutual funds and other investment vehicles, including the ability to sell something and get into business.



Here's the truth: The more you know about money, the less time you need to make money. So the more time you have for your family.



Actually, a time should come when you don't need to make money. Instead, you let money make money. And that requires financial intelligence.



Read. Attend seminars. Look for mentors.

Go Home.

After giving my talk, I took a deep breath and told my audience in Hong Kong, "When you follow these principles and have saved enough - please go home. Please go home to your children."



I made a lot of people cry that day.



I'm telling you the same thing.



Oh yes, you may be living with your family in one house, but it's possible that your heart is so far away from your spouse and kids - and they are far away from you as well.



You need to let your heart go home.

Go home my friend.

Your heart belongs there.

.....sa tanang mga OFW's (pareha nako), ug sa naa ra diha kauban ang pamilya pero mura'g OFW......panahon na sa pag-usab ngadto sa maayo......pamalandungi ning estorya ni migo Bo Sanchez......
Good Luck natong tanan..............................

[smurky]

if got any Bo Sanchez articles to add here pls. do so... nakatabang namo og makatabang pa mo sa uban..

keep it coming...

[smurky]

if this is your first time to visit this thread... do read Bo's articles....

[Ichigo97]

Salamat bai sa mga nindot na stories. Really inspirational, ayos jud ni si Bo Sanchez...

[smurky]

"Do YOu Have SCARS?"(by: Bo Sanchez)

Most of you know I’m a recovering porn addict.

I was addicted to it for years—and it almost destroyed me.

Today, God has healed me and continues to heal me.

If you don’t know this part of my life, read my two books, Your Past Does Not Define Your Future, and 7 Secrets To Real Freedom.

More than my writing or preaching, I think one of the greatest things I’ve ever done for others is to share my scars to them. It gives people hope that they too can be healed and change their life.

It’s like the vegetables I eat. (Be patient with my analogy.)

My friend tells me I’m like a goat.

Because everyday, he sees me munching on raw salad.

Specifically, raw green “organic” vegetables.

Here’s something you may not know about organic: They’re physical appearance won’t be perfect. They’ll have pockmarks. Flaws. Blemishes.

Why?

Because they don’t have insecticides to protect them from bugs.

Some people who don’t know this will choose the “perfect” veggies. The ones with no defects. No wounds. No scars.

A pity. Because their perfection is fake. They don’t have scars because they’re covered with a truckload of chemicals. A few of them may even be poisonous. They keep out the enemy, but they also make the veggie very unhealthy.

You know what?

I’ve met people who don’t seem to have any defects.

No scars on the outside.

At least, they make it appear as if they have no scars.

But it’s not true.

Their real scar is their pretending to have no scars.

It makes them inorganic. It makes them plastic.

Dear friend, give hope.

Share your scars to others.

[reachingout]

nice man jud ni ang mga books ni Bo, even iya mga talk nice kaayo i listen His talk all the time..pwede na sad mo maka liisten , read article online from bo.

try here http:kerygmafamily.com,BoSanchez.ph Practical Soulfood For Successful People mga articles na diha then sa iya talk here Home - Preacher In Blue Jeans

[smurky]

5 Steps How to Expand your Territories(by: bo Sanchez)

Many people ask me how I’m able to do all that I do.

Let me give you an idea of my responsibilities… (Warning: Some people actually feel tired just reading this list, so take a deep breath…)

I lead 4 ministry organizations. I speak in a daily Radio show, a weekly TV program, and a daily video show at Home - Preacher In Blue Jeans Each year, I churn out 3 books, produce 4 audio/video teaching series, and write more than 200+ articles. I publish 7 magazines, maintain 4 websites, send out my online newsletter and write my blog at this website. I lead a “virtual” community called the Kerygma Family and oversee an incredible “sales force” called the Kerygma Ambassadors. I also travel extensively, preaching 300+ times a year all over the Philippines and around the world—leading retreats, seminars, and prayer rallies. I also am proud to say that I read all my email and respond to most of them.

