Ganahan pa o dili na?

[kronouzgg]

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mao bitaw na ang lisod..wa tay gikuptan ba...naa man gd chance nga nakakita na gani ug lain..pero ihatag nalang gyud ang gusto.. ihatag ang gpangita

lagi bai haiz pero sure pud ko na wla pa siya nangita lain focus sa siya mu sulti man siya kung naa daw , pero d sa kuno jud. lisud kayo bai noh kanang di nimo ma tiis og text niya og chat hahaha.. mora mo buto imo dughan kapaetz

[dozen]

TS, in my opinion, both of you need to make it clear what you want, dapat clear sa imo what she wants, and clear sa iya what you want. when thats done, both of you need to talk on what you need. "Need" is different from "want"

Maybe all you need is time to mend some wounds. you want what best for her, right, and she wants whats best for you, that may be is the reason why naa sya "if mangita ka dapat ani.. ana.."

Open Communication is a prerequisite for a good relationship, communication starts with listening to each other. Don't try win her back, if she loves you, and you're still in love with her, she will run to you with open arms and legs and you should accept her with open arms. Instead of trying to win her back, start by being a friend to her by asking how her day was, anything exciting that happened, how was work, anything other than your relationship status, if you bring up your relationship status, it red flags and ruins your chances of having a good sensible mature conversation. For the meantime try to avoid sensitive topics such as relationships, bf, gf, anything about love.. this may trigger an automatic defence mechanism, that may cause further conflicts or arguements. Also try to avoid seeing and saying you miss each other, all the cheeezzy stuff, for the meantime. My meantime is roughly about 3-5days. When you're successfull in doing that, tell me what happens on the 6th day.

Don't throw out the question "if ganahan pa ba sya nga kamo or dili" to her, but rather show her nga ganahan pa ka nga kamo by letting her know that you are still there, considering above said advice... in short, panguyabi ug balik. Don't bombard her with questions that you know she doesn't have answers for...ayaw lang dyud kulita kay mabugahan ka ug kayo, lisod na.

Similar sa advice nako kang @kronouzgg on his thread, if nag bulag na mo give yourselves time for it to sink in. It would be harder for you if you didn't let it sink in. For this to work, hold all means of communication, until such time na you can say to yourself "I hope happy ra sya" or when you feel you are ready and free from heavy and clouded emotions and mind. In my opinion, its really difficult when you transition from GF Today - Friendzone Tomorrow. Give yourselves some time to accept what has happened.

When the time comes na both of you are in the same wavelength, and bedroom, then the rest of the good stuff will follow, and will unfold naturaly, and live happily ever after.

[ejsalilig]

If you're not happy with it anymore, just enjoy yourself with the company of other women.

[baboyitom]

lagi bai haiz pero sure pud ko na wla pa siya nangita lain focus sa siya mu sulti man siya kung naa daw , pero d sa kuno jud. lisud kayo bai noh kanang di nimo ma tiis og text niya og chat hahaha.. mora mo buto imo dughan kapaetz

maayo nuon nga wala pa sya kita ug lain..naa naman gd sya history gani nga inana..before sd parehas ghapon ang issue nga magsige kupot sa phone..sige gacheck sa phone...tungod diay naay nagparamdam lain.

[baboyitom]

TS, in my opinion, both of you need to make it clear what you want, dapat clear sa imo what she wants, and clear sa iya what you want. when thats done, both of you need to talk on what you need. "Need" is different from "want"

Maybe all you need is time to mend some wounds. you want what best for her, right, and she wants whats best for you, that may be is the reason why naa sya "if mangita ka dapat ani.. ana.."

Open Communication is a prerequisite for a good relationship, communication starts with listening to each other. Don't try win her back, if she loves you, and you're still in love with her, she will run to you with open arms and legs and you should accept her with open arms. Instead of trying to win her back, start by being a friend to her by asking how her day was, anything exciting that happened, how was work, anything other than your relationship status, if you bring up your relationship status, it red flags and ruins your chances of having a good sensible mature conversation. For the meantime try to avoid sensitive topics such as relationships, bf, gf, anything about love.. this may trigger an automatic defence mechanism, that may cause further conflicts or arguements. Also try to avoid seeing and saying you miss each other, all the cheeezzy stuff, for the meantime. My meantime is roughly about 3-5days. When you're successfull in doing that, tell me what happens on the 6th day.

Don't throw out the question "if ganahan pa ba sya nga kamo or dili" to her, but rather show her nga ganahan pa ka nga kamo by letting her know that you are still there, considering above said advice... in short, panguyabi ug balik. Don't bombard her with questions that you know she doesn't have answers for...ayaw lang dyud kulita kay mabugahan ka ug kayo, lisod na.

Similar sa advice nako kang @kronouzgg on his thread, if nag bulag na mo give yourselves time for it to sink in. It would be harder for you if you didn't let it sink in. For this to work, hold all means of communication, until such time na you can say to yourself "I hope happy ra sya" or when you feel you are ready and free from heavy and clouded emotions and mind. In my opinion, its really difficult when you transition from GF Today - Friendzone Tomorrow. Give yourselves some time to accept what has happened.

