Love Advice Badly Needed

[the_samwitch]

Hi guyz. Tig visit ko sa site always reading but never making an account. But I badly need guidance.

So heres the thing. Im 21 years old now and never had a girlfriend. Not that i dont want to but I never really found the right person to court. That was until 4 months ago. I have this classmate na crush nko since 1st year college. But never had guts to talk to. We are friends but cant say we are close. I think she sort of like me also. Fast forward to 4th year, she found herself a boyfriend. They were going out for about a year already. Now i have a job and didnt really think about her until i saw her in facebook and added her on ym. We chatted almost everyday and the feelings went back for me. And guess what? She broke up with her ex just a month ago.

I know it too soon for her to be in a new relationship but couldnt help it. I kept postponing it last time that i lost my chance. I didnt want it to happen again. So i ask her out a few times. We went out on dates together. But during this days we talked about her still being confused. About her ex. And i can understand that thats y im not pressuring her into a relationship. I just want us to get to know each other better. And i told her that.

Fast forward again weve been dating about 2 months now not really regularly but 4 times already i guess. We also always text and chat each other. Now the problem is now she kind of change suddenly. No longer texting as much as before and not chatting as much also. She seems always irritated when i try to talk to her. We talked and she said she wanted time because she was confused. Wanted to concentrate in work first.

Is she trying to push me away? do u think i was smothering her too much that she felt pressured? i do want to take things slow, im just pressured to make her like me and forget the other guy. I havent even touch her hand yet in the fear of sending the wrong message! What can i do to make things better?

[quirkychinita]

Hi!

I think she sees you as a friend.

But then with your frequent dates she sensed na giganahan ka nia and I guess she did not expect that.

Its a sign na kung mairita ang babae saimu, it means, she's not interested...

I know girls sometimes tend to become unpredictable.... Not your fault... were hormonal individuals....

She just saw a companion in you pero not a lover...

Im sorry if I offended you, but it's true... ask around...

Maybe its time you move on to the next LUCKY girl...

There's so many ladies out here just waiting for the right guy...

Here, let me tell you a few advise on how to attract a girl.

1. Tell her she's pretty...bisan mutubag nag "ATIK" insist that she is pretty... ayaw lang pag in-OA.
2. We girls are SUCKERS when it comes to chocolates.... Be casual, try eating chocolates daun share kunphay lang girl if she wants.
3. Maybe, try playing in a band... I dunno why but even me and my friends loves band dudes...busa gaka late kos trabaho sauna kay cute tong guitarist sa rockpool (EEEET!!!!)
4. Be a gentleman. These days, girls believe that chivalry is dead... pero we honor guys who open the door for us or offer their seats sa jeep.
5. Befriend the girl... Be urself... enjoy...
6. We girls love to talk... A LOT! kabihaw ko na sumo maminaw, pero minaw ra gihapon... then react na as if suko kaayo ka sa ex niya. We love Knights in shining armour!
7. Dont be corny... ay mi tagai ug pick up lines kay sumo.,.. aside lang kung kami mag una! LOL
8. lastly, be frank. If she seemed to enjoy your company and she laughs a lot to the point na malimtan na niya ang oras, ask her the question.
9. Basic flattery is a woman's weakness....

I dunno ha? But this works for my guy friends when they ask me advises....


Update me...

good vibes!

[THE KID]

tiguwang naman pud ko naka uyab ts...haahaha...og naa mo sulod sa taxi..or naa sa jip..kupti diritso ang kamot...dili lagi na masuko....give her time to miss u and give her time to move on...ayaw pud og cge og chase niya kai matuok nuon na...hhaahha...

[the_samwitch]

@quirkychinita i made my intentions clear since the first day man miga. so i dont think she misunderstood if i was there as a friend or as someone whos planning to have a relationship in the future. so i think partly she is open to that notion pud kay she entertained man. sayop ba ko?

i see. but kanang irita na part maybe im over reacting ra pud. i can get irritating man gyud sometimes. even my friends say that. hehehe i just dont want to let go then regret it later. its like i dont have patience and i didnt like her that much to wait. sayang man pud ang chance diba?

[the_samwitch]

tiguwang naman pud ko naka uyab ts...haahaha...og naa mo sulod sa taxi..or naa sa jip..kupti diritso ang kamot...dili lagi na masuko....give her time to miss u and give her time to move on...ayaw pud og cge og chase niya kai matuok nuon na...hhaahha...

i dont want man to make the moves pa man bai...kay like i said bag.o ra sila ga buwag sa iya uyab..dont want to send the wrong message... apir bai sa mga late bloomers hehehe

[Vino Kid]

nairita na kay dugay kay ka kapansin sa iya gusto.. just try bro, walay mawala sa imo kung imo iistorya ang gibati nimo kaniya.... basin seryoso kaayo ka mag istorya butangi pud ug twist gamay or joke joke nga msg.. hapak2x naman daun na or kusi kusi aguy kalami hehehehhehe....

[kuyabog]

Hi!

I think she sees you as a friend.

But then with your frequent dates she sensed na giganahan ka nia and I guess she did not expect that.

Its a sign na kung mairita ang babae saimu, it means, she's not interested...

I know girls sometimes tend to become unpredictable.... Not your fault... were hormonal individuals....

She just saw a companion in you pero not a lover...

Im sorry if I offended you, but it's true... ask around...

Maybe its time you move on to the next LUCKY girl...

There's so many ladies out here just waiting for the right guy...

Here, let me tell you a few advise on how to attract a girl.

