Having A Relationship With A Playboy/Chickboy/Player Is Not Easy

[Passport]

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Why must you suffer in such a relationship ts?

Is that what you call true love? Must it include suffering as well?

[crocodile]

murag inlove man cguro kaayo ka sa laki TS bsag binoangan ka kapila okey rman nmo

kuyawa ana TS

[yvonne6]

i always believe that before others can truly love you, you have to love yourself first. i've been to few relationships as well but once it goes bad, you just have to know when enough is enough. men will never value or respect women if you just take the shit treatment. women always wonder why kato pang mga buotan ug martyr ang perming binuangan sa mga lalaki. because men do not usually get touched by kindness, it wont excite them. mas magukod pa man gani na sila ug mga "biatches" kay men are challenge with women who can challenge them too. what im saying is, if you take this arrangement then most likely it will not change and the man will not be scared to hurt your feelings because you are just taking it. my take, its not normal for women to take a man doing these things. you probably are different ts but what matters most is you still feel loved and respected, if you dont feel that in the relationship, then definitely its not right

[beyee]

Wow! I admire of how you're handling your open relationship.
I once had that kind of a boyfie but I can't tolerate that kind of
set-up though he can do whatever he pleases but screwing or
entertaining other women is totally uncool for me.

I'm quite territorial when it comes to commitment sis so I don't
wanna share my guy to any girls. I still go for an exclusivity and
not a free-for-all kind of relationship.

[lejean]

@everyone reading this: I know it's kinda bizarre ane amoa set-up and dawat nako tanan bisan sya dawat pud nya unsa ko. I do believe in HONESTY man gud kesa you are only mine kind of thing and di ko mo tan-aw og laen babaye when in fact mgtalikod na gane ka ne tan-aw na d-i laen and even entertaining the idea of having another girl na dghan idungan.

As to binuangan, I know everything that happened from the past until the karon. All I know laen2x klase og kina-iya ang mga lalake og babaye. Ana pud sya, ako open-minded man ko. I don't want emotional baggage. I am hurt before in some aspects but ako raman nagcreate sa hurt kay kung pasagdan ra nako yaha gibuhat pul-an rana sya sooner or later.

We even classified the relationship as mutually beneficial, we both have love and working relationship into one. We were lovers first, then we both work together (online). We share ideas and goals, and work together towards it. Both of us benefit from each other, and even motivate each other to achieve our individual goals and dreams in life.

We have plans like laag, what to do with the future, but our motto is "come what may" when it comes to our love relationship. As for working relationship, it's concrete and we can be certain to that. We even come to an agreement whatever happens our working relationship will still be there.

For me, I aint gonna change him because I want him to. In time, he will change because he knows its the best thing to do for himself and he is happy to change for the better.

I have always valued freedom and wants to be free. That's why I don't restrict his freedom to meet other people, other women, date with them, etc. Kay the more nimo gunitan ang tawo, tuk-on the more na hinuon magrebelde. As he said to me, he loves challenges. I say to him, that's why you do love texting or meeting new girls kay for you its a challenge, its the chase, its the not knowing whether musugot ba or dili. So, I make to a point I will be his greatest challenge ever na ma consume iyaha energy on pursuing the challenge it may be intellectual and physical.

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We even had a talk few hours ago after we worked for 3-4 hours and ate dinner. We talk calmly and logically. I told him, what if one day I decide I want to have my own family, etc. You know for a fact that I don't have future with you. You don't want to be selfish and hold on to me, right? He said, I don't want to make any promises I can't keep coz once I promise I am going to keep. May na it happens and I did not promise than I promised then it did not happen. I don't want to get disappointed and I don't want to disappoint you.

Whatever happens, our working relationship will still be there since this is what I promised you before.

We are giving ourselves one year and see how it goes. Kay so far we do well working together as a team in reaching our goal, and individual goal. I told him of course, I am not going to leave you penniless. When this is all over, you can live your life. Ang ako-a goal for myself, when the time comes this is going to be over - both of us will be happy na we meet each other, had a love relationship and help each other achieve our individual dreams.

[lejean]

@finscar: with regarding to STD told him, you better make sure the girl is clean and you use condom. I don't want to have STD.

@mald|to and men@w0rk: thanks sa compliment. I am straight forward and direct to him. Men will be men. Rare specie ra au na ang lalake faithful sa babaye since ne enter of different relationships. Even married guys like in their 50s, 60s or 70s for sure kasagaran nila naka cheat sila sa ilaha wife.

@m0nYang: If it destroys your entire being as a woman, as an individual kailangan na jud na bya-an. Good move there sis.

@Passport: In the past, I suffered. But atm I am not suffering. I have never felt much better coz now I fully understand why he is like that and he understands me as well. He saw me at my worst, and love me in spite of that. I saw him at his worst, and was there when he was so down when no one helped him to stand up after all the trials.

@crocodile: Yes, I am in love with him. Have no regrets whatsoever

@yvonne6: I have never felt loved, respected, and cared for... sya ra jud.

@beyee: Bisan kinsa naman babaye i-ask di sila ganahan i-share ilaha bf with other girl/s. Am just too open-minded I guess. I even told him, no girl in her right state of mind will accept this. Uban pa to g-sagpa naka, sulti-an naka di mao. Swerte ka I am open-minded. The only thing na would make me decide to quit is boredom (mao sad ne ako personality).

[orkayl]

Very interesting, as longs as your willing to take the risks with no regrets. Then just prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

[HeartStops]

Scenario like this are very unstable.. but anyway kanus-a paman ang relationship stable hehehe..

I'm currently in a relationship with player/chickboy - or whatever they call it.
We live by the golden rule " Do not do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you "

Started as barkada - bestfriend - lover in span of a decade.
So I can say that we both know each other very well.We both know our capabilities towards infidelity, our weaknesses.
We don't have to remind each other the consequences of our actions or tell how lucky we are to have each-other. W
hen problem arises we communicate with each other because the last thing we want is to get into an argument.

He knows that if he'll hit that chick, I'll hit that guy too.. We mirror each-others action that's why we figured-out its best to be exclusive to each-other.
Q: How am I going to know that he is cheating? Well I don't have to try hard because I just know.

We try to live each day happy ( we are like kids - happy and gay ) and I like the kind of relationship we have. That common agreement we have- we don't have to speak or write it in order for the both of us to understand.
I'm not saying its a perfect relationship, but its a learning process.
We have come to an agreement to work this relationship out no matter what happens but if it doesn't work out. We'll at least we tried

[nailv]

mga klasmyt... palihug kog answer sa akong Poll.. hehehe.. please ayaw ko taga-e ug hypocrite answers. hahaha

www.istorya.net/forums/love/596403-mga-girls-asay-mas-ganahan-ninyo-3.html

[THE KID]

mao ni siya gi tawag og casual relationship