HELP How do GUYS show they love/like someone?

[nemmo723]

Whoaw....so you've better be good to have her maybe for a lifetime.. And be careful, earth is filled with scavengers...wakekeke

hehehe.. im very well aware of the scavengers lurking around.. but im not the jealous type, i just let her be. ive already accepted na daghan jud mu-ilog maski involved na ang girl given her physical attributes lng daan, pero wala ra man ko ana bai.. kataw-an lng nako na sila.. mor pa..

at one point tho, na-irit lng jud ko atong isa ka guy tho, kay he made a move on her while i was around even.. sheeesh, respeto lng ta gamay, pero di man ko gusto ug gubot so buhat lng diha sa imong buhaton bai, maulaw-an ra ka.. and so nahilaw ra jud xa.. maayo jud tamakan mga itlog anang mga klaseha na guys oi..

liberated man gud akong style, so i really don't put myself in a state of thinking na i own the girl.. i always make it a point na its her choice, she's free to go anytime.. i have faith in her choices.. and i have faith in myself pud..

Same here bro same here...been living together with my GF for 6yrs+ now (she's in dubai since 03/01/07 ).. Children is not yet in the picture but marriage is clear for now...hehe

long distance bro.. wow, lisud jud na.. personally, i dont encourage long distance.. its rare breed makahandle ug long distance, and im afraid i dont belong to that rare breed.. so 6 years namo na long distance? how often do you meet in a year man? apas ka ngadto bro? naa ko migo, he left everything here and gi-apas nya iyang gf sa dubai pud.. hehehe.. gugma jud, ma-ahat lagi ug buhat ang dili normal na buhaton..

[earljahn]

para love na bro...

[jash_ville]

naintriga jud ko aning nemmo723 bah...

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I guess so....Never did ask my GF how much she loves me ...Scared? sad

on this part, i would beg to differ. like i posted in that other thread, it don't matter if you loved more than the other person. love is love, there's no hate or regret in that. afterwards ra na ang hate ug regret if proud ang person.. its pride man gud.. na-tandog iyang ego, and ppl go to great lengths just trying to undo what was done when it couldn't be undone anymore. the best way to get over such pride issue is very simple lng jud, but oh so hard to do. first accept the situation, and then learn to humble oneself. loving someone and losing isn't so bad man.. its a humbling experience which makes one even stronger and more beautiful inside.. a shining moment of a noble soul.

i dont vouch this for myself, because i have trouble with this myself pa, i vouch this for those people i have witnessed first hand.. makahilak gud ta sa kanindot, in awe jud ko for those kinds of persons who would humble themselves even when they have lost...

some ppl think this is ridiculous, but i believe it is very doable. i am beginning to practice it myself to the best of my ability. some would say na santos ra makabuhat ani, pero dili man tawn. and i think i can confidently say na for those who are able to muster the strength of character to humble oneself even after one has lost, nindot ra jud ang muhappen afterwards. :mrgreen: you will inherit the earth for whatever wishes you desire as one beautitude states ("blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth") but take care not to think about it coz it will only lead u to expectations and thus fall into the trap of disappointments and pride..

Well yeah you're right sad Nemmo723, love is love and people get bitter when they regret and with all their pride, people reach to a point where they say love was greater on the other side...but then let's face it, there are two persons involved a.) the one who got away and b.) the one left behind, so basically these two people have different sentiments about their relationship...

"loving someone and losing isn't so bad man.. its a humbling experience which makes one even stronger and more beautiful inside.. a shining moment of a noble soul."

yeah this is so right, i can attest to this, i have been in this situation and i never thought i could handle it with all grace and composure...it was very painful, there was 3rd party and i felt i wasn't treated the way i deserve to be treated but then i have to be strong enough to finally put an end to the relationship that i wanted so bad..yeah gugma lagi kuno...at first there were a lot of questions and i just could not find the answers (wala pko nag istorya ato! ehhehehe)...but then i prayed really hard, i stood by my faith, family and friends...

It was when i realized that i do have my faults in our relationship, at first i see myself as the victim but then i have to see the bigger picture then i started to get to know my self better and i really thought of how was i as a GF then and what could have i done to make things better but it's too let he got away with the other girl and left me no choice but to move on, it was hard, but i did the right thing...

Loving someone and losing isn't so bad after all, you just have to take one day at a time, believe of your worth as a person and that things happen for a reason for me it has really made me a better individual and to top it all wala jud ko naka-pangaway sa 3rd party or sa ako X! as in to think mau na akong buhaton when my friends suffer in this kind of situation...when it happened to me it hit me rock bottom...well it was the best decision i have done for myself..i think now i know better hehehehe.. i hope so...