As if these aren’t enough, there are a “few” personal things that I do…

I run a homeschool center to help parents learn how to homeschool their kids (If you’re interested, log onto Catholic Filipino Academy) I lead a financial consultancy organization to teach Filipinos how to save for their future. I operate a tiny organic farm, a real estate business, and manage a few more small businesses. (Plus, my 7-year old boy still has his Bangus business, and he’s hired me to be his marketing consultant.)

Of course, I’m fanatical about spending time with my family. I play with my sons everyday and still bring my beautiful wife once a week in a romantic date. We also have 4 family vacations every year, and 2 of those vacations are long 2-week trips!

And each year, I read 3 books a week, listen to the same number of audio books, and each year read thousands of magazine and internet articles.

Oh, before I forget, let me mention that I hop on a stationary bike one hour a day.

How do I do all these things?

Let me share with you five principles…


Key #1:
Believe You’re Bigger

It’s common fact that we only use 10% of our brain’s capacity.

Can you believe that? We’re wasting 90% of what God has given to us!

I believe God has given us more capacities than we think we have.

The ultimate crime is that we belittle ourselves.

We think we’re insects, so we live an insect life, but actually—we’re giants!

Because of this, I believe you can earn a ten times more than whatever you’re earning right now. You can help ten times the number of people you’re helping now. You can serve ten times more than whatever service you’re doing now.

Don’t limit yourself.

You’re bigger than you think you are.


Key #2:
Be Consistent With The Fundamentals

Every morning, I enjoy time with God.

Every morning, I chew on His Word—the Bible.

Every morning, I pray, “Lord, let me love every person I meet today.”

Every morning, I read my life mission, my list of dreams, and my annual goals.

And throughout the day, instead of exposing myself to bad news, I digest good news available around me: I voraciously read inspiring books and listen to inspiring audio talks.

Every night, like a little boy, I kneel beside my bed and thank God for His blessings of that day.

In other words, the reason why I live such an exciting life is because I’m boring.

I’m monotonous.

I’m repetitive.

I do the same basic things again and again and again and again…

I now realize that the reason I can do all those thrilling, exciting, exhilarating stuff is because I do the boring basics every single day of my life. Everyday, I’m grateful. Everyday, I think positive. Everyday, I love. Everyday, I select what I watch, what I read, what I listen to—and stick to what can make me grow. Every single day.

The more I live on planet earth, the more I agree with Jim Rohn when he said that “There’s really nothing mysterious or magical about success. Success is simply the consistent application of fundamentals.”

Be boringly consistent when it comes to the basics.

And in time, you’ll find exciting success knocking at your door.



Key #3:
Focus On Your Core Gift
I have very few talents. Honest!

I don’t know how to cook, how to dance, how to write a computer program, and how to solve the Rubix cube. I don’t know how to do geometry, trigonometry, and calculus. I’m totally lost in chemistry, physics, and biology. I also can’t fix a leaking faucet or do carpentry or repair my car.

But this is what I can do very well: Communicate.

So I focus my entire life on that one thing.

I write well and I speak well. Period.

And I delegate everything to people who are better than I am.

Ask yourself now: What is my core gift?

I have a general rule I follow in my life: I don’t like complicating things just to impress you. So instead of giving you 329 psychological questions filled with scientific babble to discover your core gift (so I could impress you on how intelligent I am), let me just boil it down to 2 very simple questions. Stop reading this book until you answered both of these questions.

<!--[if !supportLists]-->· <!--[endif]-->What do you enjoy doing?

<!--[if !supportLists]-->· <!--[endif]-->What are you good at

For some of you, it’s technology.

For some of you, it’s teaching.

For some of you, it’s selling stuff.

For some of you, it’s cooking.

For some of you, it’s music.

