The Myth of Monogamy

[Soul_Captive]

ah ah ah. yeah, sakto ka. but i am presuming you are referring to your friends? how young are you? Dugay naman na. it's called the quarter life crisis. We all go through it but sa case sa babae once they get over it they would realize there's more to life than finding a bf or desperately trying to find someone to marry. labi na if naa na trabaho nya nindot ug kita. kalami ana na life, ah! I am totally for this! In fact, diri nako na age range mangita ug gf gani. LOL kasi usually it's at that stage when you're significantly thinking clearly and you make much more sound decisions in choosing your mate.

mao sad na advice nako sa akong mga amiga ug mga cousins na babae na teenager pa. ayaw sa mo pag seryoso ug relationship. wait lang till you're around 25 when you're thinking a little clearly. you'll realize that you may not need a bf after all.

Sakto ka bro..I'm 23, but I'm sure I don't need a guy to live my life..siguro, it adds a little spice every now and then na naay ka-char para lingaw2 pero to survive, you only need yourself and your will..As for my friends (who are of the same age as mine), they share my thoughts on the matter..Kysa mag-agwanta sa mga polygamous (and consequently, bulyagon) na mga lake, wed rather just grow into old maids together..hehehe

[tokidoki]

Explore and travel you will open your mind and you will know the reality.

Share nalang gud. Naa pa diay daghan laki sa lain lugar? hehehe... pahibaw-a mi kai naa raba usa ka laki na obviously nangita pud ug lain laki. LOL suko lang kai wala ka score nako gabii.

[Puzlia]

Share nalang gud. Naa pa diay daghan laki sa lain lugar? hehehe... pahibaw-a mi kai naa raba usa ka laki na obviously nangita pud ug lain laki. LOL suko lang kai wala ka score nako gabii.

Mao na nag paila lang daghang laki ....nga nagita ug laki... Funny isn't it?

[tokidoki]

mao. nihit pa naa pa gyud na mo rally pa sa pikas ***. hurot nalang mi.

[Puzlia]

mao. nihit pa naa pa gyud na mo rally pa sa pikas ***. hurot nalang mi.

Tungod kay sobra na ang laki,,, Mao na. Try living other country it's opposite thing happened in Pinas.

[Soul_Captive]

mao. nihit pa naa pa gyud na mo rally pa sa pikas ***. hurot nalang mi.

Tsk.tsk..Kinsay nagpauso ana ky atong ibitay mgtuwadlolz

[tokidoki]

Tsk.tsk..Kinsay nagpauso ana ky atong ibitay mgtuwadlolz

ayaw nalang. ampay pud nila! hihihi...

[tokidoki]

Sakto ka bro..I'm 23, but I'm sure I don't need a guy to live my life..siguro, it adds a little spice every now and then na naay ka-char para lingaw2 pero to survive, you only need yourself and your will..As for my friends (who are of the same age as mine), they share my thoughts on the matter..Kysa mag-agwanta sa mga polygamous (and consequently, bulyagon) na mga lake, wed rather just grow into old maids together..hehehe

well life is about taking risks. it's like a rumble. if you get thrown out of the scuffle, just dive in and go at it again. hey, look at me. i'm here posting this obviously unpopular topic but i'm doing it anyway to find answers.

You eventually get used to it. Like this post, for example, normal pattern gyud na sya diri sa istorya na naai mosulod na insecure windbag with nothing better to do and just start blowing his gas around. Eventually, naabot bitaw mo and we now have more sensible conversations. Or when I post something for sale, normal napud na na naai low blows or mga yabag na inquiries before some serious buyers come in. It was the same in all of my started posts and will always be that way in the future. Someone even asked me if ingana ba daw ang cebuano or ingana ba ang pinoy. faet.

When we talk ideas it's always the storm before the calm.

[Soul_Captive]

I don't know if I'm weird but I enjoy the storm that you mentioned..It's interesting to debate about things like this because it makes me think about them more and come up with my own belief on the matter..Sometimes, it ends up unresolved, but at least there was the attempt to understand things..
Karon, nahilom na imong thread..But, we were really not able to come up with a resolution on the topic that you started..I still maintain my positions on the issue and so do the other people who previously commented..
Cguro it all depends kun kinsa ang naa sa sitwasyon, kun that person makadawat ba ana ang setup..There are some people I know who have resorted to open relationships where they are able to have other people in their lives even when they are in a relationship with someone..One of their reasons is to test their own relationship kuno..For me, it does not make sense, pero it is their relationship man..So it's all up to them..In short, depende ra jd ni sa tawo..

[tokidoki]

well you had your expectations here. my apologies if you didn't find your answers. but i did get mine.

I did accomplish the following things for me:
1) That it is hormones that drive our impulse to do things without thinking. That was accomplished courtesy of my fellow psychologist istoryan. Of course, i'm lying about me being a psychologist but I also learned that you can be anyone in istorya with only the fraction of the competence. LOL
2) That polygamy is a choice. (Although I am still VERY doubtful of this)
3) That we tend to define things how we want it to be instead of how it really is. This is influenced by many things including, attitude, experience and upbringing.
4) Women think clearly than men.

So if mo hilom na ni nga thread it's ok na. I got my own satisfaction from it. And it's good that some people bring up their own thoughts so maybe I can stream line the idea some more or ditch it in the future.

Finally, for the record, I am not polygamus. hehehe... :P The author of "The Myth of Monogamy" are actually couples, A psychologist and a psychiatrist, respectively - BOTH are monogamus. That, of course, is a subject to debate between me and a woman that I'd be courting. I haven't reached that point na ang temptation grabe. hahaha.... awon lang asa kutob ang biga.