makigbuwag or dili?? advices are highly appreciated....

[sugarcakes_babe]

ma.envy bitaw kos mga girl dinha nga, buntis pa lang, kara2 nagpropose ang bf....haaaaaay..... i may be unlucky not to have one, but i could at least say nga im lucky enough to have one who did not abandoned us after knowin im pregnant, and who loves me and my daughter so dearly til now.... i guess guys, im just getting too negatively sick... pasalamat jud kos mga advice ninyo.... it really enlightens me...

[iMallalone29]

ma.envy bitaw kos mga girl dinha nga, buntis pa lang, kara2 nagpropose ang bf....haaaaaay..... i may be unlucky not to have one, but i could at least say nga im lucky enough to have one who did not abandoned us after know im pregnant, and who loves me and my daughter so dearly.... i guess guys, im just getting negatively sick... pasalamat jud kos mga advice ninyo.... it really enlightens me...

But what happened to most of those girls ts? Na buntis pa lang, kara2 na ang lalaki magpropose for marraige.. Most but not all, wala jud nagdugay. Don't envy them. Instead, be thankful because your partner is taking time to think about that serious matter: Marriage.

[sugarcakes_babe]

But what happened to most of those girls ts? Na buntis pa lang, kara2 na ang lalaki magpropose for marraige.. Most but not all, wala jud nagdugay. Don't envy them. Instead, be thankful because your partner is taking time to think about that serious matter: Marriage.

wew! i like ur point much.... well, well, well, as of now, at least, nakalma nako, i was able to find myself and as to where i should stand, salamat kaau [MENTION=92833]iMallalone29[/MENTION] ...so far im getting senseful advices, so far so good....

[iMallalone29]

wew! i like ur point much.... well, well, well, as of now, at least, nakalma nako, i was able to find myself and as to where i should stand, salamat kaau [MENTION=92833]iMallalone29[/MENTION] ...so far im getting senseful advices, so far so good....

You are much welcome TS.. I'm glad to help..

[yvonne6]

you are just too engrossed with the idea of getting married. wala pa man gud na natabo nimo mao nang wala ka makahibalo. it doesnt really make any difference darling except sa makapang hambug ta nga asawa ta but again, it does not give you any assurance. ug mangabit imong bana, ikaw pay ingnan sa kabit, sa papel raka asawa, wala na mahigugma imong bana nimo. and if the marriage turns out wrong, mag mahay raka and you wanted to be free. what is in a marriage nga perti man kaau na ug daku nga impact sa imong life? ako, to be very honest with you, lami kaau ang single life as long as naa kay anak. walay mangaway, walay magbuot asa ka mo adto, walay mag buot dili ka molihok sa balay, walay magbuot imong hutdon gasto imong kuarta in one day, less stress, although mingaw usahay but im enjoying it rather than being with someone who could not appreciate you the way you want, ayaw na lang, tutal ang attention makuha mana nimo sa imong mga friends or sa imong anak. intimate wise, u dont really need a partner to get that, although im not into that, there are alternative ways, u know

[quirkychinita]

dugay2 napud mi galive.in, wa pajud mi makasal, 3yrs old nlng among anak wa pajud, next year napud kuno, hahay, im a girl d i by the way, im planning to break up with him, sakto kaha ni akong buhaton? as in dli jud niya priority ang kasal, kay pang karaan ra daw na, karon dili na kuno uso ang kasal importante, way gabinuang nya love ninyo ang usag.usa, nya unsaon paglove nga dli gani ko secure sa akong status, sa among status... hapit najud ko mugive.up, you know diba we girls are so sensitive and big deal kaayo nang wala paka makasal, esp. naa nay anak, nya gipuyo2 raka.... haaaay..... galibog nako unsa akong buhaton.... and gusto ko naa koy buhaton...


your advices are highly appreciated....

sorry but I still think marriage is important.... specially if you deserve it.

If a man loves you, HE will give you HIS lastname.

Im not married but I've seen so many women with similar problem as you do. My sisters are married na, I've seen how problematic they are but then inthe end, their husbands come home to the same woman they have commitments with and made a family with.

Every woman dreams of walkng the isle with that white gown on and flower petals on her feet.

