A Mother of Illegitimate Child Demand for Financial Support

[quezych]

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I just want to ask help for my child's case. I am from Cebu, I met her father in my place February 2011. We were together for almost 2years. I knew he was married and has 2 children in Manila when we were in a relationship, he said they were separated since his wife had third party issue. I was blinded and foolishly in love with him so I risk everything and thought come what may. (Nabuang Jud sa gugmang giatay)
A year after our relationship I got pregnant. That time when I gave birth October 24, 2012, he wanted me to bring our daughter's last name with his surname, but my parents won't allow because his married and they afraid his wife might know about our child and sue me. So I decided to follow my parents will. My daughter bringing my surname now, so basically she's illegitimate in her birth certificate. That time every month he was supporting our child financially by sending through my daughter's bank account every 15th and 30th of the month, also buying things for my child and visiting at the house every payday. During the first year of our baby it was continuously support every payday. A week before my child's 1st birthday I found out he had other mistress, I really caught him in his place when I visited. Grave among away a to, but before that na a pakoy nahbaw an pero that time it was the very intense one Kay nakakita Jud ko. Shit! Wa pa nakontento nako naay main na mistress. That time, I stopped everything between us and I just asked support for our child. He said that time "Ayaw kabalaka dili nako kalimtan ang akong obligasyon sa akong anak". It's been 2 years that I received every 15th and 30th of the month financial support, eventhough were no longer together. The last money that was transferred in my baby's account, a month after her 2nd birthday, November 2014. I found out he went back to Manila and his back again with his wife and kids. Last September 2015, it was the last transaction I had with my baby's savings and just left 67pesos and was hoping his father might send money on her account.

Now I am in UAE working, to support my child's needs. I was supposed to send money but unfortunately I cannot send money since the bank closed the account. It has been inactive for 7 months and didn't meet their minimum monthly ADB requirement 500, if it is below their required balance they will close the account. My child is now years old, she will start to go to school this June as nursery.

How can I ask again financial support to my child? I tried to message him but I didn't receive reply. I want it to be legal this time to secure my child's future. How can I file a case? Can I file a case even if he was not in the birth certificate of our child? We never had again relationship for almost 3 years. Is it possible that his wife can file a case against me as well? I have his pictures during the Christening and the bank account of my child can I use it as evidence that he really recognized my child? Can I ask to the bank a Statement of account even if the account was already closed?

Please enlighten me and tell me what's the best thing to do, I want to fight for my daughter's right for her future.

[AggreXor]

This is a tough one. Im no lawyer so I cannot help you with the legal side of things. Pero maam, I had an aunt who was in a similar situation with you, and what she did was to support the kid on her own. I think mas blessed pa gani ka kay you are working abroad na mas dako ang sweldo, siya kay teacher ra. Gamay ra kaayo ang sweldo.

As for talking with the guy, lisod jud ang online message. Best is magkatime ka to talk to him personally.

Lastly, we greatly respect people like you na ghuna huna ang future sa anak. Pray lang para gaan ka ni Lord ug strength. Everything will be alright.

[volatile8]

This is a tough one. Im no lawyer so I cannot help you with the legal side of things. Pero maam, I had an aunt who is in a similar situation with you, and what she did is to support the kid on her own. I think mas blessed pa gani ka kay you are working abroad na mas dako ang sweldo, siya kay teacher ra. Gamay ra kaayo ang sweldo.

As for talking with the guy, lisod jud ang online message. Best is magkatime ka to talk to him personally.

Lastly, we greatly respect people like you na ghuna huna ang future sa anak. Pray lang para gaan ka ni Lord ug strength. Everything will be alright.

