Surviving The Break-Up Blues

[P-Chan]

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bitaw bitaw bitaw!!! peru its all part of the word called "love"... heheh

OT: P-Chan.. then ngano man slim ka sa pic nimo?? lolz.. gibitok siguro na noh??

OT:dili bitok... sawa!

[glass_slipper]

just let go of everything...cry if you must...let go of all the hurt pangs through whatever method is comfortable for you...cry, vent, meditate, evaluate things, talk to someone you trust...if you want to be alone for a time, that's ok; but don't hesitate to ask help from people...

i know it takes time to heal, recover and be able to say that you are ready to move on, what is crucial in this stage is that you evaluate things objectively: try to pick up the pieces (what happened, what went wrong, what can you do to avoid falling into the same pit, etc.). now this requires honesty and humility on your part. the main objective is to learn from the mistakes from the past so as to prevent the same things happening in the future. at this point it would be beneficial for you to maximize other aspects of your life. now you have more time for family, work, friends, and other things that are important for you. may be you want to engage into a new sport, or hobby that you longed to pursue before but just didnt find time; now is the best time. for some, being more involved with society at large helps them recover faster; what is important is that you immerse yourself with people, engage yourself in worthwhile activities. this way you can redirect all those negative energy (hurts and all) and at the same time start anew by forming new relationships (not romantic though, until you're feel that you have already genuinely recovered.)

lastly, pray to God & meditate with scripture. no amount of human affection could ever replace the peace & love the Lord could give. pour all everything before Him. this is the best therapy. and i can say with certainty.

hope i was able to help. Wink Wink

[P-Chan]

pray like you never pray before..

[kiat_gamay]

eat all you can!

[Bigfoot Oracle]

We all crash and burn.

Perhaps you’re kicking yourself for not seeing the signs. Maybe you feel like you’ve been played for the fool. Perhaps you did the dumping and are having second thoughts. Before you go and drop out of society or start buying Mint Chip Ice Cream by the pallet, think about what just happened. Maybe it was a blessing in disguise. Maybe you just got saved from living for decades with the wrong person. At the very least, you can be thankful that you are not a celebrity, so your angst and embarrassment isn’t plastered all over every grocery checkout stand in the known universe. Small mercies.

If you’re lucky, you only go through a painful break-up once or twice a lifetime. Here are a few tried and true ways to weather the emotional storm:
Reconnect With Your Support System
Nothing beats a long talk with a good friend or close family member. They can be your sounding board, a supportive voice when self-doubt creeps up on you,or just a reassuring hand on your shoulder. It’s nice to have someone to lean on when you feel your life is falling down around you. Maybe put together that Saturday night movie club or a gourmet dinner club.

Scream
That’s right, vocalize your hurt. Give it a voice - a shrill voice with lots of rage and expletives. Then when you have no voice left, break something. Then stomp on it. Then cry. Repeat as necessary.

Make A List
What were the good parts of the relationship? The bad parts? Put them into columns and take a good hard look. Learn anything? Does it tell you anything about qualities to look for in a mate next time around? It should.

Do Not Call Your Ex
Oh look! There’s your cell phone! Their number is on speed dial! You’re two thumb twitches away from (dumb de dumb dumb) telling them exactly how they ruined your life. STOPPP! Do not call your ex! Delete him or her from your contacts list on all your phones. Write off any belongings you still have at his/her pad. Cut the cord and buy a journal…or some shoes…or something. Just, whatever you do, don’t call. It’ll just slow down your recovery. Consider making this pact with yourself.

----------------------------------------------The “No Contact” Contract:----------------------------------------------
I hereby pledge that I will not prolong my anguish by attempting to contacting my ex or to orchestrate any elaborate “accidental” meeting with him or her. My healing has now begun and I will avoid re-opening those wounds like I would avoid a bear trap in the woods. I promise that, by “contacting my ex” I mean every single form of communication from IM, to chat boards, to friends passing messages, to sending smoke signals from yonder mountain. I will not call or write, I will not try to reach him/her through the spirit world, and I will not think about my ex. Okay, I probably will think about my ex… quite a bit in fact. But I promise that this phenomenon will diminish over time.

Signed: (Your Name Here) __________________________________

Dated: (Today’s Date Here) _________________________________

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Avoid The Rebound Trap
Take some time to be alone and let your heart recover from the blow. Try to resist the urge to treat the wounds of old love with the anesthetic of new love. What your wounds need is oxygen. Use the time to reflect on what was good and bad with the relationship and what you want out of the next relationship.

Shake It Up
Try a new thing. Is there something you’ve always want to try but didn’t? Better yet, pick something your ex NEVER wanted to try (or never would try). It’ll take your mind off things, reintroduce fun into your life and help you break unproductive thought patters.

Run, Run, Run Away
We don’t mean permanently. Maybe just for a few days. Is there someplace you’ve been aching to explore? Sometimes travel helps you gain a distance and perspective from problems that’s otherwise hard to get. A massage couldn’t hurt either.

Try Retail Therapy
If you’re a guy, perhaps a new video game or gadget will help you fill the void for a week or so. If you’re a woman, well, you know what to do.

Adopt a Pet
Hey, don’t laugh. Animals are excellent grief counselors. They don’t offer unhelpful advice designed to make themselves more important. They don’t secretly roll their eyes at you when you tell them what went wrong for the billionth time (as far as we know). Plus, they tend to keep their eye on the big picture. You know, food, water, pooping. There’s a lesson there.

Work Out
Kickboxing anyone? Hgh-impact workouts are a great post-break-up release. Anything that allows you to use your anger in positive ways is good. Heck, tape a picture of your ex on a speed bag and go at it. Working out also helps you avoid other ruts like over-eating, drinking too much, or channel flipping until your thumb gets carpel tunnel. Or try Gabby Reese & Sheryl Crow’s six-week plan to better health and strength.

Go Ahead and Read "Those Books"
Skim your way to emotional well being. It’s okay, nobody will judge you. Especially if you keep strangely titled books like "Be The Powerful You," or "Good Riddance, I Miss You" safely hidden in the wall safe behind the framed Monet poster. There’s good advice in there.

Get Back In the Saddle
After some time has passed, take a break from self-pity and grab a cup-a-joe with a stranger. Start by definitely NOT trying to find “the one” again. Not ready? Maybe even you just browse the online dating sites… It couldn’t hurt.

I know, I know. What’s the point, right? I myself often wonder that same thing. I mean, what’s the use of going to the trouble of finding someone who’ll probably end up breaking my heart one way or another? Just why do we give everything to someone, when only pain comes in return? Why wait for something that might never come? The answer is “love”. Love truly does conquer all.

Imagine this: Somewhere in the world there is this amazing person walking around who is completely unaware that you exist and that you both are destined to be together. That person is attractive, smart, fun loving, and has an exquisite sense of humanity. Once you meet that person, you will feel as if you’ve been waiting all your life to meet them.

--Break-Up Survival Kit

• A journal, pens, a glue stick, scissors
• A stack of really good DVD’s
• A gym membership and workout buddy
• Aroma therapy (incense, oils, etc.)
• Hot new shoes (women)
• New video game (men)


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[anti-virus2000]

Thanks for sharing!

[Bashka]

lol.. i bought a new psp after it happen.. lol

[norz]

Cry as much as u can. feel the pain, it will make u stronger. accept and learn to let go. get on with your life and make yourself busy. move on. and let time heal u.

[princess_tswo-ling]

great advice there! hehehe

[meOwkyU]

FOODTRIP!!!! with berks!!! dba! limut jud blema!!!