Do's and Don'ts for a Good Relationship?

[P-Chan]

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1. Be Together For the Right Reasons
2. Have Realistic Expectations About Relationships and Romance
3. The Most Important Factor in a Relationship is Not Communication, But Respect
4. Talk Openly About Everything, Especially the Stuff That Hurts
5. A Healthy Relationship Means Two Healthy Individuals
6. Give Each Other Space
7. You and Your Partner Will Grow and Change in Unexpected Ways; Embrace It
8. Get Good at Fighting
9. Get Good at Forgiving
10. The Little Things Add Up to Big Things
11. S** Matters… A Lot.
12. Be Practical, and Create Relationship Rules
13. Learn to Ride the Waves




note on #8

Never insult or name-call your partner. Put another way: hate the sin, love the sinner. “contempt” — belittling and demeaning your partner — is the number one predictor of divorce.

Do not bring previous fights/arguments into current ones. This solves nothing and just makes the fight twice as bad as it was before. Yeah, you forgot to pick up groceries on the way home, but what does him being rude to your mother last Thanksgiving have to do with anything?

If things get too heated, take a breather. Remove yourself from the situation and come back once emotions have cooled off a bit.

Remember that being “right” is not as important as both people feeling respected and heard. You may be right, but if you are right in such a way that makes your partner feel unloved, then there’s no real winner.

[joziliciousbelle]

COMMUNICATE!!! pina ka no. 1 na angay buhaton sa usa relationship, not only as married couples but as boyfriends and girlfriends as well ♥

[P-Chan]

-NEVER talk s*** about your partner or complain about them to your friends. If you have a problem with your partner, you should be having that conversation with them, not with your friends. Talking bad about them will erode your respect for them and make you feel worse about being with them, not better.

-Respect that they have different hobbies, interests and perspectives from you. Just because you would spend your time and energy differently, doesn’t mean it’s better/worse.

-Respect that they have an equal say in the relationship, that you are a team, and if one person on the team is not happy, then the team is not succeeding.

-No secrets. If you’re really in this together and you respect one another, everything should be fair game. Have a crush on someone else? Discuss it. Laugh about it. Had a weird s**ual fantasy that sounds ridiculous? Be open about it. Nothing should be off-limits.

[joziliciousbelle]

see note #3... hahahaha

Ayaw ko labda chan! hahaha kay mao nay gi wali sa pari pag kasal namo! hahaha

[P-Chan]

Ayaw ko labda chan! hahaha kay mao nay gi wali sa pari pag kasal namo! hahaha

the 5 C speech?

[cptn_star]

1. Be Together For the Right Reasons
2. Have Realistic Expectations About Relationships and Romance
3. The Most Important Factor in a Relationship is Not Communication, But Respect
4. Talk Openly About Everything, Especially the Stuff That Hurts
5. A Healthy Relationship Means Two Healthy Individuals
6. Give Each Other Space
7. You and Your Partner Will Grow and Change in Unexpected Ways; Embrace It
8. Get Good at Fighting
9. Get Good at Forgiving
10. The Little Things Add Up to Big Things
11. S** Matters… A Lot.
12. Be Practical, and Create Relationship Rules
13. Learn to Ride the Waves




note on #8

Never insult or name-call your partner. Put another way: hate the sin, love the sinner. “contempt” — belittling and demeaning your partner — is the number one predictor of divorce.

Do not bring previous fights/arguments into current ones. This solves nothing and just makes the fight twice as bad as it was before. Yeah, you forgot to pick up groceries on the way home, but what does him being rude to your mother last Thanksgiving have to do with anything?

If things get too heated, take a breather. Remove yourself from the situation and come back once emotions have cooled off a bit.

Remember that being “right” is not as important as both people feeling respected and heard. You may be right, but if you are right in such a way that makes your partner feel unloved, then there’s no real winner.

sa mga kabataan karon ang #11 ra gyd ilang nasabtan. lol

[luff101]

Do, make Him the center of your relationship
Don't invest too much emotion.

[xxkatgorgeousxx]

Do: communicate
Don't: lie

[princize]

more effort less expectations

[P-Chan]

more effort lest expectations

sample daw... hehehe