I agree. If you can still support for your kid alone then do it. Lisud man sad gud if wala sa bata ang last name sa papa. Evidences like pictures pag bunyag might not be enough. I hope you'll have a positive outcome about this and I hope there are people from this forum who has the know-how's regarding the matter nga maka advice nimo. I also have a son, he'll be turning 2 next month, he's bearing his father's last name, we're not married, but I won't ask my son's father to support him. Not unless it's his own common sense doing it. Unfortunately, I know he doesn't have one so I don't expect it anyway. God bless you and your family ma'am

[quezych]

This is a tough one. Im no lawyer so I cannot help you with the legal side of things. Pero maam, I had an aunt who was in a similar situation with you, and what she did was to support the kid on her own. I think mas blessed pa gani ka kay you are working abroad na mas dako ang sweldo, siya kay teacher ra. Gamay ra kaayo ang sweldo.

As for talking with the guy, lisod jud ang online message. Best is magkatime ka to talk to him personally.

Lastly, we greatly respect people like you na ghuna huna ang future sa anak. Pray lang para gaan ka ni Lord ug strength. Everything will be alright.

Thank you kaau sa reply sir, yes I can support my child's needs but nahan ko lectionan ang mga lalaki nga ingana na after mamabdosan ang babae wala nay pakabana sa ilang anak. Hayahay ra kayo xa sa iyang life tapos ang iyang anak wala na gani xa physically wala juy support gikan niya.. Among nahan ko e legal para maka amgo xa og dili xa kalimot sa iyang obligasyon. After xa nagpalami maau karon kalit nalang kawala hayahay ra xa!!

[quezych]

I agree. If you can still support for your kid alone then do it. Lisud man sad gud if wala sa bata ang last name sa papa. Evidences like pictures pag bunyag might not be enough. I hope you'll have a positive outcome about this and I hope there are people from this forum who has the know-how's regarding the matter nga maka advice nimo. I also have a son, he'll be turning 2 next month, he's bearing his father's last name, we're not married, but I won't ask my son's father to support him. Not unless it's his own common sense doing it. Unfortunately, I know he doesn't have one so I don't expect it anyway. God bless you and your family ma'am

Thank you mam for taking the time to reply my post. As far as akong nabasahan sa mga blog, even wala madala ang ang last name as long as e recognize sa lalaki like naay mga proofs na iyang GI recognize then pwede man daw maka demand. Ako ra ask if pila sad kaha e take ana Kong file case og unsao. Hope naay maka help Jud nako dri maka advise og legal Jud.

In your case kailangan Jud demand ka mam support Kay mag anad ng mga laki nga ingana, luoy sad ang sunod na mabiktima. Wala man sila ma priso at least USA nami sa lection nila sa ilang gibuhat. Hayahay rajud mga laki nga ingani after human sa lami byaan na dayon ang ilang obligasyon.

Mora ranag naka patay og tao ang suspect sugot diay kag walay hustisya ang gbuhat sa biktima. Og course ang pamilya sa biktima ngita Jud way na naay justice ang gihimo sa victim.

Maong nahan ko e legal Kay para ma obliged xa bahalag wala xa physically nga mangamahan at least di xa kalimot sa obligasyon.

[AggreXor]

@quezych wala ka kaila na atty maam? kay it would be very costly pag wla ka kaila na atty.

[quezych]

@quezych wala ka kaila na atty maam? kay it would be very costly pag wla ka kaila na atty.

Naa man ko kaila na Atty but lagi lisod man e explain labi na naa ko Dubai maong ako plan pag Nana ko pinas balik I'll file a case

[THE KID]

so daog na?

[kitkabloey]

pwede ra na nimo ipa agi og VAWC.. pero no need na nga ma push jud nimo og pa priso, inig agi ninyo og conciliation, anha na i sulti nga gusto kag support gikan niya..

syempre musugot jud na siya, kay di man ganahan ma priso..

[666satan]

Naa man ko kaila na Atty but lagi lisod man e explain labi na naa ko Dubai maong ako plan pag Nana ko pinas balik I'll file a case

gather lang jd ka og mga documents..pwede pd na ipa apil ang atty. fee....