Unico ijo ug ija

[ladyred16]

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i'm also an only child. i'm turning 22 years old this December and until now i still have that longing to have siblings. because of this, palagi kong nababanggit ang experience ko na 'to sa mga open forum namin sa klase back in high school and college and palagi ko rin napapaiyak ang mga kaklase when i speak about it (hehehe)...

when i was young i thought it would be fine not to have siblings because we were in manila with my cousins. it was fun. and it ended when we transferred to davao. it was the start of my only-child problem. i only have my classmates to talk and play with back then, dinagdagan pa ng language gap kasi nga tagalog ako and i don't know cebuano yet at that time. i don't share my problems with my mother and father except if it's related to school projects and homeworks. other than that i solve them on my own. for me it was an advantage na rin because i was able to become strong on my own. i gained the "never give up" attitude from my problems and many of my classmates are amazed with my excellence in class. i am friendly with my classmates and i am able to make friends easier than anyone in our class.it made my mama and papa happy and proud of me. however, beyond that happiness that i provide to them and to myself, i still feel so, so lonely. loneliness i can't describe with words. my only diversion of this is in studying and making my friends/classmates laugh with my corny jokes and funny antics.

my greatest heartache of being an only child is when my father died 8 days after i turned 10 years old. i have no one beside me except my mother. but her presence is only enough to wipe away the tears. i was wishing that there is someone else other than mama who can help me face this tragic moment. someone who feels the same way as i am, someone who can cry with me for losing a father, someone like a brother or a sister. somehow i was able to move on. i still did great in the remaining years of my elementary education, even graduated at the top of our class. i also did the same in my high school years, still at the top of our class. while everybody thought that it was an easy ride for me, well it isn't. in fact, i have struggled so hard and i didn't share it to anybody. i keep on getting stronger and my heart is passionate in what i'm doing, but i was still longing to have siblings. but this longing never stopped me from achieving things that i aspire. it's just that it would have made me happier and cooler if i have siblings whom i can share my achievement, who will be so proud of me, who can teach me things that i don't learn from school, who i can listen to their experiences and who i can call my kuya, ate, inday, dodong...

(kahilak man sad ta ani oi.. hehehe)

I feel your pain ... Lucky for me kay I still have my parents with me... i just hope that I will be strong enough to face death by the time mahitabu na. Its one of my greatest fear, losing the people I love dearly. I appreciate this forum narin coz its the first time nga naka share ko sa akong true self nya naa pud naka relate. Adjusted nako that I am alone, I need to adjust things pud para maka blend. Kaya rani nato mga unico Yho and Yha....

[sexyjelly]

okay kaayo!! daghan man pud friends and naa maga cousins so d ra pud laay kay daghan man ghapon matawag bsan unica ija ka sa family... =)

[berry_muffin]

i'm an only child, but i never felt that i'm alone while growing up. childhood years was fun. i would simply play with the kids in our neighborhood. when i'm alone in my room, i play with my dolls and malingaw gihapon ko.

my hubby told me that its very hard to argue with an only child kay dili jud daw ka maka-daug. i don't know why... hehehe, naanad man gud ko nga ako ang sabton permi.

since only child lagi, i'm used to getting all the attention that i need from my parents. mura'g sobra ang love and care nga nahatag nako. mao sad ako, sobra sad ko mu express sa akong love and care for a person.

i don't know what it feels like to have a sister and a brother or to be an ate. i've always wanted to be an ate baya. and dili ko kasabot kung nganong kinahanglang mag-away ang mag igsuon. mao ni ang mga things nga wala sad nako na-experience. oh well, i am happy man sad being an only child.