Husband cheating, should you tell wife.

[dexterdal]

The truth which has made us free, will in the end make us glad also?

[Ms.Beau]

basta ako, kung friends gali mo nako (married mo ha) then isa sa inyu ang nakipag affair nga kabalo ko, mao to akong stand. i will not be the one to break the news to your spouse, but if he/she asks me, I WILL TELL THE TRUTH. that's my moral responsibility to her/him and to myself.

@evs

i'm quoting my earlier post there.

the context on which i based my answer is that the spouse ASKED for the truth. my dilemma would then have to be, TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL? now if this person has come to the point of ASKING ME for some needed info, there must haven been a certain level of uneasiness on her/his part already, to say the least. and if this person was the private type, this would have been his/her last resort. point is that this person is looking for a way out of a problem and is trying to get some help. a friend's moral dilemma now is: should i tell my friend about the truth she's ASKING for? would the truth help her or not? not an easy question to answer. but i'm playing the what-if game here and i'll play it to the end--yes, i will tell my friend.


maybe if she will ask me that's another story. you don't have to be pakialamira to be a good friend, friendship is not measured through that, being there for a friend when they are in need, is what friendship is all about, not to meddle in their personal lives.

i totally agree. people should mind their own business. my answer is based on a context, and that is the "another story" you're referring to above.

[sprint]

if you're reallya friend, maybe you shld try to talk with the husband and remind him of what he is doing will surely hurt his wife. but I dont think you shld tell the wife because that is their life. even if you are a close friend of them

[surikbot]

kung dili na usbon, dili nalang sultian para wla na gubot mwahahahaha

[Zahara]

Cheating should not be condoned. But you also have to realize that it's not your business. You know what they say about messengers bringing bad news. In the olden times, they were killed!

What does your conscience tell you

As a woman, i would advice you to tell the wife 'coz it's not fair for her not to know. If im in her situation, i would appreciate it if my friends would tell me.

But, think about it really? If what you're going to do would only make the situation worst than it is, then don't interfere. Basin she will get mad at you kay di siya mutuo. Worst, i-deny sa husband and you'll end up not having them both as friends.

I was in a situation like this buit i did things differently. Since they were both my friends and i don't want to look bad and appear as homewrecker, i gathered evidence (pictures,etc) of the husband's indiscretion and mailed it to the wife. The result: they fought but at least, i wasn't included and i did what i think is right. Wa lang ko nagpaila.

[Mace_N_Rarity]

whenever i have to make a decision, i always put myself on the shoes of the other person..would it be fair for me if im in her position? would it do good on me?...im also a wife and i want the truth.i dont wanna be the last one to know...i will definitely tell the wife, i will not wait for the time that her husband might infect her with std...as the case may be.

i have thisr friend of mine....once when i was in her house..she told me how laagan her husband is..she told me some instances her husband did that for me are already clear signs of cheating. and then she said..she would rather pretend that everything is alright..rather than confronting her husband as she is scared that the guy might leave her.what really shocked me was when she said that she hates people who bring tsismis to her about her philandering husband. not that she doesnt believe them but because it will aggravate her pain...so if ever ill see her husband with another girl...i rather keep my mouth shut.

@captpoloy..they are both your friends..i presume that you know them by heart...try to assess the wife...are you sure she has no idea about her husband's "activity"? what type of woman is she? outspoken..reserved...etc. these things will give you an idea on how he might react if you tell/not tell her. and if you decide on telling her...be clever enough to back it up with evidences...u dont wanna be called a liar...

[Ms.Beau]

right on, Mace_N_Rarity. Some wives may not be ready to face the truth yet (a.k.a in denial), that's why for me, I'll just wait for the wife to ASK me.

[chinito chan]

yes you should. it might hurt the wife, but at least, the sooner she knows, the sooner the wound heals. come on, everybody hates being deceived, it is always better to be told the truth.

[iancute]

Yep! I tell the wife to cheat also.... that makes them even!!! hahahhaha

[baby_jenie]

hmmm..medyo lisod ni dah! are u sure that the husband is really cheating??