How long does it take to get over a relationship?!

[Ryan747]

It depends on how fast you recover and being single for 3 years is good because for the last 3 years you have the opportunity to taste everyone.

[diem]

[color=navy]Love isn't an exact science. If it were so, we should be learning about love from school textbooks.

Relationships are as unique as the people who make them so the same could be said of the manner done when a relationship dissolves.

Only YOU can say WHEN. It was your love, it is your life. When you say it's over, it's over. Words, however, are one thing. Memories and emotions are another.

So allow me to suggest that when you decide to say it's over, you back up your words with actions. Talk's cheap, action's got value. It isn't what you say or who you are underneath, it's what you do that defines you.

So if you think it's high time you get over a relationship that didn't work out, the show it, do something that means it, prove it to yourself.

Being stuck in the past is like being barred in your way by a fallen tree. You try to push it, move it, but you can't lift it away. It's not easy but you shouldn't give up especially if moving on is something you really want to happen.

There are ways to get through. You climb over it, you dig and go under it, try to walk around it, you cut it in half, you burn the tree or you blow it up. Check out all the verbs, the action words. You got to act.

How?

Change jobs, change your clothes, change residences, change friends, get new friends, meet old friends, change habits, get some exercises, learn a hobby, earn a new degree, learn a new language, strive for a new skill, get a pet, a turtle or a bug, try some new cuisine, try cooking new cuisine, buy yourself some new CDs of new music you haven't heard of, watch films that aren't mainstream, same with books, go to your high school reunion, get in touch with old relatives, visit your hometown, get involve in any community activities or charity, read the news and see that somehow you're still fortunate...

I could go on and on but I figure you're smart enough to realize what to do for yourself, something that YOU KNOW will work for you.

[b]There isn't a definite time when one can move on. That's entirely up to the person. One thing I would say about time is that once lost, it can never be recovered. Life is short, youth is shorter. Don't let life pass you while you're stuck remembering and regretting something you can no longer change.

Wishing you all the best in Life and in Love.

[HIRO_NTA]

Sakto ba nga 3 years na ni labay, nya wa pa ka ka get over sa imong ex?!
Normal pa ba na?!
And for that matter..
How long does it exactly take?!!

took me 2 years and a half, just one day at a time..pero sakit bya ghapon knowing na he'll never be yours anymore...

[cuttie_angel]

getting over w/ someone you loved takes a lot of time and years to moved on but if nag longing pa ka nya., i dunno if maka get over jd ka ana...

[pring_pring]

even though 2 weeks lng me, it took me 1 year to move on..

[pongborro]

Sa akong case, depende kung unsa tu nimo ka love tung tawhana... sa akong uban previous x's, dali ra kaayo, maybe because the love was replaced with disgust and hatred.

But there was this one ex of mine, 2yrs mi long distance, dugay kay ko naka get over niya, mga hapit 3yrs siguro. I even dreamt of him often. And wrote sad poems. After him, naka uyab ko twice, but he was still on my mind, always on my mind. I even asked for "divine intervention!" Kung makatubag lang ang Ginoo diretso nako na ang love rba, dili gyud na nimo mapugos sa isa ka tao, tungod sa free will.
There was even one "intimate moment" that i mentioned his name instead of the current bf, bwehehehe.

Until... until... naka uyab ko karon na nakalabaw sa ato na ex sa pag show ug love. This man loves me more, so much more, respected me more, cared for me more than that ex na di nako ma-get over before. Nawala ra gyud cya sa mapa finally. Nahimo na gyud cya ug scar na dili na ma-open. Because of my bf now. Now, im happy... and inlove

Ni-ara isa sa kong poems ato na ex ay:

Two years and more,
You I adore
Two years and more,
I now abhor.

Love it came,
Love it flees.
Who's to blame,
Who killed the flame.

Two years and more,
I wait in vain.
Two years and more,
I can't reclaim.

[mrs_sipi_mr_yoso]

Give me 3 days to be sobber...

hahaha joke...

I guess it would depend on the depth of the relationship that you have established. Or how much you loved the person. What's important is you have accepted the fact that you can't be together anymore. Cause if you still can't then chances are dili pa ka ka move on completely. It's like your cheating on yourself.

It took me almost 3 years to get over someone I was not even formally involved with, yet its quite ironic cause I completely got him out of my system about 3 days from the moment I realized that there can never be us..

So para sa ako ang trick is the part where I honestly succumb to the fact that dili na jud me puydi, and the rest they say is history...

^_ hehehe

[michelle_eaea]

depende sa tawo nga na inlove.
actually, if you think of the bright sides nganong gabulag mo, then, dali raka ka get over ana..

but if you think "this is wrong!" over and over again, lisud i-get over ana.

-based on experience lang mga sis and bro. ÜÜÜÜ

[ehnblue]

sos gatuo jud ko before forever ko d makagetover sa ako bf of almost 3 years.. just learned it the hard way.. acceptance is the key..

right, acceptance is the key to getting over. well time does not count but thought is. lisud rana sa sinugdanan. kabantay mo nga if broken hearted mo as in cry to the max but along the journey mukalit ramo ug smile dayun kilig nasad for someone else then balik nasad ug cry. love is a cycle of painless and painful feelings.


just go with the dance of pain and mourning of losing him or if ever ikaw ang gibiyaan just enjoy the moment of bitterness and sorrow kay someday, while earth is still rotating around its axis, musmile raka...

[karlyn]

wen you'l meet someone better than your x...