Tabang mga ka istorya

[slimjimson]

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nya bai ... makaya ra nimo ing ana bai kanang wala nasiyay time para nimo? pero wla mo na abot sa time bai na mo give up na siya?



lisod na kayobai cold na jud kayo siya pero mag ilove you pa man siya nako sa txt pero panag sa na lang lagi siya mo txt .. Do you thnk di na ko niya love? pero ma feel pa man nako bsta mag kuyog me. Unsaon nako pag win her back?

wla man sad siya ni give up, maka mingaw lang jud nya. Mo ana raman sad sya nga kailangan ningkamot sad ko kay para sa akong future daw kay wla daw mi kabaw if asa mi kutob but as of now, ako sya ingnan nga kayahon namo and mo believe jud ko na kami. Then I saw her smile which made me more confident. There are times lang jud nga di malikayan ang kamingaw but eventually all of this will fall in place sooner or later para namu. Usually back and forth man sad ang amo emotions and there are times magdungan labi na gnahan mi magkakita. hehe So far sa among near 3yrs na run kay daghan jud makat.onan, and for the years to come.

[dozen]

TS, your situation happens to a lot of people. I give you credit for speaking you mind and sharing your situation to the general public. The best advice I could give you boss, is to accept reality. Relationships have their way of bringing the best out of a person and bringing out the worst. Don't let yourself be tied down with what happened in the past. There is nothing wrong with giving her what she think she needs, just give her what she asked for and ask no more questions. Just do that. When you are done with that start thinking of what you should to to move forward. Focus on the job or task at hand, which is to finish your studies and graduate, so that you can work and prove to yourself that you are worth the person you said you are. Keep some of the emotions capped or don't let yourself be sucked by your emotions. You need to be logical sometimes, its not always the heart that wins. The common mistake I often see in couples is that, as time passes by, they forget who they really are in the process of being "the best" person they can be for their partner. In my opinion, couples should complement each other, not change each other. Be who you are, and what you want to be, not because what others want you to be.

If you broke up with each other, give yourselves ample time for the "break-up" to sink in and take it all in. It takes time for the wounds to heal...but trust me when I say feel the pain until theres no more left. Avoid seeing each other for a month or 3 months or so, this would really give you the time to reflect on the reality of your situation and may help you move forward effectively. For me, there is no such thing as GF today-breakup-Friends Tomorrow.. thats just not how it works... unless you treat the relationship as it was merely a business arrangement, hired-worked hard-end of contract. Both of you need to talk with an open mind and clear emotions..free from anger and pride. One may move forward easily compared to the other since we are unique to one another, but that doesn't mean that you'll distance yourself so far, just be there for her when the time comes that she and hopefully you are ready to talk. If she's cold, then let her be cold, she may have her reasons that you just don't understand yet, someday she'll hopefully give you the answers you need.

Try finding yourself some friends, being loner doesn't mean you don't have friends nor are you afraid of other people. A friend can sometimes be a stranger beside a jeep, or an elevator.

Learn to pick yourself up and be self sufficient, your world should not revolve around her, dili sya earth, maybe you'll find someone who would accept you and vice versa or maybe someday the both of you will cross paths again and live happily ever after..you'll never know unless you try to live outside your comfort zone and be who you are.

Maybe someday you'll even thank her for this pain, this is what makes us people stronger. Someday you'll learn to laugh about it.

[kronouzgg]

TS, your situation happens to a lot of people. I give you credit for speaking you mind and sharing your situation to the general public. The best advice I could give you boss, is to accept reality. Relationships have their way of bringing the best out of a person and bringing out the worst. Don't let yourself be tied down with what happened in the past. There is nothing wrong with giving her what she think she needs, just give her what she asked for and ask no more questions. Just do that. When you are done with that start thinking of what you should to to move forward. Focus on the job or task at hand, which is to finish your studies and graduate, so that you can work and prove to yourself that you are worth the person you said you are. Keep some of the emotions capped or don't let yourself be sucked by your emotions. You need to be logical sometimes, its not always the heart that wins. The common mistake I often see in couples is that, as time passes by, they forget who they really are in the process of being "the best" person they can be for their partner. In my opinion, couples should complement each other, not change each other. Be who you are, and what you want to be, not because what others want you to be.

