Naay blindspot ila relationship so even if unsa pa nimo ka loyal or serious sa usa ka tao di jud ma avoid na sudden outburst of emotional energy. There are deep rooted issues sa ila relationship na wala nila gi confront jud ug maau instead of magpa council and therapy silang duha plus e-add pa nimo nang influence sa society about "third parties" and "concubinage" then result jud ni siya ug fight or flight. At the end of the day dili sad ta ka blame nila if mao na ang outcome sa ila relationship because that was a decisive choice no matter how stupid it would look to others. The same with the tragic story of Romeo and Juliet. They love each other but at the end were ruined because their assumptions and fantasy took them to another level of neurosis.