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after sometime, nya wala gihapon... yes, i think it would be best to move on.. or you might end up waiting for nothing...

lisod sad na dba?

yeah that's what i was thinking lately..i don't want to wait in vain! hehehe

well actually it's been a week since we didn't communicate and see each other...it's a big step for me to let go...but i dunno what is it for him..this is not something new actually..coz this is how he is..he'll disappear and sunddenly again he will constantly ommunicate with me...now figure that out!

but i hope by that time he'll talk again to me, i'll be ok..i mean i would know what i ought to feel...

thanks generals

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Oh shoot ....forgot about that...my apologies still suffering from memory losses due to my medication .....*no kidding*


"I just hope that the guy (in case she likes/loves the girl) would make a move while there is still time. "

Guess this is no longer applicable...just hope regrets won't occur

Thanks, appreciate that

BTW, heads up always .....things will be brighter sooner than you think...

yeah whatever...i don't want to expect anything or to work on deadly and toxic assumptions hehehe..

thanks kido

[mr.suavi]

hmmmm... wats ur name d i?? basin kaila ko nimo.. hehe

bridge over troubled water??

[nemmo723]

wonderfully expressed smiley!! and i believe you know better na jud.. its things like these that even if you have amnesia, ur soul does not forget.. (i believe in the soul.. its the part of you that is eternal.. anyway, taas pud kaayo ang discussion sa ani na topic so ill just leave it to that.. hehehe..)

i will not extend more to ur expression, its very beautiful as it is.. :mrgreen:

id like to elaborate more on something i've learned also.. in the "ideal" sense, love truly never ends.. (some would say na this is an illusion pero kamo, mao lng na ako na-learn) it only ends when the person decides to end it. and examining it even more closely, this is the part where ma-tandog jud atong ego, (although we are not clearly aware of it, coz we get angry or bitter), the part when the other person decides to end his love for u while ur still hanging on to ur love for him. its true, two persons are involved jud in a relationship.. and the height of this love turning to pride or anger is when ur still so passionately wanting to continue it, improve urself, pero ang other person kay ni-biya na thus leave you hanging, lost, clueless, empty..

we are individualistic by nature, self-centered. we do things for our own cause, and this happening to us, we barely could understand how it would benefit us most na gibiya-an naman ta sa person.. ack! paet jud! kung ang pride pa mustorya, "ako pa ang nag-hago, nag-sakit, nag-make ug effort, unya ako pa jud nabiyaan.. gi-atay na lng kulang.. peste jud ning kalibutana, ngano nahitabo pa man ni sa ako nga maayo man kaayo ta na pagka-tao.." unya muabot dayon ang hate kung mucontinue ka ug dwell sa imong hurt ug pride.. "bantay lng jud to xa nagpasakit nko"

bitaw.. i just took the time to contemplate on such thoughts.. again, i salute u for having the courage of heart to examine urself how u were in a relationship. :mrgreen: not a lot of ppl would do so.. a lot are still blinded by their pride, and to some extent stop growing gani for many years to come.. decades even..

that is the wisest thing to do jud.. continually improve on urself even if wala na ang person u were "supposedly" improving for in the first place.. this is where the saying na its getting up after we fall that matters than not falling at all would make sense..

as for that guy.. hmmm.. dali pud xa naka-third party.. he has his weaknesses.. hope he fares well.. pero hinaut mag-andam xa kay mubalik ra pud na niya iyang gibuhat.. i've observed in different lifelines na in those situations, ang victimizer magconscience attack sa iyang subconscious.. in this case, he will have insecurities bothering him coz he will subconsciously fear na ma-third-party-han pud xa sa iyang partner at the moment. after all, nabuhat gud na niya, so what reason has he to think against it na dili na mabuhat sa lain tao niya.. he has to go to great lengths to purify his essence, depending on the severity of his act to cleanse it from that taint of dishonesty and deceit.

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hmmmm... wats ur name d i?? basin kaila ko nimo.. hehe

bridge over troubled water??

Mr. Suavi...

you think you know me...

you're the second person who has told me that...
maybe because the situation discussed here is quite common among many of us...

but i dunno if you really know me or what....

please share your views if you have something to say...

[:)...:)]

Sus Nemmo 723 better..bantog ra nag istorya nko hehehe..

well yeah i'm better now, more cautious and careful...coz there's a lot of hardwork to sustain a relationship and that simply means one has to invest time, effort, emotions and energy to make the relationship work...

yeah i can say that again! human nature at its best...we always think of ourselves...not all people can move up the surface and take the leap and see things in a bigger and wider perspective....

that is the wisest thing to do jud.. continually improve on urself even if wala na ang person u were "supposedly" improving for in the first place.. this is where the saying na its getting up after we fall that matters than not falling at all would make sense..

as for that guy.. hmmm.. dali pud xa naka-third party.. he has his weaknesses.. hope he fares well.. pero hinaut mag-andam xa kay mubalik ra pud na niya iyang gibuhat.. i've observed in different lifelines na in those situations, ang victimizer magconscience attack sa iyang subconscious.. in this case, he will have insecurities bothering him coz he will subconsciously fear na ma-third-party-han pud xa sa iyang partner at the moment. after all, nabuhat gud na niya, so what reason has he to think against it na dili na mabuhat sa lain tao niya.. he has to go to great lengths to purify his essence, depending on the severity of his act to cleanse it from that taint of dishonesty and deceit.

it took a while for me to learn to forgive..of course there are stages that we go through when we get hurt..but different people have different coping mechanisms and we cope up with difficulties at different pace...for that guy i have no grudge against him...i wish him all the best in his life..i forgave not necessarily because he deserves it but i deserve to move on and have peace of mind...