Hanging-out with an ex

[ajaepm]

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Unsa man ang sagaran topics sa una nga pagkita sa imong ex when you've decided to continue with the friendship?
Kumusta ang inyong experience? Unsa man ang i-avoid? Unsa man ang factors sa successful mingling of two exes to nurture friendship?

Will meet up my husband and my kids next month, my husband and I decided to focus on our friendship. (annulment is ongoing. I denied the annulment). Dili gyud ko ginahan magbulag mi. Pero naghinay hinay na ko ug himo sa closure.
Gusto nako nga ma-enjoy namo ang pag stay namo usab sa among conjugal house (i'll stay there for 7 days).
Goal: Mag enjoy mi and at the same time, naay healthy closure... unsaon man?
Please advice.

[care_bear]

Kumplikado ni sis da ky naa mga bata. Pila na age inyo mga anak?
Sorry for my asking. But pwede mahibaw sa reason sa annulment? So sya ang ni file sa annulment?
Sa tym nag stay ka sa conjugal house, where mn ga stay imo mga anak ug imo hubby? Can u provide some details more? Lisud mn e-advice kng kulang ang infos. gud..hehe

[Butitor]

Louya dgway sa inyong anak mo fall into believing na minyo pa mo....

[THE KID]

Ataya nganung PG13 raman tawn to ang EX with Benifits oi.....

[chocofudge]

Lisoda gud ana na situation if ako guro ana
i will asked him sincerely wala na bah jud
chance pwed ma mend ang relationship,
og tanang rason nganu dko gusto makgbuwag.
Murag mao jud ng time ma TS na mka
hart to hart talk jud mo.

[im_ur_girl1984]

ka relate ko ani somehow TS.. but di mi minyo sa father sa ako baby nya 2 yrs old palng sad amo anak..

kahibaw nko nga naa sya bag-o uyab ug kahibaw pud sya nga naa ko ka chat after namo magbuwag pero kada uli niya gikan gawas (ofw man sya) mulaag sya among balay nga ako girentahan to see our son.. well 2 yrs old pamn amo anak murag wa pa alamag sa amo sitwasyon but my son can identify him na.. magsturya rami bahin sa bata, sungogon nko sa iyang uyab..hehehe pero ichange topic man niya..

so kung para closure na jud na, just talk bout the kids and ur plans for them, play with ur kids as a family or suroy2 ba kaha mo mangaon.. ayaw nlang hisgut ug third party (iyang uyab or imong uyab).. and control jud kung mgpakita ug sweetness ky mao jud na atong weakness..hehehe (well we can't help usahay nga naa jud mahitabo) ky naa sad baya moy pinagsamahan pero ayaw lang dibdiba kay kahibaw na baya ta nga nana sya lain.. masakitan lang ka kung tagaan nimog meaning..

i hope it ends well with you and your ex TS.. best of luck..

[luff101]

Curios lng ko ts ngano d i?

Luoya pud tawn sa inyo kids ts oi..

[gibra'al]

hanging out with an ex? jst last sunday lang. aw!


onT:
only time can tell. di man guro na nimo maahat. kung di kaya sa buot, ayg pugsa. pero atleast be civil lang sa iyaha.

why are you declining the annulment? what's holding you back? do you still love your husband? or gisayangan lang ka sa time nga nainvest na ninyong duha?

are the kids aware sa inyong situation? if not, it's best to let the kids know. just be gentle with them in addressing it.
if concern ninyo ang mga bata, pwede rman guro na ninyo sabutan like half a week adto sila sa ilang dad, then the other half ky mg.stay sila sa imuha.

guuurrl, you deserve to be happy. don't spend your remaining years on wallowing over something nga dili na worth it. pangita'g laki! or kaha experiment ba ka'g same-sx! haha. it'll be an ego boost sa imong soon-to-be ex-hubby if you choose to be miserable sa imong life. nya, sugot ka ana? pildi naka daan kung mao man gani na.

if it's not working, then it's best to let go. it will not be easy for sure, but hopefully you'll be able to cope up with it.

[ajaepm]

thank you sa mga replies. it is giving me a perspective. i am denying the annulment because true man gyud ang among kasal. Naay kasal ug naay marriage nga nahitabo for more than a decade now. i know lang what i really want in life and who i really am. i am just hoping and praying always that my kids won't grow up hating me. I hope they will understand that i have to move here in Cebu para dili ko maboang dealing with their dad and the fact that i am losing my self-worth and self-identity. it might sound selfish but it is for the best of all. at least, buhi ko... longer... and whole.

[gibra'al]

maintain lng guro constant communication sa imong kids. never underestimate what a person can do, miskan bana pana nimo or unsa. wa ta kahibaw basin i-brainwash nya or unsa.


tbh, one sided rman ni nga story. wa mi kahibaw sa side sa pikas. hehe.
kinsa diay sad.an? ikaw or ang hubby? and unsay cause aning rift between you two?