If you broke up with each other, give yourselves ample time for the "break-up" to sink in and take it all in. It takes time for the wounds to heal...but trust me when I say feel the pain until theres no more left. Avoid seeing each other for a month or 3 months or so, this would really give you the time to reflect on the reality of your situation and may help you move forward effectively. For me, there is no such thing as GF today-breakup-Friends Tomorrow.. thats just not how it works... unless you treat the relationship as it was merely a business arrangement, hired-worked hard-end of contract. Both of you need to talk with an open mind and clear emotions..free from anger and pride. One may move forward easily compared to the other since we are unique to one another, but that doesn't mean that you'll distance yourself so far, just be there for her when the time comes that she and hopefully you are ready to talk. If she's cold, then let her be cold, she may have her reasons that you just don't understand yet, someday she'll hopefully give you the answers you need.

Try finding yourself some friends, being loner doesn't mean you don't have friends nor are you afraid of other people. A friend can sometimes be a stranger beside a jeep, or an elevator.

Learn to pick yourself up and be self sufficient, your world should not revolve around her, dili sya earth, maybe you'll find someone who would accept you and vice versa or maybe someday the both of you will cross paths again and live happily ever after..you'll never know unless you try to live outside your comfort zone and be who you are.

Maybe someday you'll even thank her for this pain, this is what makes us people stronger. Someday you'll learn to laugh about it.

English ui hahaha d jowk lang.. Thank you for this wonderful advice... I hope na mahatagan jud ko og answer niya bahin anang pag ka cold jud niya . haiz how i wish na makasabot na ko sa tanan,. As of now nakaya na nako eendure na di siya e text og unsa pa

wla man sad siya ni give up, maka mingaw lang jud nya. Mo ana raman sad sya nga kailangan ningkamot sad ko kay para sa akong future daw kay wla daw mi kabaw if asa mi kutob but as of now, ako sya ingnan nga kayahon namo and mo believe jud ko na kami. Then I saw her smile which made me more confident. There are times lang jud nga di malikayan ang kamingaw but eventually all of this will fall in place sooner or later para namu. Usually back and forth man sad ang amo emotions and there are times magdungan labi na gnahan mi magkakita. hehe So far sa among near 3yrs na run kay daghan jud makat.onan, and for the years to come.

haiz may pa mo da wla jud mo ni give up.. Siya tawun ni give up it means na dili jud ko matimbang para niya. sakit kayo huna hunaon jud na dili niya ma handle og ma balance haiz.

[mustardplaster]

@dozen pwede sad ko magpatambag nimo bai? hehehehe...sa tanan murang imo ra man gyud tubag ako gibasa ug sakto.

[slimjimson]

@dozen Nice read bro, best advise I have ever heard.

[kronouzgg]

Sa tinood lng sir katu ingon nimo na "There is nothing wrong with giving her what she think she needs, just give her what she asked for and ask no more questions"... lisod para nako sir kay dili ko redy mawala sia og kalit2 na nausab sia so shmpre dghan kog question sako mind na ganahan ko matubag.. Ingon sia ganahan sia mag focus. For you sir sakto na iya gibuhat? Dili ba mabuhat namong duha na mo grow individually is this the only choice that we had para ma achieve ang goal namo??. I know n mas mabuhat namo ning duha kung mag tinabangay me.

[dozen]

@slimjimson : thank you boss. hehe.. just keeping it real.
@mustardplaster : hehe ok ra bai. post lang ug topic boss para kami tana istoryan maka tabang. hehe.. team effort.

Sa tinood lng sir katu ingon nimo na "There is nothing wrong with giving her what she think she needs, just give her what she asked for and ask no more questions"... lisod para nako sir kay dili ko redy mawala sia og kalit2 na nausab sia so shmpre dghan kog question sako mind na ganahan ko matubag.. Ingon sia ganahan sia mag focus. For you sir sakto na iya gibuhat? Dili ba mabuhat namong duha na mo grow individually is this the only choice that we had para ma achieve ang goal namo??. I know n mas mabuhat namo ning duha kung mag tinabangay me.

@kronouzgg thank you boss. I know its hard, trust me, the start is always hard, but when the wheel starts rolling, its smooth sailing. TS, its not a question of what we or what I think what right or wrong, just reserve your question for her, write it because I know you may have a lot, "if dili kaya sa utok, kaya ra kaau sa papel", so while you are waiting, maybe you can reflect on the questions you wrote, maybe it gets answered as time passes by, maybe it doesn't whats important is you called your questions out, so when the time comes you get the chance to talk and ask her, you know which questions that are relevant to ask and what questions you need no answers. if she says she need to focus, then just have it her way. Let her do her thing and let her be.

About growing individually, in my opinion, each of us grows our own way, our own time, and in our own soil. when I say soil Imean >>family, friends, faith, principles, truth, belief, opinion, values, and all relevant factors that contribute to our logic in making a life decision.

