Hi TS,
Let me bring a different angle to your annulment case.
What is the ground for the annulment? If its psychological incapacity, then you have two scenarios here.
Scenario 1: Do NOT Contest
For you the case to proceed, it needs probable cause. Coming from that, tanang BATI, MAOT, NGIL-AD nga storya and accusations are pointed at you. All the nasty details of your marriage will be put in court. So my question to you, are you willing to be the "BAD GUY" in that legal battle?
The Good side to this is what most people do, they will not show up during court trials to speed things up and eventually get yourself annulled should the court sees that it is in fact you who is at fault.
Granting na ma annulled ka under that accusation, that record in court becomes a public document. Therefore, if anyone can do a background check on you, or on the later part of your life something comes up that your "personality" is gauged to your disadvantage. That annulment document and final decision can be presented against you.
Ang akoa lang sad ika add TS, babaye raba ka. So are you willing to be the culprit? The unfit wife? The unfit mother?
SCENARIO 2: Contested Response
It means, that you are DENYING all accusations that are pointed against you. And that, you are fighting your claim that you are NOT the person at fault for the failure of your relationship. The downside is, that means you need to show up in court to defend yourself. The challenging part if you take this route is that it will take a few years for your case to be annulled because the court will decide based on your exhusbands testimony and yours kung kinsa gyuy sad-an ninyo duha.
Now the end result if you take scenario 2 are these:
1. If the court finds out through testimonies and evidences nga his accusations are false or has no bearing and that he is actually the one who is at fault, the accusations of your exhubby will be reversed favoring the annullment to your advantage. It means, siya ang BATI, MAOT, NGIL-AD ninyong duha.
2. Granting that the court will say, kamong duha ang sad-an its either ma acquit ang inyong case and you both remain married. But that gives you an opportunity to file for an annulment case later on which accusations will be pointed against him nasad dili na nimo.
For me lang sad personally, I took the hard and long route, and that is through a contested case. Kay bisag akong bana ang ni gasto for the annulment the fact that I know he is the one nga BATI, MAOT, NGIL-AD by being an irresponsible father and having a mistress, I will not allow a legal and public document to say that ako ang sad-an namong duha.
In the end, the battle is within you, and I would advise you to ask yourself which end result do you want to be in. If you are willing to sacrifice your name for the sake of an easy route to closure BUT with your name and person forever stained. Or you take the longer route and fight for the truth which frees you from any BAD reputation that is being pointed at you.