let me insert and address that "tell me if it's okay to have a child out of wedlock so that i could also teach my daughter about it" request. i'm not a parent but i can be a very good one.
now here are my lessons for your daughter:
1. you see those mommies or daddies raising their children by themselves? they deserve the respect that any married couple get. i know you would want to have a family like ours someday, but should you find yourself in a situation similar to theirs when you're all grown up, i want you to have the same respect for yourself as you have for them now. and no matter what happens, i will always be here for you and my love will be from east to west.
2. see their children? they aren't any different from the other children. they are neither to be pitied nor looked down on. you have a mom and a dad, but if you had either one only, you would still be the smart, alert, and loved daughter that you are.
3. it's okay to be single and loving it
4. marriage is noble and god-given
5. but it's never okay to be in an abusive relationship. i'd rather see you FROM a bad marriage than IN one.
see your five fingers? one lesson for each. remember them for life.