The Girl is INSECURE with the Guy...need advices!

[Col Center Trooper]

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Hello.. I have this little problem, actually it's not a problem, but I need answers, where I think our istoryan girls can shed a light to this... Boys or men can also give me your opinion or analysis on this matter..

[thedreamer]

bro playsafe pud ka.. try to do some smooth talks and moves... kausa ra ka dapat mohangyo niya..
basta mokuyog gani nmo lakaw mao na.. signs gani kay when she taps you sa shoulder ganahan na cya nimo.

play it smooth bro, don't rush... :mrgreen:

[Col Center Trooper]

Thanks bro for your insights..

I really believe on the saying... "Ayaw padala sa tama^"... honestly wala kaau ko totally na affected... pero of course, as a man... It's different when you are courting a not so pretty girl or a girl that is really HOT....

If we make a move on a normal simple girl, usually we can take control on our mind and emotion... but the prettier and hotter the girl, the closer we are on the verge of insanity...

But the question is... ngano pa huwat huwaton paman kaha ko nya ug pila ka months?

Perhaps na anad man gud ko... if sugot, sugot dayon... if mo ingon dili, dili na pod ko... Well, perhaps pod she maintained a little conservative... she's only 21 and she's living outside of cebu or any metropolitan city...

[Velvett]

here's the whole summarized story:
The girl:

Physical appearance rating: 7.6

*where 1.0 is the lowest, 10.0 is the highest

ikaw bro asa sad ka in a scale of 1-10?

[Col Center Trooper]

lisod man pag describe bro... heheheh

Lets just say that above average, dili unattractive, pero dili pod pang Starstruck....

Dili na makaya sa ako powers ang above level 9.0 na girl.... 8.0... suicidal mission cguro...hehehe

[Velvett]

a 10 but perfectly dumb, okay ra ka?

na distract lang ko sa physical beauty rating scale.

[ajol]

naglibog na ang girl......

naa siguro na uyab or nanguyab or ex na nguyab balik.....

[Isteb]

ALRIGHT. this is going into "lets just be friends" zone.

here's the thing. you showed too much interest in her before she even earned it.

have you seen the movie "stardust"? yes, you may love her, but what has she shown YOU to show SHE loves YOU?

you asked her if it was okay to court her. bro, that is one AWKWARD conversation topic. a real conversation KILLER. these things are never discussed. nuh-uh. it'll look like you are trying too hard, which will make the whole interaction more awkward.

and no. when she says "you are too good for her" i'm sorry to say, she doesn't mean that. what she means is that she wants you to back off and give her space, or go away, but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings either.

the fact that you are wasting away wondering if she likes you, shows how difficult it will be for you to progress from "just friends". now this may be cute back in elemntary or highschool but at your age, it'll only be super dork lame.

and NEVER EVER BEG. ayaw ug hangyo. that is way too pathetic. do that if she's leaving you and you guys are already married. but i don't think you'll have to worry about that, eh?

Dili na makaya sa ako powers ang above level 9.0 na girl.... 8.0... suicidal mission cguro...hehehe

you're putting the girl on a pedestal.

you treat her as if she were some kind of goddess, and aside from her being physically attractive, she hasn't done anything yet to show she deserves it.

i'm sorry to say bro, i don't think it is she who is insecure, i think it is YOU.

[simoncpu]

I dunno... while I understand that different guys have different approaches when it comes to love, I think it's a big no-no to court a girl, especially that you have expressed your intentions months before. I am pasting my thoughts on this subject, which I have discussed before:

The most common mistake that us guys make is that we think we can win a girl's heart by giving her flowers, teddy bears, and text messages. In some cases it works (esp. if the girl is still in her adolescence), but in most cases, it simply doesn't. This courting ritual invokes behavior that will make it harder to win the girl's heart. Depending on the girl's personality, past experiences, and environmental influences, the girl will follow social norms so she will purposely play hard to get; or she will feel awkward and will not appreciate your presence, creating the opposite reaction that you were expecting. Oftentimes, however, the girl will unconsciously think that you are "buying" her with your expensive gifts and will feel repulsed by such move.

There you have it. Just stop courting her, and just go with the flow. Look for "openings" as you go, and use your magic when you find one.

[ simon.cpu ]

[simoncpu]

ALRIGHT. this is going into "lets just be friends" zone.

here's the thing. you showed too much interest in her before she even earned it.

have you seen the movie "stardust"? yes, you may love her, but what has she shown YOU to show SHE loves YOU?

...when she says "you are too good for her" i'm sorry to say, she doesn't mean that. what she means is that she wants you to back off and give her space, or go away, but she doesn't want to hurt your feelings either.

I have to say that I agree with him. It is life's big irony that most girls are unable to discern the difference between price and value. Don't be that guy who waited for her girl for a couple of years but had his heart shattered into pieces when he found out that the girl he was courting with slept with a stranger that the girl only knew a few days before...

[ simon.cpu ]