For some of you, it’s advanced trigonometry. (Yes, I’ve heard there are such strange creatures walking on the face of the earth.)



Key #4:
Build Your Network

My wealth isn’t my money.

My real wealth is my network of friends.

Personally, I don’t think anything great is accomplished without a team.

Even Jesus had a team around him.

A few months ago, I was reading about the interesting world of horse-pulling competitions.

That’s where huge horses the size of elephants pull massive concrete blocks behind them.

Did you know that the grand champion horse could pull the incredible weight of 4,500 pounds? If the average weight of a Filipino is 140 pounds (which happens to be my weight before I eat my breakfast), that means this super horse could carry 32 Filipinos—without wheels! That monster could pull me, my wife, my kids, my parents, my siblings, their spouses, their kids, and all my in-laws combined.

And the second placer horse can pull only slightly lower than the first placer: 4,400 pounds.

That was when the organizers got curious. If these two horses pulled together, how many pounds could they carry? Could they pull 8,900 pounds?

They harnessed both horses and were shocked with the results.

Both horses, when pulling together, carried the mind-blowing weight of 12,000 pounds. That’s 85 Filipinos.

My message? Teams are powerful.

Alone, I can do a lot of things. But with my team, I don’t add but multiply what I can do.

I keep networking. I circulate. I meet people. I build bridges.

So I surround myself with a bunch of people who have impeccable character and fantastic skills. I network with Mentors, Preachers, Administrators, Accountants, Programmers, Lawyers, Financial Wizards, Multi-millionaires, Media Experts, Businessmen, Architects, Engineers, etc…

And everyday, I constantly expand my team.


Key #5:
Create An Autopilot System

Every time I enter into a project, I always do it with a team around me. Never alone. And I choose my team well.

I have a very simple criteria: I choose men and women who are humble (teamplayers) and who are experts in their field. In other words, I search for impeccable character and fantastic skills.

And together, we create a system for the project that’s replicable and duplicable.

In other words, it’s got to run on autopilot without my direct supervision.

Here’s my ideal leader: If I appoint someone to be project head (or organization director or business manager), and after six months, I don’t want him to bother me anymore except for major directional issues. If he still bothers me for tiny matters, I’ve chosen the wrong leader—or I trained him wrongly.


If You Love, The Universe Opens Up To You

Here’s what I’ve learned: Love is limitless! It has no boundaries.

I do what I do because I want to love people.

Each morning, I wake up and ask myself, “How can I bless people today?”

And so I stretch. I go just a teensy bit beyond what I think is my limit—and my capacities expand—because I want to bless the world.

[johnjoe]

nice story bro...

[smurky]

(from smurky: the purpose nganong maligo ta kada adlaw is to clean our body. our "mind" also needs a bath everyday to weed out "negative" info gikan sa sorroundings. Feed your mind daily with good stuffs.)

"Motivation gets you going and habit gets you there.
Make motivation a habit and you will get there more
quickly and have more fun on the trip." - Zig Ziglar

"We all need a daily check up from the neck up
to avoid stinkin' thinkin' which ultimately leads
to hardening of the attitudes." - Zig Ziglar


"You cannot tailor make the situations ins life,
but you can tailor make the attitudes to fit
those situations before they arise." - Zig Ziglar

[smurky]

***Hang In There and Learn***

Challenges of life will come.
The only place on earth where there are no problems is a "cemetery"
Every place and every person will be hit by the storms of life.
If you remember there is something to learn in every problem then
you can learn to grow from the storms rather than being crushed by them.

W. Mitchell said, “It’s not what happens to us that counts, it’s what happens in us.”
He was right and he should know. Mitchell was a serious burn victim and then
suffered a plane crash, which left him paralyzed. He is an inspiration, someone
who has sought to become better through adversity. Mitchell is probably one of
the most “up” people on the planet, largely due to the lessons he learned about
life and how to live it while recuperating from his injuries.