to spank or not?

[wenlove24]

I think this is one important topic to continue discussing with.

[Passport]

<ngdako sa bunal...bakus ug uban pa...

Turned out fine. Finished college with no setbacks...took the board exam and passed....no retakes...

Traumatized? I should be in a mental institution right now...with the type of discipline that was implemented in our house...

I excel in what I do. I may not be a board top notcher...but I am not a mediocre person....

discipline...bunal and all...kept me in the top 10 since primary school to highschool.

bunal and all kept me straight during college...and even when I was rebellious it never got out of control...

bunal and all...taught me at an early age that life is unfair...it taught me that people will lie to get you punished...

it taught me that life is not a bed of roses...

bunal and all...showed me the reality...my parents never trapped me in a fairy tale world...

yes I am an only child...but i never grew up spoiled...I had to earn the things that I want to have...

my mother kept a perfect balance between love...and discipline...and I never hated her..for raising her hand at me...

i never hated her..for spanking me with a leather belt...i never hated her for making me kneel for a couple of hours...

i also had to eat sili for talking back to her...

my mother and i had the worst fights...and I never hated her..for having such an iron fist around my neck...true...my mother is a control freak...but i wouldn;t be where I am now if not for the iron fist of hers.

The last time I had myself check..my mental state is perfect...and my confidence...is within the appropriate limits...

in other words...spank accordingly..

leniency....has its limits...look at the kids around you...

do you want your kids..to spend the wee hours of the night drinking...getting drunk with some random guy?

do you want your kids...to spend all your hard earned money on alcohol and cigarettes?

do you want your kids...to come up to you one day and tell you..she's pregnant and she has no idea who the father is..because she was too drunk to even remember?

with the society's influence on children..talking some sense to them..may be an uphill battle...

I am old school..and I believe in corporal punishment...(as long as it is done accordingly)...because that is how I was raised...

responsibility for your actions...should be taught at an early age..

sometimes...children don't listen anymore because that is what they see on TV...that is their influence...

sometimes...you need to be imposing..to emphasize your point..sometimes..being imposing may involve...spanking...

this is my own opinion..because again..that is how I grew up...I may be an only child..but I did not grew up in a bed of roses...

I do not talk about my personal problems with my mother because she already has too many problems to think about...

so..at an age where teenagers are gushing about boys...I learned to handle all the emotions myself...

we never had that S*x talk..parents should give their children..I had to learn it on my own...

sometimes...fear..keeps you straight!

how can a boy who had been through this be as expressive? yes, somehow we turned out all right, but the memory of the spartan upbringing.. leaves a mark, and a lot of scars

[b28]

He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him. Proverbs13:20

[jbass]

Ok raman nang bunalan basta after e.explain nmu ssa bata unsa iyang sayop..Atleast mag dako ang bata na disiplinado dili mag sukol2x sa parents

[soundstreammsi]

Agree ko aning bunal2 basta di lang pa lab.anan ug ibutang sa tamang lugar. Sagaran pud mga bata ron ako masugatan kuwang pd sa disiplina gagmay pa gani.

I grew up pud aning bunal - corporal punishment jud guro tawag ato ako sauna.
Eldest ko unya badlungon sad lage nag salig nga permi bz sa work ug negosyo ang mama ug papa.
Hapit ko naka suway tanan LOL..murag kuwang na lang "Name it, I've had it".
From leather belt, Uway (Rattan Wicker), Hands, Hammer, Scarfs, Bamboo.
Kneel down sa mongos, Sili-an kamot, Sulod sako, Sulod sako while smoked hehehe, Gi bitay upside down.
Gi deport sa province gipa work sa farm. Ug naa pa daghan.

It was such an ordeal pero naka hibaw ko sa akong mga sayop.
It made me learn nga dapat pud ko di mag ginahi ug ulo basta sayop na.
Wa man ko matrauma. Ok pa man akong pang huna2.
Ma compare nako ang akong pag dako ug sa akong manghud nga calmado siya gipa dako.
Dugay siya mo patuo sa akong parents. Usually mag dabog kung sugoon.
Which is wa jud nako nabuhat sa una mag dabog sa ilang atubangan. (Paksi nun sa kuya hehehe)
Maka ingon ko nga naa advantage..
So far wa ko nakita na disadvantage sa akong lang xperience puro advantage kay naka amgo man ko sa sayop
Wa nako ni gbuhat sa akong anak ning corporal punishment nga akong na agian kay kahibaw ko sa kasakit jud.
But I gave ideas ug gi unsa ko sauna. E describe ra nako niya unsa pde mahitabo if pa gahi2 ug ulo badlungon.
So far effective man kay hadlok man siya na ako unya mabuhat niya akong gpang describe hehehe.

Ug di xa patoo sa iya mama ako daun ingnun "nak gusto ka galit si papa mo?" in malumanay way. Patoo na daun hehehe
Open pud ko nga akong siyang ma bunalad jud pohon if mao jud bsta control lang. BOW

[jelousofthe1]

i have 3-yr old son nga sobra ka kiat , pwerteng patinga ... ug mabunalan nako usahay... but i make sure, i explain to him after the bunal unsa iyang sayop .

[alemrac]

explain the reason and spank sa butt cguro.

[spike412]

my son is well disciplined and am proud to say that if i can discipline him without resulting to spanking it would be an achievement on myself as a mom. lisod gyud kay naa time mang-gigil na ka sa kalagot kay lami na kaayo bunalan kung magpabadlong... akoa lang gyud pirmi huna-hunaon na there is another way to handle things instead of showing violence to my son. effective pud tingali kay ubang mom muingon man nako na behave kuno akoa son. patience really is a virtue kung mahimo tang mama that we need to nurture. mind you, i am the most impatient person ingon sako husband but somehow sa akoa son maningkamot ko dili ko kabunal niya.. heheh so my answer to the question? if i can avoid spanking then i would go to "no spanking".

[hanzheyteta]

a spank on the butt will do, but do make sure that you explain to the kid why the spanking. it's not because HE IS BAD but because of what he did or said.

[ExtraHot]

ts wala ra na sa na agian sa ubang bata... kulatahon man gni instead of spanking..