How to tame a very strict dad?

[jaide]

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my dad is so strict.. i can't go out overnyt with friends.. the more i'm getting old the more he's being so strict..grrr i couldnt even talk to him coz with just a few words coming from his mouth could easily make me cry..

alangan pod if musupak ko palayason palang ko..wa koi padulngan..grrr

[diem]

[color=navy]I like to ask are, how young are you and are you a girl?

[jaide]

im 22..grrr

[bukikong]

daddy knows best

[jaide]

he doesnt know best..he doesn't trust me or watsoever

[diem]

im 22..grrr

[color=navy]
You're 22 and... you're a girl? You're not answering my questions completely.

Honestly, as an age, "22" doesn't matter a lot. According to Philippine law, you're not even allowed to get married through a civil ceremony without a permit stating parents' knowledge.

Sure, you're at a legal age to make your own decisions but as long as you reside under your parents' roof you're subject to their own decisions.

There are ways to get along with your dad. You could figure it out by getting to know your father better, that is if you want to.

If you don't want to know and get along with your father then do what you can to stand on your own, be independent and finally move out of the house so that you can live by your own rules.

he doesnt know best..he doesn't trust me or watsoever

[color=navy]Possibly because you haven't earned his trust or respect. Trust and respect are not given just because you're his child.

[jaide]

im definitely a girl..the only child in the house.. i just wanted a part of my freedom.. i envy my friends coz they can go out a lot.. ive been trying hard to ask permission from him but his statements wud seem to crash my heart..lyk i have a curfew and i should be home by 8 o'clock...grrr

[diem]

im definitely a girl..the only child in the house.. i just wanted a part of my freedom.. i envy my friends coz they can go out a lot.. ive been trying hard to ask permission from him but his statements wud seem to crash my heart..lyk i have a curfew and i should be home by 8 o'clock...grrr

[color=navy]
You're the only child, so it's fair to say you're ALL he's got.

Well, I always believe it's best that family should get along. If there are any problems, then people should try to work things out with each other.

Do you know and understand him as a parent, as a person? Do you think he understands you as a person too? If he seems like he doesn't, why don't you at least make him understand? Did you try having a heart-to-heart with your dad? Did you tell him about your concerns as a person, as a young woman?

Why don't you just hang out together at night? I mean, that's an option. Or have a party with your friends at home, that's another option.

If your father won't compromise with you on those areas, then I suggest that rather you waste your youth and energy disliking him, work hard, earn more, find and work a paying sideline then sooner than you know it, you'll be afford your own place or afford to rent a place, either way you get out of the house.

[b]Either put up with your father and make the best of what you got with him, OR work hard, earn a lot then move out.

[jaide]

thanks.. good advice!

[cebu1029]

im definitely a girl..the only child in the house.. i just wanted a part of my freedom.. i envy my friends coz they can go out a lot.. ive been trying hard to ask permission from him but his statements wud seem to crash my heart..lyk i have a curfew and i should be home by 8 o'clock...grrr

only child man diay ka! no wonder! also... most dads are very protective of their daughters! they are scared that you will meet a boy like them! bwahahaha!!!

hang out with friends at home till you father gets pissed off and allows you to hangout somewhere else!