Emotional Investments

[zyLe]

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i do value emotional investment coz i myself is hooked up on this...

[negative_IQ]

mo abot man ang time na sayangan ka gud.. dli man ma pugngan kay ma hadlok ka masakitan ang inyo partner

[P-Chan]

kato pag ila.. kay i think dinha man ni sugod ang tanan..

[pawiks78]

1st thing is to use ur head and 2nd na ang heart para wala regrets at the end

[kenart]

i've invested a lot on a five-year relationship only to break it and start on a new path with someone nga ni-invest pud ko ug friendship for five years, im happier now, mas kaila ko sa akong current bf before na-kami

[b|tcH_g0dd3sS]

when u say emotional investment, what does that mean? i mean really, i don't get it. *mind lag* :mrgreen:

hello Luthienne,

If I'm not mistaken, emotional investment is similar to emotional intimacy. When we spend quality time with our partners, when we share personal information, when we exchange ideas and opinions and we set "talk times: - those times we spend on the phone talking about each other's day, how it went we are slowly builiding an emotional foundation which will help us see our partners as our close friends, someone we can trust and thus we look forward to spending time together.

I believe the more we spend time, information and whatever else, the more invested we are emotionally to our partners and to the relationship.

[KaTzKi]

i invested a 10yr friendship wit my current bf.. tis a big risk since i also dun wanna end up losin him as a friend if ever things wun workout for us.. but then again, what can i say? i've been lovin the guy in silence n now that he's finally mine.. jes can't let this pass..

[splendid moonlight]

that's cool, katzki. : )

@ b|tcH_g0dd3sS: thanks. : )

Do you value or give importance to emotional investments?

now that i know what emotional investment is, i do value it and give it importance. we do not invest ourselves emotionally unless we do not see anything in the other person that is of some importance to us and from whom a great number of things can be learned. but we do not completely hold the decision when to value a person or not. sometimes we just find ourselves doing so. right now, my investment would depend upon what i could afford of myself to give. this want for limitation does not mean i value the investment any less. i wonder if that made sense to anyone reading.

"i can't give any more of my soul away,
and still look at myself in the mirror everyday.
i can't take any more of what makes me feel myself,
and still have enough left not to be somebody else."

[azyle21]

emotional investment... hmm... i-value gud na nimu... and i agree with LUTHIENNE... a person will not give up his/her innerself if he/she did not see something great, ahead.

in a relationship you have to give (ang uban moderately and uban todo2x) it depends on how much a person is willing to give, intimacy and growth, love and understanding, passion and yourself, basically. Needed man gud na too have a wonderful relationship. My bf right now is worth all the emotional investments i gave... GRABEH ang interest.

[shimiyu]

reviving this thread up.. oomph.


I tend to choose friendship and platonic intimacy first before any serious relationship can begin.
Starting a romantic relationship with an acquaintance or a surface-chat friend is too risky for me.