Emotional Investments

[vladmire]

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everything is well explained... i prefer the long term goal

[oblationkid]

life is full of risk, and that includes in investing one's emotion.
there is nothing wrong wt being a risk-taker, or a not being a risk taker. after all, it boils down to one's personality.

but as for me, there is no assurance that holding back of one's feelings guarantees emotional security; thus a friendship status first before getting romantically involved.

i believe that it is about being ready and have the essence of full acceptance in anything that will happen to you...whether that is coming from a risk taker or a non-risk taker style. coz either way, rest assured pain and hurts will always be there. it doesnt mean that less emotional investment quantifies less pain and possibility of getting hurt. whether it is less or more...that is still pain; still a negative feeling that lives within.

as long as you are happy, your conscience is clear....then do whatever it takes. this is part of growing after all. ayaw lang pagpakasala ha. hehe.

[zyLe]

I am someone who invests so much in emotions.. I always give my all in every relationship i'm in.. I know its not healthy but well, what can I do - its just my being.. I just can't help it..

but thru the relationships I've been, i've learned to leave someting for myself and i'm glad I learned how to handle emotional investment well enough to have a profit..

answering your q re 'more memories or the lesser one', it basically depends on the situation, coz I've been i a relationship wherein I invested all of me but it didnt turned out well! I tried to convince myself to live with it because I already have given much for the relationship and the so-called-friendship has been a very strong foundation that it'd be too pathetic just to leave it all behind, but then I realized, it was more pathetic of me to stay in a relationship where 70% of the memories were all in pain with only 30% of happiness that leaves me with o% sanity... so I braved myself and left and tried to open my heart to new one..

and yes it did made me happier than I was and now, I'm at my happiest...

[shaxyra]

..i never invest on something unless i know it's a sure win.. so it goes when i love.. i never take risks.. because the first time i invested.. i failed.. so bad that it took so much time for recovery..

[legal_cd]

emotional investments is a heck of a capital too hard to be forgotten and risked

[glaeken]

Pretty costly if you ask me, but if the persons worth it then why not ... as long as you keep something for yourself so that the moment things get shaky you wont lose your sanity.

Am one of those people who invest on emotions especially with people I care about ... I tread carefully around it knowing fully well that its gonna cost me my sanity and who knows how many hours of crying toinks ....

As they say better to have loved (char!!!) and lost than to have never loved at all ...

- Cant believe I just said that - whew!

[andch81]

tried this..esp im a giver when m inlove..i see to it that i give coz i want my love to have the best.. but it would really be ahrd esp if u gve evrythng and not knowing u left nothing for urself just incase they leave you..so u got nothing to start all over again coz uve already given ur all..huhuhu