FOR GAYS with straight boyfriend... Share your experiences here.

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I'm bi-female with straight boyfriend

It's kinda hard for me to work it out specially when there were times I feel that my partner does not give that same need I feel when I'm with a woman. But still I manage to keep that loyalty in the relationship because I respect and love him and no amount of lustful need of me will ever destroy that. I've thought but never attempted, I talked but never done it.

When you trust yourself to be faithful and loyal then there's no reason to be scared that your partner will leave. If he'll leave then it is never your fault that you aren't enough regardless of sexual preference.

Staying and leaving is a matter of choice but Love is not.

[Chrysley]

You do realize it's not gonna go anywhere right? I've been there. I fell in love with my straight best friend. I told him about it. He gave me the attention that I wanted coz he didn't wanna lose me. But he had a girlfriend. I was holding on to the delusion that he might one day love me the way I wanted him to. Every small good gesture he made was blown out of proportion in my eyes coz I was in love. But relationships like that are made to crash and burn. The girlfriend eventually found out and he stopped seeing me. My best friend.

It took a long time to move on but I did. I realized that I'm a decent guy, not ugly or stupid and that I deserved somebody who'd love me the way I'd love them. From that point on I swore never to fall for a straight guy again. I mean sure, the thought of flirting with a straight guy is hot, coz you know.. what you can't have is always tempting. But there are lots of gay guys out there that are just as attractive, just as manly and completely comfortable with who they are they don't even have to pretend. Only difference is that they just happen to like guys too. And they can certainly love you back. Well, that last part depends on a lot of things but you get my point.

I've had three relationships now. First one lasted for three years and took a f#ckin long time to get over. Second lasted for 6 years and the third well, a year coz I refused to date a hot but dumb guy any longer than that. Lol.. point is, I've never looked back. You can't make someone love you, even more so if it's not in their nature to get attracted to your gender. I even dated a bisexual guy for 3 months but broke it off coz he wasn't comfortable with who he was. He was perfect, good looking, very intelligent, and shares my secular beliefs. Only problem was he was not out. And I mean bisexual out. The whole time we were together I felt like I was back in the closet again. So I quit.

Realizing that you don't have to put up with someone's bullshit and find someone you actually deserve is something you have to go through on your own. Everything I'm saying here is meaningless until you realize that for yourself. All I can really say is good luck and I hope you find your way.

[chromezzz]

I'm bi-female with straight boyfriend

It's kinda hard for me to work it out specially when there were times I feel that my partner does not give that same need I feel when I'm with a woman. But still I manage to keep that loyalty in the relationship because I respect and love him and no amount of lustful need of me will ever destroy that. I've thought but never attempted, I talked but never done it.

When you trust yourself to be faithful and loyal then there's no reason to be scared that your partner will leave. If he'll leave then it is never your fault that you aren't enough regardless of sexual preference.

Staying and leaving is a matter of choice but Love is not.

Thanks for sharing... though kind of lahi ang situation sa amo mn gd pero still I get your point Thanks

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You do realize it's not gonna go anywhere right? I've been there. I fell in love with my straight best friend. I told him about it. He gave me the attention that I wanted coz he didn't wanna lose me. But he had a girlfriend. I was holding on to the delusion that he might one day love me the way I wanted him to. Every small good gesture he made was blown out of proportion in my eyes coz I was in love. But relationships like that are made to crash and burn. The girlfriend eventually found out and he stopped seeing me. My best friend.

It took a long time to move on but I did. I realized that I'm a decent guy, not ugly or stupid and that I deserved somebody who'd love me the way I'd love them. From that point on I swore never to fall for a straight guy again. I mean sure, the thought of flirting with a straight guy is hot, coz you know.. what you can't have is always tempting. But there are lots of gay guys out there that are just as attractive, just as manly and completely comfortable with who they are they don't even have to pretend. Only difference is that they just happen to like guys too. And they can certainly love you back. Well, that last part depends on a lot of things but you get my point.

I've had three relationships with such guys now. First one lasted for three years and took a f#ckin long time to get over. Second lasted for 6 years and the third well, a year coz I refused to date a hot but dumb guy any longer than that. Lol.. point is, I've never looked back. You can't make someone love you, even more so if it's not in their nature to get attracted to your gender. I even dated a bisexual guy for 3 months but broke it off coz he wasn't comfortable with who he was. He was perfect, good looking, very intelligent, and shares my secular beliefs. Only problem was he was not out. And I mean bisexual out. The whole time we were together I felt like I was back in the closet again. So I quit.

Realizing that you don't have to put up with someone's bullshit and find someone you actually deserve is something you have to go through on your own. Everything I'm saying here is meaningless until you realize that for yourself. All I can really say is good luck and I hope you find your way.

Thanks sa advice Chrys, i just sent you a PM ^_^

[yaj.em]

murag lisud pud na ang imong ge sulti nga "pangita lain". Not all guys want same *** relationship.

You already say it. not ALL. so naa pay open sa same s3x relationship na guy (naay bisexual, gay), ug naa pay chance na makakita xa sa iya jud kalipay na dapat jud nya

[chromezzz]

ug naa pay chance na makakita xa sa iya jud kalipay na dapat jud nya

Naa raman jud, it's just I chose not to enter cause traumatic pa aq experience sa una... Not sure lang ani karon if unsa akong ma experience ani... Libog pq if padayunon or dili

[_hizuka_]

basta mga in-ani gani nga story TS problema jud kaayo ni kaayo,.. problema naman gani na daan nang boy-girl relationship samot nanang gay relationships...

nakakita na ba mog tiguwang na lalaki na naay bana nga tiguwang na lalaki? .. wala pako kita ana, tungod na kay dili jud na maglast nang ingon ana na relasyon.... go straight man! u have a weapon of mass production, gamita na sa tamang bangag ayaw sa agianan og tae LOL

[vanderwoodsen]

Ts... Just keep in mind that he wants you because of your money. At the end of the day, he will leave you for a girl. If u choose to enjoy the moment, just be ready kay someday u will have to part ways.i

[FreezedEntity]

Naay daghan old gay couple sa gawas.

[illidan_great]

@Chrysley the best ka! bigyan nang jacket!

[chromezzz]

Ts... Just keep in mind that he wants you because of your money. At the end of the day, he will leave you for a girl. If u choose to enjoy the moment, just be ready kay someday u will have to part ways.i

Yup, I always keep that in mind mn... He makes way man pd gd nga di nako ma feel nga he's after that though we both are aware what he needs from me. Kabaw pd xa mu return sa favor.

I agree, fate jd xguru namo ang mahimong OPTION sa ing.ani nga REL. We'll see though, I'll prepare for the worst. For now, enjoy lang siguro nga ako pa siya fully. haha