Screwing up friendships

[pazuzu690]

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hahahaha... i enjoy your train of thought man! so you're saying sleeping around now becomes a very normal "friendly" activity? oo nga naman... without the aid of boundaries to direct the protocol, how would the persons involve know what's "friendly" and what's uhmm... is "non-friendly" appropriate?

sleeping around is a very broad term. it covers a lot of "slutty" activities to put it correctly and bluntly.

one can always have one night stands but the issue in question here is "*** happening between friends" - this more than just sleeping around kay there is an excess baggage na man gud - emotions!

lastly, there's nothing friendly about a one night stand... lol.

if you have a regular FF - basin na pa na pagka-friendly gamay.

lol

[Empress_Of_Drac]

yup....it would definitely screw up friendships...pero depende na sad na kung unsa ka kewl ang mga tawo nga involve...for me ok ra na....u can still b fwends eventhough ur doin' the F thin'...sometimes in lyf some unexpected thin's just tend to happen...but it doesn't mean na u would let your harmonious relationship wd that somebody to be screwd up by on a such thingy....


ot: wot i reali min s....nakadepended na na sa perception sa usa ka tawo....lifoSUCKKZZZ!!!!,,,,di ba mas kewl nga naay kay PACKEr fwnd? heheheheh...sock d fifo!!!!

[flanker]

friends always come and go...

[annais]

friends always come and go...

you remind of one friend, he said: "f*cking friends f*ck up friendships but then again, you can always make new friends!"

anyway, i truly appreciate everyone's anecdotal evidence, even personal testimonies given in this thread.

here's what i realized after reading the posts and conversing with friends:

in a friendship where *** is involved, the only viable solution i can see to keep the friendship going is to NOT turn it into a f*ck buddy relationship. so long *** is not a common fixture of the friendship, i think both parties can manage to stay friends. perhaps, it's gonna be awkward the morning after. and maybe, it will take a loooooooooooong time to work things out.

i realize that if both parties have a reason not to pursue anything, then it leads to a considerably more comfortable friendship. otherwise, it almost feels like either party is just waiting for circumstances to change, rather than actually being friends.

[potterboy]

friends always come and go...

you remind of one friend, he said: "f*cking friends f*ck up friendships but then again, you can always make new friends!"

anyway, i truly appreciate everyone's anecdotal evidence, even personal testimonies given in this thread.

here's what i realized after reading the posts and conversing with friends:

in a friendship where *** is involved, the only viable solution i can see to keep the friendship going is to NOT turn it into a f*ck buddy relationship. so long *** is not a common fixture of the friendship, i think both parties can manage to stay friends. perhaps, it's gonna be awkward the morning after. and maybe, it will take a loooooooooooong time to work things out.

i realize that if both parties have a reason not to pursue anything, then it leads to a considerably more comfortable friendship. otherwise, it almost feels like either party is just waiting for circumstances to change, rather than actually being friends.

right.

[Empress_Of_Drac]

yeah..fwends always come and go..but i wont let mah fwends just go away..coz for me they are like treasures to be keep..for the rest of mah life....yooh

[giver_bert]

*sigh* it is but common for some to have sexual relations with people they consider friends, or to start out in an intense physical/sexual relationship which later transitions into a standard friendship or a "friends with benefits" situation..

i believe, *** is so much more than just a physical act that it encompasses your mind, emotions and body, the social set-ups of the persons involved and your spirit.. your single foray into adventure may create a bond you do not want to break (vice versa), which could result in breaking not just agreements but hearts and friendships (worse case).. not really your friendship with him/her, but perhaps with your relationship with other people..

[ciga_shake]

you remind of one friend, he said: "f*cking friends f*ck up friendships but then again, you can always make new friends!"

anyway, i truly appreciate everyone's anecdotal evidence, even personal testimonies given in this thread.

here's what i realized after reading the posts and conversing with friends:

in a friendship where *** is involved, the only viable solution i can see to keep the friendship going is to NOT turn it into a f*ck buddy relationship. so long *** is not a common fixture of the friendship, i think both parties can manage to stay friends. perhaps, it's gonna be awkward the morning after. and maybe, it will take a loooooooooooong time to work things out.

i realize that if both parties have a reason not to pursue anything, then it leads to a considerably more comfortable friendship.Â* otherwise, it almost feels like either party is just waiting for circumstances to change, rather than actually being friends.

how true...im still trying to let go of my friend with benefts. it started out as a one-night stand - and yeah due to alcohol influence. then it became a "six-month stand". call me stupid but i liked him. a lot. it's not that i didn't understand our set-up. my only mistake was i fell.

these things don't always work out. especially when both parties are not mature enough to handle it. if u started out as friends then became lovers, there is a very small window of hope that u might end up together. but it's a rare case. chances are, ul still be friends who'll try to get over the past and move on. situations like this are subject to intense scrutiny and whatever insight u get will be a jumble of nonsensical BS because one is dreaming and the other is still on a high from a very strong orgasm.

my advice is...don't start anything with a friend. it does screw up the friendship. u r not imagining those awkward flashes between u 2. if it happened once, it will happen again. it's also not a very good way to start a relationship. unique yes but not entirely good. my guess is ul probably do it every chance u get now that ur "legally" (sorry no other word) together. intimacy just develops between 2 people in a relationship. it doesn't jumpstart it.

it doesn't hurt to be old-fashioned once in a whileÂ*

[n0stALg|a]

sometimes, this incident happens to frens esp in the influence of liquor or drugs perhaps.. and sometimes inevitably, either parties have hidden agenda that's why they ended up naked in bed together.. for some, it ruins the friendship.. esp if one of them has some sort of hidden agenda.. but for most ppl, they continue bein friends and act like none of it happened.. and eventually, they become f*ck buddies and yet act like "normal friends" infront of everyone else.. i guess, its juz a matter of personal choice.. they dont need to talk about it, coz it might only make thngs worse.. what happens next all depends on who makes the first move..

[makuz]

*** changes everything, i think. hehe