HELP My Lover Still Lingers on past relationship

[mariox]

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i often mention about my ex too... we're 5years together under 1 roof... it doesn't necessarily mean i still love her.. but the fact that it didnt turn out well, ang among nice ug bad experiences together na akong ipanulti niya - mao na unta maghatag ug way para mo avoid or mo sakay siya(akong pares karon)... but usually dman gud kasabot, i-closed dayon ang dungan ug d paminawn akong side...

i hate to tell you this, pero bati naman gud mobalik sa experimental stage sa relationship... im too old for that...

[shaxyra]

i often mention about my ex too... we're 5years together under 1 roof... it doesn't necessarily mean i still love her.. but the fact that it didnt turn out well, ang among nice ug bad experiences together na akong ipanulti niya - mao na unta maghatag ug way para mo avoid or mo sakay siya(akong pares karon)... but usually dman gud kasabot, i-closed dayon ang dungan ug d paminawn akong side...

i hate to tell you this, pero bati naman gud mobalik sa experimental stage sa relationship... im too old for that...

exactly.. foolish na kaayo gud if same mistakes happen.. at least aware inyong partners na mao ni sayop sauna mao iwasan.. sahay man gud kitid ayo ang utok as taw.. selos galore dayon.. akong uyab momention man sad sa iyan ex.. wa rako.. i trust him..

[jjonez_800]

What if you are in a relationship with a girl who still lingers with her ex, and would even see the guy at times with out you knowing it, not unless you catch her doing the crap.

though seeing the ex simply means, seeing in malls due to the ex's invitation, eat out and buys stuff for her...

would you think it's acceptable? and is it normal and right for a girl to do that, only if she has "delecadesa"?

[mab]

it's a big NO for me..

grabe pud dli xa mghuna2 sa imu ma feel...
kng mao na buwagi oie..

[vladmire]

exactly.. foolish na kaayo gud if same mistakes happen.. at least aware inyong partners na mao ni sayop sauna mao iwasan.. sahay man gud kitid ayo ang utok as taw.. selos galore dayon.. akong uyab momention man sad sa iyan ex.. wa rako.. i trust him..

sakto gyud! we just have to understand those kind of people.

[bugzbunny]

sakto gyud! we just have to understand those kind of people.

yup... correct dyud.

if insecure ka sa imo feeling... ma feel man dyud sab siguro nimo kung love ba dyud ka sa person or dili...

[jjonez_800]

what you're talking about is not the whole point of my previous issue. too bad, i didn't know why my thread is under this topic now.(bec.im not so familiar of how everything works here yet).

yes, mentioning ex's in a couple's conversation is understandable if the point is stressing out failures so that the same mistakes won't happen again in the current relationship...

...but wouldn't you think it's a whole different story is your bf/gf continuously sees their ex, to the point of hiding it from you? which you would later on find out from someone else... you forgive them for doing so, and weeks after the same thing happened again... should you be able to understand it? or wouldn't you ever wonder what is going on instead?

that's what i meant when i said LINGER... they still communicate, they still see each other, the ex at times still visit her at home(when am not around). then again, delecadesa and respect is my point here...

think again. hoping to hear your reactions soon...

[badu7]

what you're talking about is not the whole point of my previous issue. too bad, i didn't know why my thread is under this topic now.(bec.im not so familiar of how everything works here yet).

yes, mentioning ex's in a couple's conversation is understandable if the point is stressing out failures so that the same mistakes won't happen again in the current relationship...

...but wouldn't you think it's a whole different story is your bf/gf continuously sees their ex, to the point of hiding it from you? which you would later on find out from someone else... you forgive them for doing so, and weeks after the same thing happened again... should you be able to understand it? or wouldn't you ever wonder what is going on instead?

that's what i meant when i said LINGER... they still communicate, they still see each other, the ex at times still visit her at home(when am not around). then again, delecadesa and respect is my point here...

think again. hoping to hear your reactions soon...

Yup, your point is understood bro. For me man sad, dili mau tanawon na mobisita pa ang ex pero ok lang na if you are there nya niabot iyang ex. Your partner should understand how you will feel sad kung makabalo ka na nibisita diay iyang ex.

[goryoboy]

Having to act on your past mistakes and learning from it doesn't mean that you have to say it out loud. I don't think you love you current partner that much than your xgirlfriend, or lets just say, it isn't that intense compared to before.

Wouldn't it bother you that it's causing some disturbance on your current partner cause you always try to bring up your previous girlfriend everytime you get to have a misunderstanding or even just in a situation you happened to have with your xgirlfriend? Well if you really care for what your girlfriend feels, you would!

On my own opinion, you should ask your boyfriend about it. No pressure. Get inside his head or better yet... try to put your feet on his shoes and don't deny what your guts is telling you and just be honest.