My everyday agony as a foreigner's wife

[cottonmouth]

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I AGREE that he is a racist. You should have not married him in the first place. I just wonder if the lady married the AM Boy for love in the first place....or was it for money.

Very typical of racist Americans...that is what they always do COMPLAIN & COMPLAIN. I have a lot of American friends here in Japan...most of them still complain why Japanese don't do these and do that. That is why many people hates them because they always want others to act and think like they do...NO WAY HUSSEIN. Certainly not all of them are bad eggs just like not all Filipinos appreciate their country's uniqueness. That is why many on this thread aggrees with your husband. They are the same Filipinos I met abroad that have nothing good to say about the Philippines. WHINERS are LOSSERS!

Why don't you leave with your AM BOy to where he belongs. Another WHINER is the least that the Philippines need today. Get him off my homeland...gezzz am starting to sound like another anti-American.

[ingkiang]

i'd say 80% of his perceptions are true. the truth hurts.

yup2x...bt still less people are doing nothing to change that fact

[cottonmouth]

yup2x...bt still less people are doing nothing to change that fact

Does it includes you?

[jiro]

THIS IS SPARTA!!! THIS IS PHILIPPINES!!!

-- Sorry but i have to defend my country.

it's been a year i got married to a white guy,so far my life has changed,financially, and emotionally as a mother. I have a 6-month-old kid. we will be flying to my husband's place next month.

my agonies are:
as a foreigner,

1.my husband think our best tourism is the girls,and that's why he came here,then he met me

no offence, but this type of foreigners i hate most. most of the foreigners that i met (that dont work here), only looks for gurls. What does your husband meant when he says girls are the best tourism?


2.he doesn't want our kid to live here because streets are the playground of the children,basing to what he saw

hmm yeah. i enjoyed my youth playing shatung, tumba lata, takyan, taguan, marbles. but you could always live in a subdivision like kishanta ,molave, or maria louisa.

3.our politicians are corrupt,he kept asking me where our 12% vat go
honestly, i have no idea too!
i dont even know why USA is having a financial crisis. i dont understand why we go to war with iraq.

4. He laughs at small shanty houses in major roads,coz for him is terrible to see,
and for you? is this terrible? this is your fellow filipino. i dont know what is more pathetic...
the suffering or the one who laughs at them.


5. he never rides PAL,or sea ships of the philippines
sarap ng experience ^_^. how about island hoping? sulpicio lines scared him huh?

6.that filipino vehicle drivers are boang,no clues and never give way to ambulance
hmm yea. usahay, but i see some improvements. the only exception is if traffic gyud.
same reaction i got from someone who drives in australia. crazy drivers.

7. hospitals are too far to be alive
i dont know where you live. better live in a hospital.

8.that ambulance brings you dead on arrival
hmmm.. and this is ambulance fault? and hospital's fault? better arrived than never.

9. that majority of us lives in 2 dollars a day
converted to US money. yes. if they work in US, that's probably $10-$20 dollars. and look at how hard Filipinos work to feed their family.

10. that everybody wants to leave the country
sadly true, but when enough money is earned, they go back and retire.

11. that government agencies is money greedy,he can prove it,
tell me it's not true in other countries.

12. that majority just eat rice and fish
FOOD!? PHILIPPINES? IS A FOOD DELICACY COUNTRY! People here just love to eat.
there are 8 meals by the way, in order: breakfast, snacks, lunch, mirienda, mirienda ceyna, dinner, bedtime snacks, secret.

where else can you eat strange bits of animals!? adidas(chickenfeet), kurbata(neck), walkman(pig ears), helmet(chicken head), PAL(chiken wings), IUD(intestines), dinuguan, the dreaded balut, bagoong, utan, kaldereta, sisig. food you can only find in philippines.


13.that we fight with each other
hmm.. globally yes.

14.that we do not produce anything,if we do,no quality
at least we are better than china. ^_^
yet foreigners keep comming back to philippines, prefer filipinos. why? because we have character. we are fun and loving.

15.that we suppose to have a very beautiful place but the government is busy in corruption
god.. kapagud mag defend. but sadly yea.

16. homes here dont have grasses
Kakapuy ba ani. so?


17. and he wonders what country's future be
and more....
Best answer is from Micheal Defensor when asked - is there hope for our country? those living in squatters? those poor people living under the bridges? is there future for our country?
he answered - ofcourse! there is always hope. otherwise i have left this country for good. i will never loose hope. these filipinos need me.

and also, havent you notice? Filipinoes are taking over the world! ALL YOUR BASE BELONGS TO US!


all these are present in his mind,i cant change it,he shakes his head to my country
i cant take it anymore,its killing me,its hurting me,i have been defending my country eversince,i always give counter reasons to my husband,but it just makes him see me as no clue too!
now,im tired defending,in the end i realize my husband is true.im leaving philippines now,if i come back,that's becoz of my family.

yea.. good luck. all we wanted is the best place of our children to grow up. if you feel that its better in other countries, good ahead. i sometimes feel foreign countries are better. But I want my child to grow as a filipino, no matter which country.



my 2 cents.
I agree to most of your comments. Philippines is not perfect.
This is not Canada, This is not Australia, This is not United States.
I love my country. This is where i grew up. this is where i belong.



Filipinos in the eye of a foreigner
A Matter of Taste
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Where else but the Philippines!

[softtouch]

This story does not sound right for me.

[uzumaki]

i don't understand your intent but obviously IMHO "DISCRIMINATION"?...y not think of helping our brethren instead?

[juknojukno]

Very true!

[nItO/pIrEnA]

although he sounds like a jerk in his opinion regarding some things about us, certain points in his argument are quite accurate...our main tourism industry is girls? that couldn't be far from truth...remember that issue regarding tourist brochures being distributed in MCIA that makes Cebu appear like an island of night clubs?

[ieuseerm]

inday secret tool, taga diin man na imong husband? white sya nga taga diin? taga europe? taga america? taga australia? taga north pole? ambot lang ha, kung ing-ana man gani ang iyang pagtan-aw sa pilipinas, di ko kasabot nganong giminyoan ka niya nga pilipino man ka. wa cguro sya kadungog sa istorya nga, "you can take [the girl] out of [the philippines] but you can't take [the philippines] out of [the girl]."

unsa pa lain nako nga ma-comment, best wishes nalang.

[Gwynhuever]

..well i must say each person has a different perspective...my husband is white...but he fell in love with the Philippines...and the Filipino ways...including the crazy food (nakakaon jud tawn ug balut ...nya gi follow up pan pa jud ug ulo sa kanding!)..and all the "weird" stuff that you only experience ONLY IN DA PHILIPPINES! ..of course naa sad siya ma comment like the crazy driving...and the garbage nga nag katag lang...but he so loved the Philippines that we are now packing all our stuff and we have decided to live there for good.

I am so happy with the decision...kay bisan pa sa ka pobre sa pinas...i would really like to raise my son diha sa atoa....

we may be poor financially...but we are richer than the westerners in some other ways uniquely ours....

good luck sa imong pag byahe...i hope mo improve ang inyo relationship inig puyo na ninyo sa inyong house nga naa grass....nya inig play sa inyong anak sa computer nga siya ra usa....ug inig eat ninyo ug steak and potatoes....he he he

by the way ngano naa man ni sa politics and current events tawn oi?