Both of you have only a handful of options or choices..
(a) accept reality, let her be, take my advice, move forward in your own respective directions but not on opposite directions
(b) hope that it would work out, try to talk but complicated as to which direction you may be heading
(c) you fight for what you think is right (too much pride, egotistic, selfish) and maybe eventually loosing yourself and loosing her, or pushing her too far
(d) *insert lang imo ganahan that was not mentioned: ___________________

About sa magtabangay mung duha, yes its a good intention but in my opinion, no one can help you other than yourself. You may think that maybe you are helping one another, although it may seem that way, but did it occur to you maybe you are pulling each other down instead of up, making it harder for the both of you to pick yourself up even more.

[kronouzgg]

@slimjimson : thank you boss. hehe.. just keeping it real.
@mustardplaster : hehe ok ra bai. post lang ug topic boss para kami tana istoryan maka tabang. hehe.. team effort.



@kronouzgg thank you boss. I know its hard, trust me, the start is always hard, but when the wheel starts rolling, its smooth sailing. TS, its not a question of what we or what I think what right or wrong, just reserve your question for her, write it because I know you may have a lot, "if dili kaya sa utok, kaya ra kaau sa papel", so while you are waiting, maybe you can reflect on the questions you wrote, maybe it gets answered as time passes by, maybe it doesn't whats important is you called your questions out, so when the time comes you get the chance to talk and ask her, you know which questions that are relevant to ask and what questions you need no answers. if she says she need to focus, then just have it her way. Let her do her thing and let her be.

About growing individually, in my opinion, each of us grows our own way, our own time, and in our own soil. when I say soil Imean >>family, friends, faith, principles, truth, belief, opinion, values, and all relevant factors that contribute to our logic in making a life decision.

Both of you have only a handful of options or choices..
(a) accept reality, let her be, take my advice, move forward in your own respective directions but not on opposite directions
(b) hope that it would work out, try to talk but complicated as to which direction you may be heading
(c) you fight for what you think is right (too much pride, egotistic, selfish) and maybe eventually loosing yourself and loosing her, or pushing her too far
(d) *insert lang imo ganahan that was not mentioned: ___________________

About sa magtabangay mung duha, yes its a good intention but in my opinion, no one can help you other than yourself. You may think that maybe you are helping one another, although it may seem that way, but did it occur to you maybe you are pulling each other down instead of up, making it harder for the both of you to pick yourself up even more.

Thank you sir dozen sa mnga nindut nimo na advice ... siguro im not mature enough para ma sabtan iya mga reason. Sir dozen do i need to cut all communication sige man ghpon sia chat nako kanang mag update sia na asa siya ni abot na siya matug na siya. Wla nanako siya replayi ghpon sugod .. plan pud nako di ko mo reply niya until mahuman ang year og new year . Sakto ba ni or epadaun gihapon nako ang communication namo as a friend na lang?

[Kram Ynohtna Airetne]

If you want to move on - cut all the communications between you in her. Period.

[dozen]

Thank you sir dozen sa mnga nindut nimo na advice ... siguro im not mature enough para ma sabtan iya mga reason. Sir dozen do i need to cut all communication sige man ghpon sia chat nako kanang mag update sia na asa siya ni abot na siya matug na siya. Wla nanako siya replayi ghpon sugod .. plan pud nako di ko mo reply niya until mahuman ang year og new year . Sakto ba ni or epadaun gihapon nako ang communication namo as a friend na lang?

you are welcome bai @kronouzgg . do not be too hard on yourself, being mature means you know whats the right thing to do given the situation. She has her reasons for that, just let her be. If you both of you acknowledges nga bulag na mo then it means it is not your obligation nor her obligation to update each other on whats happening sa imong life or iyang life. if she keeps texting you nga naabot na sya balay, reply lang ug "ok thank you for letting me know", if mutxt cge goodnight or matug na cya replyi lang ug "ok salamat for telling me". maabot lang ang time nga everything will sink in and will fit into place. remember to just be polite and respectful to all the means of communication. Ok ra nang til new year (3days) nga walay reply leave everything sa 2014, start a new sa 2015. be strong kay if magpadayun ra mo, basin kamo ra pud masakitan. As I mentioned earlier, there will come a time na everything will sink in and fall into place. when the time comes and both of you are still friends, both of you are ready to talk, then that time maybe both of you can work something out. But if you feel and sure of yourself na it wouldnt work, then ayaw nalang sa so that the friendship can still be saved.