Being Single Or Being Married?

[nolex]

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pagminyo gyud mo mga boys aron di mo mahimong agokoy.
and girls, pagminyo sad mo aron di mo mahimong timus.

asa na man ni gibutang sa ginoo si titah jawwy ron kaha... basin nagminyo na ni ron.. unya under sa asawa.. hehehehe

[piaosigua]

mag minyo jud oi!

[fha]

get married..life is too short might as well share with someone... :mrgreen:

[j!sah]

marriage..! but 8 years from now cguro..

[omad]

best friend nako ni sya...that's why i do care a lot.

ANYWAYS...here's the story again

Hi fellow istoryans, just tryn to get some piece of advice (but please, i need a serious one) wala lay binuang ba.
Speaking of being single, I'll give you a situation, then tell me ,if would you chooose to stay single or look for a partner.
Here it Is:
Single parent having two kids aged 7 & 9, both are boys. She's only 30 years of age, very independent , career woman, when it comes to personality, she's a plus +++ She's currently workin abroad, Iya kids naa sa iya Mama, iya problem is her mom is gettin old , about 60 years old na, She only got one sibling, who's already having his own family in abroad, She really love to be with her kids but she can't quit her job, coz that's their only bread & butter, She tried her luck joining into some dating site, but until now, she still can't find that someone, She's not into guwapo. What do you think she must do. Looy baya sya, unsaon na lang daw if mawala iya mom, wala ra ba sila lain relatives.It's not even an option choosing between being alone or not. Finding a husband would be the LAST on the list if I were to make one. It's just plain selfish setting yourself as the first priority rather than the kids. It's their future as well as their welfare that are at stake here. Since she's already stated that she can't quit her job, then let's just go ahead cross that "supposedly" very important aspect in our list.

Two quick questions:

1) what's her master plan?
2) how long is her contract with said company? is she staying there for good?

Both questions are equally important. The length of her stay abroad is the most important piece to the puzzle. Of course if she's staying there for just another couple of years then the kids would be fine with granny, for now. I know it would be painful as far as the "loneliness factor" goes but just suck it up. She already knew the scenario (in the first place) even before she signed her name on the dotted line on that piece of paper called "the contract".

If it's gonna be between the ballpark of 5-10 years, or worse staying there for good, then that's a different scenario altogether. If that's the case, then her priority (ASAP) would be: finding a relative, a good friend, a close acquaintance who can assist her mom for now, temporarily. At the same time she should ask around re how to bring her kids to where she's at, better yet, talk to lawyers. Next, start processing their papers and at the same time ask around for good schools in her locale, start looking for a bigger apartment, start looking for a second job.. the whole nine yards..

Those are the safest, most practical decisions she could make and the ones that make a lot of sense.. at least in my book. Stop exerting a lot of effort in finding that "someone" for now. If she's all what you describe she is: "very independent , career woman, when it comes to personality, she's a plus +++" then that "someone" will just come knocking on her door one of these days. I'm not saying she should stop dating altogether, just focus on more important stuff right now: her kids.

Kids grow up really fast. One blink and they're gone as adults. Why be a spectator in their lives when you can be there for the ride...

[DebutsAndIDos]

hey, you tell your friend that i coordinate weddings and i just coordinated a wedding for a 39 year old who thought she would never get married, for a 50 year old with two daughters in her late teens, and for another 50 year old lady. Their husbands pamper and adore them...
It's not in the age.

As to her work abroad, there are a lot of opportunities here in the Philippines. Daghan na call center na nang-abli. Lt her come home and try her luck here. Maybe, she will not earn as much as when she works outside. But, Im sure the children will not notice a lower in ther lifstyle. Instead they will be happy to ahve their mother beside them...

[ronz_rodz]

way gastos, way emotional problems and you;re free to go where you want to go

[shyz_philbox]

single with one liwat...boring ang life kung wla kay liwat...

[forum_angel]

single as of now...

[Dorothea]

now in our days,,, will you still enjoy the life of MARRIAGE?,, economically speaking,,, or just enjoy being a bachelor?,,, what would be our life now we're sufferiing an economic & political crisis,,, guys! what's ur best choice
GET MARRIED OR STAY SINGLE?...

Dili man ma kompara. Ang kada usa, naay advantages ug disadvantages.