HELP How do GUYS show they love/like someone?

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ur welcome ... jst sharing my experiences and thoughts with you here.. (pataas man sab ni sa akong posts gud.. )

pride and ego issues aren't necessarily given in men's world. what im referring to is some men have the ego issue of "masking"/"hiding" their true feelings/intentions towards you for fear of being rejected or getting hurt or taken advantage of or looking a fool.. these types of men probably have had bad (extreme/mild--pretty much doesn't matter) experiences prior to meeting you. so i guess you'd need to deal with that particular case of pride and ego... (its a self-preserving hesitation).

i know some women who think that this is a given, and its a great error on their part because this prejudiced thinking only leads them to guys who are pretty much like that as well (haughty and arrogant characteristic). such bias against men will blind you to that characteristic defect in turn, so I hope you will slowly change that for your sake. sayang kaayo, ive known such pretty women who ended up with half-assed, jerk men, and its so disappointing and pitiful. i guess its part of their growing up.. fortunately though, some of them have been enlightend to reality na (all in their due time i suppose)..

as for his "essential criteria", action speaks louder than words.. so you'd need to really BE with him to slowly learn or know of that criteria. i really don't think you can truly tell what criteria a person seeks for by just merely talking about it. That part of the person you want to know about belongs to the getting-to-know stage na, as in spending time with him/her. Words are words, people put them up for a lot of reasons, for discussions, for impressions, sometimes for mere blabber/talk. but on that pre-courtship stage, you'd have to see to believe, not just hear about it. (trust me, you wouldnt want to jump into the pond without first testing how deep it is.. ) It takes some time to build such belief or trust in the person when he says that as that, and for this matter, when he talks about his criteria.. put him up to walk his talk, yet still giving him the benefit of a doubt. with that said, you'd need to prepare yourself as well if in case you find out that you don't fit his criteria. In the end, its still his choice whether he'll make an exception of you, or stick to his "beloved" criteria. i guess you can begin to learn about his criteria in a couple of dates or so.. remember, just because you went out with a guy on a date a couple of times doesn't mean you're a couple already. there are friendly dates, intimate dates, ug date2x lng.. bitaw good luck on that..

as for his family or circle of friends/groupies, its for him to decide (just as the criteria goes) which he will follow. In the case that he chooses you, families tend to be strict at first, but do soften later on to show real concern for you as well (you'd just have to give it time and perseverance, patience). Friends/associations pretty much stay neutral...

hmmm... i guess all i can say to you about this is this pretty much depends on the quality of your conversations/interactions.. i guess you can figure out the rest from here..

cheers!

oh thanks for that info on the pride issues...i guess you're right and well any sort of stereotype will never lead to a close to reality impression that certainly colors how you see or get to know the other person...regardless of gender...

yeah action speaks louder than words...words are cheap in this world...

guess i'll be checking on the quality of our discussion..if there is such a good one...

thanks a lot!

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u really like the guy, don't u? u don't asked this questions if wala lang nimo..

my won't matter...i just need men's point of view..and i really appreciate all those who take their time to share their brilliant opinion...

[Generals]

it all depends ra jud. some are torpe so you wont know. others are players so ma ilad nasad ang uban...

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it all depends ra jud. some are torpe so you wont know. others are players so ma ilad nasad ang uban...

so generals, can u tell me what is torpe and what is a player?...what are their moves?..

[Generals]

Torpe - bisan ganahan sa girl, pero walay buhaton...


Player - bisan dili ganahan sa girl, buhaton para mauyab or maybe for other purposes lang..?

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can you expound more bout the "torpe" and the "player" generals?

[Generals]

i just did.

ask me a specific question nalang. broad raman gud kaayo...

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i just did.

ask me a specific question nalang. broad raman gud kaayo...

ok to be specific..

if the guy is torpe, yes he might not make any move at all but there must be some signs or hints that he tries to articulate though in a vague vague manner

and if a guy is a player, what could be some of his moves...if you can share the very typical strategy of a player

(i think i sound so dumb with these questions..heheheh..but anyways a little info won't be so bad right?)

so generals..i'll waiting for all your ideas...

[nemmo723]

if the guy is torpe, yes he might not make any move at all but there must be some signs or hints that he tries to articulate though in a vague vague manner

and if a guy is a player, what could be some of his moves...if you can share the very typical strategy of a player

(i think i sound so dumb with these questions..heheheh..but anyways a little info won't be so bad right?)

hey smiley!

it would be unwise to go into defining these stereotypes deeply in ur head.. personally lng, the best you can do that i can suggest is to observe the guy with your own eyes, heart and mind.. kung maka-emphatize ka sa person, mas maayo. things like these (whether he's torpe or player) will certainly pop up in your radar for sure given that ur showing this much curiosity about the guy. if something is not right, ud feel it definitely na something's amiss or fishy.. so u need not worry about not being able to define these stereotypes. have faith in urself, be urself, and go get to know the guy. besides, if naa kay malibogan sa imong gibati, u can always ask here about that specific moment/instance. i think the people here, like Generals, can better help you with their opinions on a more specific situation than broad stereotype questions..

as the saying goes sa usa ka anime ako nakit-an before, you must "see with eyes unclouded by hate", (or in this case, unclouded by ur presumptions/predefinitions) in order to see the guy for who he really is..

mao lng na akong tambag nimo.. have faith my dear.. nice man kaayo na that ur asking all these questions, u are cautious and careful, (better equipped ka against tragedy), but take care also not to mud ur perspective of a person with all these pre-definitions..

trust your intuition..

good luck and bless ur heart! :mrgreen:

[Generals]

if the guy is torpe, yes he might not make any move at all but there must be some signs or hints that he tries to articulate though in a vague vague manner

so your question is what signs would they be?

it actually depends on the guy you are talking about.. If he is the kind of Torpe that shows signs, one of these signs might be doing something out of his way for you.