My Friend Is Having An Affair...

[cj_mysunshine]

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Hi pipz. I have a problem, actually not mine but because shes my best friend, i would say i want to help her out. I need your opinion.

Shes on her early 30's already but she is still single & she is having a relationship with a married man. She knows that he is married. The man is based in Manila though. If he gets to have some business here in Cebu, he stays for 3-4 days in a hotel & she stays with him, as in literally spends the night with him. They work during the day & he picks her up at work & goes out for dinner then goes straight to the hotel where he is staying. They act like husband & wife but when he leaves back for Manila, she stays behind. They normally see each other every 2 months, either he comes to Cebu or she goes to Manila. What i don't like is that, when its time for them to leave, i always find her sad, alone, staring at an empty corner, aborido ug ulo, sometimes crying, etc. Maluoy ko niya but i see her that shes happy & all when they are together.

What do you think should i do to help her out? What do you think should i say to ease out her pain?

[vipetesz]

grabe ha.naa ra man na imo best friend kung makaya niya nga ing ana pirme iya situation.nahug man gud siya mga mistress.lisod gyud kung in love sad siya...ang iya lang huna hunaon unta ba iya dignity.pero uso na mana karon...hehehe

[rednjep]

give her a date...

eheemmm..ehemm..

[vesper13]

Let her be...she's already in her 30's..she knows what she's doing...and she is very much in love...just imagine this...put yourself in her place ...you're very much in love with the guy na married pud.....with that situation ...way makapugong nimo, you won't even listen to reason...so....just let her be with her affairs of the heart..its her choice...just be there for her as a friend...


funny...nitubag pud ko no...dapat didto di ay ni sa Relationship forums...hehehehe

[lanze ymeer]

Falling in love with the wrong person isn't easy ... Just tell her not to expect too much with that relationship. Time will come that she really has to choose between staying & letting go. Well, unless the man would really leave his wife for her. Btw, does the guy have kids? Another thing, tell her to be careful coz she might get pregnant, the more na jud na siya manghinoktok unya. Dili baya na lalim ang status sa mistress coz the mistress gets to know everything about what the guys family is doing & the asa manglakaw, unsay mga actibidadis while the wife doesn't know anything. Anything as in what the husband is doing. So ang tendency is your friend would feel insecure knowing all thats happening with the guys family. Thats probably why you see her crying or staring.

Just be there as a friend, listen to what she has to say. Let it be kasakit or kalipay niya ...

[clarkhkent]

naa koy kaila ingon ana sad iyahang story ang nka apan lang kay ang guy naa sa amerika...so once a year ra gyud sila magkita, then ang asawa sa guy(legal) naa ra didto sa amerika, i dont know kn aware ba ang asawa sa guy...until one time na mabdos ang akong kaila and ang amahan dili katong guy nga taga amerika kon dili lain...which happen to be taga manila(utro pud nga minyo)...so karon ok ra man ghapon ilang relationship sa akong frend ug katong iyang lovers nga taga amerika...pinangga sad ang bata...so iyang gihimo karon total naa man cyay anak iyang na lang gi focus iyang self sa trabaho and murag na lingaw na lang sad cya sa iyang anak....

nganong ako ning gi share coz pare pareha ra man gud ning storyaha....ang akong frend ok na cya karon....and i hope maka panaminan ni sa uban nga naay pareha ani nga problema...

[cj_mysunshine]

give her a date...

eheemmm..ehemm..

hhmmm ... ikaw rednjep pwede ka? .... ok ra nimo 30 kapin naman ni sya ...

[jheartfred]

since wala pa xa ni seek sa imo advice or help dn just let it be... but be their wn she needs a shulder to cry and an ear dat listens.. dont ever use the i told you so line if ever nakatambag na ka niya b4....

if shes fine with it then there is nothing rung wd her.. just tell her wat she shud expect as a kabit..

[cj_mysunshine]

@ vipetesz: in love jud sya, 1 year kapin naman gud sila. Bitaw, uso naman na karon. Maluoy lang ko when she starts crying na .


@ lanze ymeer: yes, the guy has 2 kids both girls. The guy wants to have a baby with her gyud hinuon. She said, ok ra niya para lang jud dili mawala ang lalaki niya.

The guy is very caring towards her, i have seen how he treats her. I can really see how much the guy loves my friend. He even keeps asking her "san ka kase nagtago dati, nun naghahanap pa ako ng mapapangasawa ko .." hehehe

[jheartfred]

with regards to the caring xempre mao jud na kay he gets the cookie in return mn.. but for love i doubt if its for real.. if it is then its forbidden love..