On the other hand kanang mga married women pud, gaprublema kay ilang bana gapangabit man gihapon... Well.... in my opinion, it's a man's instinct na mangitag lain if NAAY REASON.... If the wife did something to trigger the man, if she really wants to keep the man, she will find a way.... Im not saying na dapat ang babae ra pirmi ang magpa-ubos ug pride, what Im trying to say is that men (like any other person) simple REACT to stimuli.... If ilang asawa palaaway, syempre mu-rect pud na sya, either manimalos or muhawa or find sumthing that makes him happy.

Now. Balik sa imung situation.... Lemme ask you, aha ang mas daghan? The days na happy ka niya or the days na dili ka happy? If you're not happy with him, let go. If naay reason to stay like the kids, then think twice....... Think about the welfare of the kids if wala ang amahan, compared kung ikaw ra isa mubuhi.


If I were in your shoes, I will leave and maningkamut kog buhi sa bata.... Im not settling for less. What kind of relatiionship ang naay resposibility pero way commitment?

Marriage is a form of commitment to me. Its what makes the bon stronger and what makes things legal.

If mangabit ang bana, I will have the right to sue him cuz of the papers Im holding, if biyaan niya ang bata then naay papel na panghawakan, naay rights ang bata to rceive child support if naay marriage contract (In the event na mag legal separation/annulment)


bottomline, like what I always say (coming from Beyonce's song)

"IF Im not your everything, how about if Im NOTHING at all to you?"


But then weigh your options. Do not decide under influence of extreme emotions. Make reasonable choices.

You deserve more.

and also, please ask your self if you're emotionally READY for it. Kay matud pa sa pari "ang kasal, hindi parang kanin na pag masyadong mainit, iluluwa mo agad" sumthing like that.

[naglibog.nako]

tsk3 made sense.... but earlier sa among live.in years, i made myself ideal, too patientious and everything nice for him to marry me, but there was never a sign for him to propose til i get tired, i talked it out to him, he just made effin promises that never came true, and it was after those points that i became irritable, moody, war every month and occassionally hating him soo much...but at least he would make efforts for me to calm down and reassure again, ive always wanted to break up with him whenever we fight, pero u know that feeling nga u can't let go? bisag lugi na kaau kas relasyon ninyo, pudpud nakas tanang depression, but still u decided to stay, something like oh my bullsh**! haay, i don't know but cguro, after all, u can't really force a man to marry, i can't force my man to marry me, im tired of trying and just look pitiful..... if they want to then you're lucky, if they don't, then just bring out the best in you and your relationship nlng cguro and cherish whatever we both have to the fullest, for no one knows, not even us, that whether its going to be me and him in the end....

ayaw ana imo mindset TS, positive imong gusto outcome but you are feeding yourself with negative things... dapat positive permi

all I can say is marriage is not a guarantee, nga ma wala imong insecurities... I know ang imong child ang rason ngano gusto ka mo stay sa imong partner.... pero that is not a good reason enough... kai you will become codependent. sa iya, which is causing your depression. you need to be independent... and responsible sa imong own happiness. meaning don't depend your happiness on him.

just work on yourself jud, be attractive to him nga siya na mismo ang di mo sugot nga mawala ka., pang apply Job asap... para di ka ma dependent niya TS. also dont play mind games sa iya... its a big turn off sa mga laki.

also kato ako advise nga ayaw sa mo pag puyo.. for at least 1 month, para ma huwasan mong duha.. og maka huna huna mo og tarong.

[sugarcakes_babe]

ayaw ana imo mindset TS, positive imong gusto outcome but you are feeding yourself with negative things... dapat positive permi

all I can say is marriage is not a guarantee, nga ma wala imong insecurities... I know ang imong child ang rason ngano gusto ka mo stay sa imong partner.... pero that is not a good reason enough... kai you will become codependent. sa iya, which is causing your depression. you need to be independent... and responsible sa imong own happiness. meaning don't depend your happiness on him.

just work on yourself jud, be attractive to him nga siya na mismo ang di mo sugot nga mawala ka., pang apply Job asap... para di ka ma dependent niya TS. also dont play mind games sa iya... its a big turn off sa mga laki.

also kato ako advise nga ayaw sa mo pag puyo.. for at least 1 month, para ma huwasan mong duha.. og maka huna huna mo og tarong.

hahahah nahimuot kos "..mahuwasan mong duha..."

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wew! speachless....guys, im taking myself a break after reading ur soulful advices, it slowly brings up the pieces in me that i have long been junked and neglected... be right back asap.... i couldnt be more thankful..