When the time comes na both of you are in the same wavelength, and bedroom, then the rest of the good stuff will follow, and will unfold naturaly, and live happily ever after.

she said, she was too dependent na gyud daw sa ako. mao she wants space for her to grow. for her to mature. gikapoy na daw siya sa sige ug away. balik2 lang ang issue..but before, inana sd iyang sulti tungod naa lain nanguyab sa iya..gbuwagan niya nibalik siya nako..mao na akong concern karon kung magpalayo ko niya totally. naay tendency gani moduwa sa lain..mura gani siya maganahan kung naay magparamdam niya. makalimtan dayon ko..4days na mi wa nagkita nya 2days walay commu.

[larisse]

so basin naay lain nagpa-heart2x sa iyang mata ron diay ts; ka sad ana for you oi...

ayaw na lang ana niya ts oi, wa man na siyay klaro diay...

[dozen]

she said, she was too dependent na gyud daw sa ako. mao she wants space for her to grow. for her to mature. gikapoy na daw siya sa sige ug away. balik2 lang ang issue..but before, inana sd iyang sulti tungod naa lain nanguyab sa iya..gbuwagan niya nibalik siya nako..mao na akong concern karon kung magpalayo ko niya totally. naay tendency gani moduwa sa lain..mura gani siya maganahan kung naay magparamdam niya. makalimtan dayon ko..4days na mi wa nagkita nya 2days walay commu.

Mao ba TS, if you think she is worth the pain and sacrifice then you know what you have to do. But if not and if thats the case then maybe its time to save yourself from being lost, move forward, accept what happened, and give to her what she needs. You already have done your part in trying to make it work. Just make it clear to her that you were reaching out to make things work. When thats done. Move forward and try not to look back..even if its hard to do. I am not saying to go on a dating spree.. just do what you need to do, work, and all. you cant leave that part of your life on hold.

[m.garz]

Murag mao2x manig sitwasyon sa pikas thread lol.

Basig nagduwa nanag laing team TS

[nierky]

mangayo lang ta ko og advice...

last week nag-away mi sa akong gf.. kay mura gani wa na siya'y time nako. naa koy dako nga problema gusto nako isulti pero wala siya. busy kaayo siya sa iyang trabaho. naay times mobawi sya pero magpalayo na gani ko. kay wa nako kasabot ba kung ganahan pa siya o dili na. gusto sad ko magpakita gyud sya nga ganahan pa siya nako.

after tanan concerns nasulti.. nakasulti ko niya nga basin ganahan pa siya mag-explore.. nagkagrabe na gyud gani ang lalis hantod nagbuwag gyud mi.. pero nantig balik ra sad ko niya.. ana siya dili na daw siya kay gikapoy na daw siya ug sige lang away.. nakarealize sad daw sya sa akong gpangsulti nga basin ganahan pa siya mag-explore.. pero kana gikan ra na niya nga storya.. ako lang gibalik.. karon, maski unsaon pa nako di na gyud siya mantig balik kay iya sad daw ayuhon iyang self kay basin immature ra siya para nako..

nagsige ghapon mi og text.. sige sulti iloveyou imissyou.. hantod niana siya nga dili ba daw lisod sa amo pagbuwag nga sige pa mi ug text.. niana ko nga ihunong nalang gyud.. kay ganahan sad ko tagaan na siya og space.. niana siya nga ako lang daw una dili mo text niya kay siya daw maglisod sad ug hunong.. ako ang mouna ug hunong sa among communication.. mingawon ghapon daw sya.. pero sa dagan sa among storya ganahan gyud sya buwag sa.. pero karon gd gimingaw man ko niya.. dapat pa ba ko mustorya niya o pasagdan nalang gyud nko siya? ganahan pa kaha siya nga kami pa o dili na?

ana sad siya.. kung kami daw, kami man gyud.. pero sige siya sulti kanang kung mangita ko ug lain dapat inani o inana... di ko kasabot gyud nya..

girl gani mag ingon ana ts pasagdi..sos ka daghan lagmi karon panahuna...dili ka kapuyan mag cge ug pangamoyo unya kiber ra niya? manguyab paman gani ta bisag naa pay uyab.kana na ba noon nga mag pakita na sila ug binta nga maka gawas ta...

[baboyitom]

Mao ba TS, if you think she is worth the pain and sacrifice then you know what you have to do. But if not and if thats the case then maybe its time to save yourself from being lost, move forward, accept what happened, and give to her what she needs. You already have done your part in trying to make it work. Just make it clear to her that you were reaching out to make things work. When thats done. Move forward and try not to look back..even if its hard to do. I am not saying to go on a dating spree.. just do what you need to do, work, and all. you cant leave that part of your life on hold.

nagstorya lang gyud mi karon..gusto daw niya makaexperience sd kung unsa ang normal twenties na girl...kanang free daw..kay wa pa sya kasuway.. niana ko nga wa pa gyud diay sya kaila og commitment..she is trying to find life without me..di siya kahuwat nga dunganan nko siya sa iyang journey para less mistakes and heartaches..gusto nya maexperience alone gyud..ana ko nya di man gd na mao imong gpangita..gusto lang gyud siya mtry kanang way magpugong niya..nitext siya og imissyou wa na nako replyi..gi-seen ra nako.

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last nako text niya SIGE nalang..gikapoy nasd ko.