1. Tell her she's pretty...bisan mutubag nag "ATIK" insist that she is pretty... ayaw lang pag in-OA.
2. We girls are SUCKERS when it comes to chocolates.... Be casual, try eating chocolates daun share kunphay lang girl if she wants.
3. Maybe, try playing in a band... I dunno why but even me and my friends loves band dudes...busa gaka late kos trabaho sauna kay cute tong guitarist sa rockpool (EEEET!!!!)
4. Be a gentleman. These days, girls believe that chivalry is dead... pero we honor guys who open the door for us or offer their seats sa jeep.
5. Befriend the girl... Be urself... enjoy...
6. We girls love to talk... A LOT! kabihaw ko na sumo maminaw, pero minaw ra gihapon... then react na as if suko kaayo ka sa ex niya. We love Knights in shining armour!
7. Dont be corny... ay mi tagai ug pick up lines kay sumo.,.. aside lang kung kami mag una! LOL
8. lastly, be frank. If she seemed to enjoy your company and she laughs a lot to the point na malimtan na niya ang oras, ask her the question.
9. Basic flattery is a woman's weakness....

I dunno ha? But this works for my guy friends when they ask me advises....


Update me...

good vibes!

very impressive words of practical and at the same time modern wisdom from someone who is so young but so smart, i could feel she excelled from hogwarts..

TS, read and absorb these words from the smart lady.. I could not add nothing, she said it all.

[vahnhelsing]

maayong buntag ts.
Gikasubo ko apan tataw kaayo ang kausaban sa imohang gihigugma. Apan ayaw pagpakawala sa paglaom.
Mahimong ning taknaa siya nagpanagana. Tingali lab-as pa diha kaniya nga panagbulag nila sa iyahang hinigugma.
Apan boot ko itambag kanimo nga mas maayo nga imoha siyang tug.anan sa tanan mong kabalaka
mahitungod sa iyahang kausaban. Dakong sugal ang pagpangulitawo. Usahay, mapakyas gyud ta bisan paman sa
ka timo-os ug katiunay sa atong pagbati. Ipadayag sa makausa ang boot ipamulong sa imong dughan apan ayaw
ipamugos ang imohang kaugalingon. Ayaw pangutana kung unsay iyahang hukom apan padayona lang gihapon ang
pakig higala kaniya. Hinaot niining pamaagiha makaamgo siya. Ayaw ikabalaka ang tanan mosampot sa makiangayong
panghitabo.
Ipaambit ko pod kanimo nga iampo sa kahitas-an kining tanan.

[quirkychinita]

very impressive words of practical and at the same time modern wisdom from someone who is so young but so smart, i could feel she excelled from hogwarts..

TS, read and absorb these words from the smart lady.. I could not add nothing, she said it all.

Hala ui! LIVER SPREAAAD (Bukad atay!)

pero tinuod man pud. Just got it from experience and from being "One of the boys".... Minaw dari, minaw dadto, so there you go... heheheh!!! thanks!

@the_Samwith,

From you’re question: @quirkychinita i made my intentions clear since the first day man miga. so i dont think she misunderstood if i was there as a friend or as someone whos planning to have a relationship in the future. so i think partly she is open to that notion pud kay she entertained man. sayop ba ko?
----Erm…. Naliki kog kalit…. Why oh why would that girl treat you that way?!?!?! Ka swerte ba nia na klaro na kaau imung pagsulti na u want her… well, Im assuming na u TOLD her VERBALLY (redundant!) na u want her as your girlfriend as in to the next level. Haaay, nalain kog kalit.

But anyway, looking at every angle, I think she’s just trying to be nice and don’t know how to tell you na she doesn’t want you as a BF but just as a friend… If I were that person who really never felt anything for the guy, I dunno what to say! I’d just enjoy hanging out with that person kay sabay man pud siya and he makes me feel special in a way like a bestfriend does.

Naa koy pila ka amiga na ingani ang style:
1. First day or two--Hmmm… I dunno how to tell this guy NO… Haaay, luoy kau… sige na lang gud. Sabay na lang sa mi kay total wala man koy buhaton ron.
2. Third day to one week… SIYA NAPUD? Haaay, saon naman ni Hala ui, ingnun na jud nako ni siya, hinay hinay… pero I hope di nako siya masakitan! God help!
3. One week to second week: ataya! Sala manjud nako ni wala nako siya naingnan, buotan man gud kayo siya, gilibri pajud ko niyag banana cue gania! Haaay…. I try daw nako unya napu….
4. Second week to a month: SUMO! SUMO! Siya na lang pirmi akong kauban? Nagmahay na akong barkada kay wala nakot time nila ha!?!?!? OMG! Sakit kayo akong pus-on kay gi dysmennorhea ko!!! Grrrr!!!! La nako kasabot unsaon na ni ron!!!
5. A month and beyond: Dili manjud ka kahibaw musabot buh! Sige na lag text, sige na lang panawag, sigeg hanggat! Ahhhh samok! Kung di ka madala ug pamugnaw, hala, isnab method na lang!

I know mejo sakit… actually sakit jud… pero this is reality…. We try to be nice at first and nay uban samu na dili kaau pranka…

But it’s true…

Reality bites!

Good vibes!!!

[kuyabog]

^^ pwede magpatambag pud ko nimo quirkychinita?

5. A month and beyond: Dili manjud ka kahibaw musabot buh! Sige na lag text, sige na lang panawag, sigeg hanggat! Ahhhh samok! Kung di ka madala ug pamugnaw, hala, isnab method na lang!

hala oi, parehas ra man ni sa thread ni hopeey kato how to say goodbye..