[sugarcakes_babe]

you are just too engrossed with the idea of getting married. wala pa man gud na natabo nimo mao nang wala ka makahibalo. it doesnt really make any difference darling except sa makapang hambug ta nga asawa ta but again, it does not give you any assurance. ug mangabit imong bana, ikaw pay ingnan sa kabit, sa papel raka asawa, wala na mahigugma imong bana nimo. and if the marriage turns out wrong, mag mahay raka and you wanted to be free. what is in a marriage nga perti man kaau na ug daku nga impact sa imong life? ako, to be very honest with you, lami kaau ang single life as long as naa kay anak. walay mangaway, walay magbuot asa ka mo adto, walay mag buot dili ka molihok sa balay, walay magbuot imong hutdon gasto imong kuarta in one day, less stress, although mingaw usahay but im enjoying it rather than being with someone who could not appreciate you the way you want, ayaw na lang, tutal ang attention makuha mana nimo sa imong mga friends or sa imong anak. intimate wise, u dont really need a partner to get that, although im not into that, there are alternative ways, u know

wow i mean really wow! where do you guys get these ideas.... i mean, super sakto jud ka, really too engrossed that i even forget to open my mind and better yet think of my own worth... i don't know pero lain jud cguro mu.advice ang girls than boys, right now its my brothers whom i could at least personally tell my problem kay sa akong papa, i can't get any serious or morale advice.. and like i said, all they wish is for me to get married... i haven't been able to socialize with my few circle of friends kay buto.butohan rako nila ug pangutana sa akong sitwasyon that i end up feeling insecure, makalagot hahahaha thanks much much much.. [MENTION=49375]yvonne6[/MENTION]

[sugarcakes_babe]

sorry but I still think marriage is important.... specially if you deserve it.

If a man loves you, HE will give you HIS lastname.

Im not married but I've seen so many women with similar problem as you do. My sisters are married na, I've seen how problematic they are but then inthe end, their husbands come home to the same woman they have commitments with and made a family with.

Every woman dreams of walkng the isle with that white gown on and flower petals on her feet.

On the other hand kanang mga married women pud, gaprublema kay ilang bana gapangabit man gihapon... Well.... in my opinion, it's a man's instinct na mangitag lain if NAAY REASON.... If the wife did something to trigger the man, if she really wants to keep the man, she will find a way.... Im not saying na dapat ang babae ra pirmi ang magpa-ubos ug pride, what Im trying to say is that men (like any other person) simple REACT to stimuli.... If ilang asawa palaaway, syempre mu-rect pud na sya, either manimalos or muhawa or find sumthing that makes him happy.

Now. Balik sa imung situation.... Lemme ask you, aha ang mas daghan? The days na happy ka niya or the days na dili ka happy? If you're not happy with him, let go. If naay reason to stay like the kids, then think twice....... Think about the welfare of the kids if wala ang amahan, compared kung ikaw ra isa mubuhi.


If I were in your shoes, I will leave and maningkamut kog buhi sa bata.... Im not settling for less. What kind of relatiionship ang naay resposibility pero way commitment?

Marriage is a form of commitment to me. Its what makes the bon stronger and what makes things legal.

If mangabit ang bana, I will have the right to sue him cuz of the papers Im holding, if biyaan niya ang bata then naay papel na panghawakan, naay rights ang bata to rceive child support if naay marriage contract (In the event na mag legal separation/annulment)


bottomline, like what I always say (coming from Beyonce's song)

"IF Im not your everything, how about if Im NOTHING at all to you?"


But then weigh your options. Do not decide under influence of extreme emotions. Make reasonable choices.

You deserve more.

and also, please ask your self if you're emotionally READY for it. Kay matud pa sa pari "ang kasal, hindi parang kanin na pag masyadong mainit, iluluwa mo agad" sumthing like that.

wow! as in really, i superb like and agree to this portion also "......f I were in your shoes, I will leave and maningkamut kog buhi sa bata.... Im not settling for less. What kind of relatiionship ang naay resposibility pero way commitment? " taking credits to it.... and this is actually the perfect feeling ive long been keeping which has also been my top priority eversince, ipanawng nako niya nga kaya nako, wala lang jud koy mabinlan sa akong anak, malason kog mga yaya pud, bag.o ra tawn pud nibiya akong mama, toa na together with the god almighty, months pa lang.. tho karon naa nakoy mabinlan sa akong anak.... don't know but will really weigh things out carefully, now that you guys have really, really, enlighten my long been narrowed-mind.... im getting though emotional but stronger with these heartfelt advices you guys are giving me....