My Complicated Love: Is She Really into Me?

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Last, hide your insecurities or redirect it to other ways. Insecurities drive good relationships away...

wooh... this is interesting.... how will insecurity be redirected? is it really ok to redirect the insecurity of one person rather than opening it up to his/her partner?

[emow]

@ -aa-:what i really meant was change the way you manifest your insecurities. if you are mindful of the way you express these insecurities, then try to express it in a positive way. dpat gyud nimu i open sa iyaha eventually. you can't just say all your insecurities out loud man sad. It needs timing. As the relationship matures, it will provide more opportunities for openness from each other.

@msacrifice - bro, often times it's not about what we say to our special someone but how we say it to them. i don't know how you talk to her so i leave it to you to analyze YOUR conversations with her...

[chenggay!!!]

Thanks for that guys I understand your views on how to handle my gurl but I thinks thats not the main problem coz I always put in mind that no matter what she has experienced in her past be it nice or not I will try to forget it coz for me whats important is the present and future. I just dont understand why she lies to me when I ask questions about what other people says about her and she doesnt even look me in the eyes as if she is hiding something, I told her in a relationship you should be open to each other coz that will be the cause of misunderstanding which leads to away2x (fights) I sometimes ask myself is she hiding something because she doesnt want me to get hurt? Or maybe I am way to mature for her? Sorry guys maybe you are right I am just making my own problems...

well maybe the reason why she lies to you is for your own good. she doesn't want you to be hurt. and why do u keep on digging? it's not helpful. you have to understand her... and just be there. believe me. what ur doing is NOT HELPFUL! give her the space to breathe. you might lose her because you are choking her!

[chenggay!!!]

bro mysacrifice: you should not pester the girl with questions like that. maka irritate gyud na mga ingana. kung muhilum cya, just be there for her. you don't have to say something just let her feel that you are there. i have a friend with the same situation as yours. he did not listen to me, the girl confessed na maka annoy gyud iya bf. anyway, just avoid qustions like " what's wrong? are you okay? do you love me?" believe me bai, you're really turning the girl off sa imuha.

don't assume that uyab na mu you have all the right to know all aspects of her. You don't. Sinasakal mu yung gf mu. the best thing guys can do with new gf trying to move on is just be there for her. when she's sad, don't pester her with questions, instead cheer her up. If you really like the relationship to blossom, show her that you're more concerned with her happiness than yours. In the scenario that you painted, it seems you want to satisfy yourself na ikaw na gyud iya gi love. but the more that you do that, you're just pushing her away.

anyways, if u really care for her, stretch your patience and be ready to understand her mood swings.

I TOTALLY AGREE! been there done that!

[Baeybe_Bryce]

Sooner or later she will talk about it so just wait..she's a girl..and in nature a girl will speak out if they feel something man that they cannot take anymore...so be der if dat time comes...listen...but for now..respect her rights muna..she need time for herself too.

[ansan]

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh

[ansan]

mmmmmmmmmmm.

[attempt]

let me share... makarelate tngai ka ani

in the viewpoint of the girl:

i entered into the next relationship within 6 mos. after the break up from a 5 year relationship.
the difference with u and my bf now is that he was there when i was having a rough time with my past rel. and a witness to all what i was going through then xa ako nauyab sunod.

i made it a point not to let him see that i was still hurt... it takes time to get over the past especially for women and what we need to heal and move on is SUPPORT

i know that my bf now SUPPORTS me just him being with me and not pressuring me. instead of bombarding me with questions or intriguing me about what i still feel ( which is not helpful at all!)he tells me IM HERE and THIS IS A NEW LIFE. when he said that i knew he knows that im still hurt but instead of focusing on my issues he is giving me his hand to move on and start over my life with him

hope u understand my point and this has helped you.

sa tanan advice dri bro, mao ni pinaka SAKTO.

add ko gmay/ dili gyud na dali malimtan nila especially mao to iyang first love then first ehem.
its up to you para imo labwan ang performance sa ex bf niya. do this and mo pilit pud na nimo.

[yvonne6]

okay ra ipag laban ang kahibalo ka nga imoha gyud. what if naa kay feeling nga nag duha2 sad ang imong hinigugma about nimo? in that case, dili naka makahibalo ug asa nimo i lugar imong kaugalingon. why man mo constantly fight for your love kung ang imong love is giving u the assurance nga love gyud ka niya. love is a 2 way thing. kung wala pa siya totally naka get over sa iyang ex, u make the move, either u stick and wait for her to get over he ex or ikaw ang mo move out sa relationship. do whatever u think will make u happy

[bodacious_babe]

give her time and space but never stop loving and caring... be very thankful you have her in your life now rather than her ending up with somebody else without you! she is a gift to you.. even this is meant to happen so that after ma over come ninyo kani nga trial.. your rel will be stronger.