Originally Posted by
JRG_959
The tragedy of married men cheating on their wives and such is caused by the two most common issues: fear of commitment, midlife crisis
Fear of commitment: It is a known fact that some guys have this death-like fear of commitment. Why? because it entails having to make do without one's own freedom. hence, the man is no longer a "whole" human being so to speak. Why? because a man has to have that freedom to do whatever he so pleases. That's why
'he's the man'. A man would be better off castrated if he were in this state. but it need not be that drastic. Some men find a way around the whole "losing one's freedom" issue by looking at it from another angle.
So to answer your questions as to why married men screw around with their secretary and such is because they know they can have their fill, be the WHOLE man that he once was before he got married for that brief moment of lust in the office or where, just so the satisfy his male ego. The male ego is the most dangerous part of a man's person. so once he's got that fully satisfied in manner that is compromising to his marriage, then he feels like a man again. However, these types of men tend to be overly insecure about their own sexuality. Other men, express their midlife crisis through other means. that is to say, that which will not affect the state of their marriage
Midlife crisis: More obvious in men than in women(sori guys, it's true), men tend to be more ostentatious about their midlife crisis than with women. Why? A midlife crisis or "phase of life issue" is a point in time wherein you know you've crossed the Half-way mark and you don't know for how long can you still go on with your life. which is why some men "seize" the day by relieving boyhood fantasies such as buying a fancy sportscar, day younger chicks or screw around with them for a time and such. why? To "make up for lost time" so to speak. Men who tend to constantly repress their own fantasies, desires, wants, and so on, tend to be more aggressive in this point of their life.
So to answer your question again using this point of view, MAjority of cheating men are in this state of life. They feel they have lost out in the race of life or felt "cheated" so they have to balance it out. It is NOT because they weren't able to get the urges out of their system. The whole idea behind the urges of men is that wives can't be treated like sluts. You can ask a slut to give head but you can't demand that from your wife. your wife is the mother of your children and you don't want the mouth that gives head to be the same mouth that kisses your kids.
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