Love VS. Parents and the like

[franz]

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naglisod ko sabot sa imong post... but as i have understand... naay gusto ipa-kasal ang parents sa imong BF nga laing girl sa iya. so gusto na mo mag live-in?
well, those are just part of your trials for a much bigger trial kung married na mo, how does he makes his decisions kung siya man gani ang "father" to your family...

decide mu mag-livein... are you 22 years old or younger? don't get offended but i don't suggest... kasagaran, those age are impulsive... especially of same age mo.. unless mas mature na ang guy and is way "richer"...

do you belong to at least class A or B family? if mu-puyo mo sa imong parents and imong parents bayad all your bills, food, etc... then way problem how much are you both earning monthly? me and my gf's combined earnings are around roughly 35 to 40 thousand net(minus tax, other deductions, etc) monthly. believe me, this is just enough for a single life(unless wa na moy plano mag-outing, celebrate ug mga anniv, bday, etc) and gamay ra imong ma-ipon.. ug unless wa moy plano mag-ka-anak... did you know that baby needs around 2,500.00 worth of milk/per month.. wala pa apil ang diapers... do you know that if cesarian ka manganak then you need to spend around 60thou para sa operation and etc... if di pa ninyo kaya then ayaw mo anak or mag-suffer lang kamo ug inyong anak!

you can also refer to this thread kung unsay comfortable nga earnings sa mga tawo para ma-buhi, http://forums.istorya.net/viewtopic.php?t=30068

well, some say LOVE is everything, "money is nothing", hehehe ... naa ra gihapon nimo ang decision as they said bitaw... nabuhi man gani ang driver nga daghan pa anak

[initium]

hi marvy_love! first, let me rephrase your topic "is it a right decision to live in with ur bf because you are afraid of the girl that flirt your bf and his parents wanted him to marry that girl?" i hope i get it right. well, live in is not really a right decision. you are just adding problem to your problem. what if during live in your bf lost his love to you leaving you preggy. who will end up "kawawa". temptation is always present in every relationship marvy_love but because of true love, faithfullness will follow. since he is the male, it's a lesser possibility that his parents can't force him to marry that girl. why not wait for right time when you and your bf are stable emotionally and financially?

[roselyn]

that's life..If i were you let your boyfriend decide for that way, don't be in a hurry girl because that might lead to your suffer both jud ninyo duha.. Even neighbor pana sila but if he always puts himself that he really loves you then no problem anymore. Thinking about the arrangement of their parents it's simple as easy , i know parents will try to understand the feelings of their son or their daughter then if he wants to fight you then he can..100% agree jud ko ani..I've already read a novel like this solve man lagi! even in the hardest part of relationship mahumok ra jud na and parents.. Parents will do the best for their kids....Now, if you think of yourself na mabuhi naka it's not really enough.If you think about marry prepare for your future, having a kids sending them to school, giving them what they want..As we can see too many beggars now in the street oh,mao na coz other person magdali-dali man ang biga nag awas2s na!..that's the outcomes, luoy kaau ang baby..Your boyfriend really knows about this and i hope you too.. Wait the right time, if mabuntis niya ang girl na iyang neighbor na niflirt niya that's means di jud siya kontento nimu...
hahay..
ibuzz nalang ko ni oi..kapoy na explain
si boy abunda na ani!!

[P-Chan]

maybe it's just your imagination.. lolz.. well anyway if you're getting married that gotta count for something...

[vlad]

i understand how u feel... u decided to live with him bec of his situation... if he really loves u, he wont give in to the temptations around him... but like wat iv said, i understand how u feel... just be sure enough to pay for the rental, i-prioritize jud na. mao gud na inyong "shield and armor"... 2nd na nang food.. u can always ask for food but never for shelter

[jong]

I've been having a hard time dealing with this kind of problem...my bf and i are more than 1 year old already just hiding our relationship from my parents but on his side no problem at all...i feel that im betraying my parents and i kept on lying just to keep our relationship continue despite of this matter my bf still supports and loves me eventhough it's unfair on his part..i don't want to choose whether my parents or him becoz i love them both...

[roselyn]

if they are right then i'll follow them but if my boyfriend is not a kidnapper or anything that makes him bad, there's nothing wrong with that. We know that parents do what's the best for us, for our future and all the stuffs but in this matter we should think it twice..
if possible your parents still disagree about your relationship even the guy is very good, that's the time you should be close to your parents and try to explain them..Make them your bestfriends, with that it can be easily to handle..trust me..parents is always a parents..

[P-Chan]

what are you afraid of in the first place?

[roselyn]

that's a good question...

[jong]

My parents has those misconceptions with my bf which is not right! I'm not really afraid in the first place, it's dat my parents won't understand bcoz they believe that what i'm doing is not right so in other words they already judged my bf eventhough they don't know the true personality of his...I know him much already since we're close with each other and i know the misconceptions they have is absolutely not right!.....My parents is somewhat stubborn they only believe on their own beliefs...as if they don't want to listen to me....