Psychologist? Any recommendations? Badly need help.

[mik0y]

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Akong bf niingon nko kelangan daw sya counselling. He's very private, di kaau tig storya and a lot is going in right now sa iya life. Basin nahan sya ug lain kastorya aside nko ug iya family, from a different perspective.

Please suggest. Wa jud koy idea knsa nindut na psychologist. Kanang dli judgmental ug maminaw jd sa patient. Thanks in advice.

Hi TS,

I used to work in the academe as a Guidance Counselor and a Psychology Instructor. and I know people in the field (Counselors and Psychologists) who can help you. Anyway, in my humble opinion, don't go to a Psychologists or a Psychiatrist right away. Makagasto ka dayon ana.

If you're BF is still a student, I suggest you make him go to your School Counselor first nya pangita'g adept in Counseling. Mas maayo if licensed. Kay kung bug-at ra kaayo ang issue for a Guidance Counselor, ipasa man jud mo niya ug laing health professional kay standard procedure na cya (e.g. Psychologist). In that way makasave pa mo nya possibly maulian ra ang imong BF samot na'g well-implemented and well-planned ang iyang intervention program.

But kung bug-at ang issue, pag una lang ug Psychologist vs. Psychiatrist. Namention naman sa uban ngano, but in addition lang, ang latter man gud muissue na ug medications nya basin mada ra diay ug psychotherapy. Madoble ra ang inyong gasto. Basta iresearch lang ang nakalahi ana nila (e.g. Counseling Psychologist vs. Clinical Psychologist ug Psychologist vs. Psychiatrist).

Lastly, kasagaran na makit-an nimo online kay mga mahal ang hourly rate (e.g. P1,500/hour or more), naa ko'y nailhan na Clinical Psychologist na per session lang nya dili in-ana kadako. Adto nako irefer ang akong mga clients before. I hope wala cya nag usab sa iyang rates kay girefer ra man pud na cyas akong mga OJTs before. PM me for details.

Hope this helps.

[bleedingboi]

ask him to be an istoryan.. there are nice people here who are great listeners. perhaps that might suffice for the time being while you are looking for a professional.

Agree gyud ko. Dghan kau great "Listeners" dri. Labi na kung ang pasyente mu hisgot na ug religion.

[redemption32]

he needs a psychologist...
he will need a psychiatrist when it comes to a point that he needs medication to control certain behavior...this needs clinical diagnosis of a specific illness that's well out of our perceived normal...

I see. My mistake. I always thought that Psychologists are more on theory as the suffix "logy" suggests. And yeah, the subject will need counseling first before being referred to and treated by a Psychiatrist. A Psychologist can perform the counselling. Point taken.

Good luck TS!

[aimel88]

Akong bf niingon nko kelangan daw sya counselling. He's very private, di kaau tig storya and a lot is going in right now sa iya life. Basin nahan sya ug lain kastorya aside nko ug iya family, from a different perspective.

Please suggest. Wa jud koy idea knsa nindut na psychologist. Kanang dli judgmental ug maminaw jd sa patient. Thanks in advice.

pwede ra mn dili dayon ka mo derecho ug psych.. be observant s iyaha if you already know him dat well. i myself is mdyo the silent type, pero each of us has his own way of blurting out our distress/frustrations/failures ug uban pa!

i have a personal experience na dili jd ko tig share with family but adto ko frens or ilaag ko nlng or mg trip lol! btaw, it depends pud na sa iyaha environment if unsa--work and home. maybe he is not comfy lng jd or he doesnt want na mdamay iyaha family sa iyaha prob, or maybe too delicate or too confidential ang iyaha prob na dili jd pwede nia i open up with anyone but himself.. dako kaau ug i consider gd before anything else. its a process sad to work out.

have u thought unsa iyaha history? this is one of the major reasons for unsa ang present db? hehe for how long have you known him? this matters sad.. ng tink pd ko, if dili kaau xa tig strya, then what do you share mn d i? i mean the type of communication u have as partners? this is one cause to have a strong bond db?
bsta, try to initiate a much deeper understanding to try to penetrate him.. coz you will never understad the real him if dili ni xa ma achieve.. =)

[firestingerii]

I will recommend this book by Stephen Covey. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. To everyone even before we get into a situation to advise or need any advise. It will require us a mind changing concept to transcend our situation 1st before we advise or seek any advise from others. Understand that as adults we need to buy in to the other before we buy in to what they have to offer us. The principles of adult learning and influence can either build or destroy. I just stumbled on this thread and wish i have more time to help. I do Psychology and Philosophy. I appreciate so much the people who care about another without asking for anything in return. Let me quote Napoleon Hill when he said, "Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another." I can only hope that the person involved is doing well and will endure whatever he is going through. At the end of the day the choice is his to make and not ours.