Originally Posted by
SymphonyEtude
What if there is this girl. You like her and close mo but she doesn't spit out her problems.
You are always on her side. You stick with her all the time. You are always on her side at her worst. Your shoulders are open when she cries because of her problems but she will never tell you her problem.
Musulti sya sa mga minor problems but she will never tell you her very big problems. She will tell you about what it is but she won't fully explain it in detail. Mu ingon ra sya "I will end this conversation here in period because I don't wanna talk about it" . Am I doing it right of letting her solve her problem?
I'm worried because she might break. Well actually she is always breaking if she will remember her heavy problems and she doesn't wanna talk about it! She ended up crying in my shoulders and I left there sticking around her and nothing to do. I always compliment her to cheer up. But I have a feeling that my advices are not working at all anymore.
Mu ingon sya "dili man mo kasabot gud, dali ra ninyo ma conceptualize pero dili nimo masabtan kung unsa ka lisud" . HOW THE HELL am I suppose to understand if dili sya musulti kung unsa iya problema?!
Usahay bitaw kay makahimo sya ug doppleganger nga problem! Kanang sulti.an ka nya ug problema pero dili na mao jud na problema iya gihilakan! Naa pay mas labaw pa jud nga problema pero dili sya mu sulti!
Happened last week! She was drunk and depressed as hell cause of her problem. She was with her friends adto sa song hits. I trust her friends kay kaila nako nila. She called me nga okay ra daw sya! But I'm freaking worried so ako sya gi adto.an sa Songhits. In fact, why the hell is she calling me late at night on the first place?!
ako : okay ra jud ka ?!
ex : okay ra ko oi, lipong nako. ikaw nlng tapal sa ako shot beh, sundu.i nlng ko diri. Ay ayaw nlng kay layo ka!
ako : mu anha ko.
ex : ayaw lagi! okay rako! ngano man ka?! ( random words sentences etc.)
She was cursing me nga "P*ste ka y*awa ka ayaw lagi ko sundu.i! Okay ra lagi ko! ngano man ka?!"
Nag sulti ra sya ug random sentences and calling me late at night. I can tell that she is hell drunk and has a big problem again. So ni adto jud ko.
She was there wasted. I escorted her home. She was crying again on my shoulder tungod sa iyang problem but in fact that was only her minor problem! The real problem is covered up until she spit it out pagka ugma! Sulti.an ra ka nya about unsa pero dili na sya musulti sa problema nya in detail daun! Murag sulti.an raka sa title sa salida nga "titanic" dayun hantod dira raka makahibaw sa iya bug.at na problema! kanang dili ka sulti.an sa rest sa story sa movie ba
By the next day, she said that she was fine. She'll ignore that problem. NO! SHE IS NOT OKAY!
Unsay buhaton nako ani nga sitwasyon?
Should I just watch and let her be?
another problem I'm facing with my ex
she looks strong cause of her maldita personality but some parts of her are weak.
TS, I duinno if u know this or have experienced this....
Do you know the feeling atung bata ka na gaawayun ka sa imung ate/kuya/silingan ug sa dihang grabeng hilaka nimu? to the point na di naka kaisturyag tarung? remember the time na gipangutana ka saimu mama/papa/yaya why nihilak ka? and then u cant tell kay muhilak rakag samot imbis u spit it out?
its something like that.....
even I myself.... when I face the biggest problem before specially atung fresh pa ang problem, I don;t usually blurt it out immediately... I cover myface and cry.... sometimes kung naa ko sa opis, mudagan ko CR kalit and keep flushing the toilet para dili maduinggan akong cries.... (Happened the time na nabalitaan nako na nahitabo si SENDONG sa CDO and 5 of my friends died.
)....
she maybe doesnt want u to get affected, or maybe from what u said, maybe she's thinking na no matter how u advise her to do this or that, wala nay mahitabo kay its useless.....
sometimes ingana ang tao, when they lose hope, they give up and dont give a darn kung i-share ba nila or what...
they just dont wanna be this needy, emotional person....
just let her be, dont force her to blurt it out....
and I guess ur trying to help, but it isnt helpful anymore kung mamugos najud...
just let her be, some people just want a shoulder to cry on, to listen....
ever wonder why some people likes dogs and cats for companions? cuz those critters just sits in front of them, listens, and just stays there for the purpose of comfort... hugs... and cuddling them in the middle of the cold night....
good vibes....
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