the ceremony of wedding... a NEED or NOT?

[bowee]

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^^ on the contrary.. most women dreams of wearing that white veil and gown that they can rarely wear all their life...

it is their ultimate experience to cherish wearing and striding down the long aisle with their dad/papa carrying them to the arms of their soon to husband...

Some if not, most women I know would say.. it is a chance of a lifetym to wear and relive that moment when your dad will carry you down the aisle... for them, its a sort of trance and magic that If they can replay it over and over again.. then they would...

Perhaps you might have experience a bitter and traumatic experience in the past and now your thinking that marriages are not the penultimate dream of closing down the hunt in the relationship... Well...again, contradictory to your beliefs.. there are a lot of women out there who still dreams of their perfect and blissful wedding...

Relationship is just like breezing thru a college course in school... some gets flunk and did not proceed to graduate... the most lucky few tend to graduate and receive their diploma (thru marriage)

I agree though.. Marriage is a life long struggle and commitment.. but hey... its a decision both of you must face from now on diba... SO.. enjoy the ride and let the thrill of it feel you..

Again only those who have had experience embittered and stormy relationships would think that marriage is just full of excuses and just an inconvenience...

My after thought lang...

[PseudoSurgeon]

Perhaps you might have experience a bitter and traumatic experience in the past and now your thinking that marriages are not the penultimate dream of closing down the hunt in the relationship...

Again only those who have had experience embittered and stormy relationships would think that marriage is just full of excuses and just an inconvenience...

My after thought lang...

I would have to disagree, wa man koy traumatic experience ani nga part. I've hated weddings since I was young. I think you based it on psychology nga mahate nimo ang something because of past experiences. Di lang ko ganahan, di sad ko comfortable gyud. Pero para nako rasad na. I'm not saying nga ana tanan. I'm surrounded by friends who've been planning their dream weddings from ever since I could remember. Even katong time nga wa pa mi kasabot unsa nang wedding/marriage. I guess I'm just different like that. Hehehe.

Di lang jud siya need for me. And di nasad practical these days.

[bowee]

well... maybe you just havent meet or perhaps have already met and not worked out relationship experience tingali ka before...

maybe lang, members in your family has some issues before with the word 'Commitment', it brought up on you an uneasy sense of false idea or hope in the word jud...

perhaps for you.. Marriage is just a passe and would somehow equate to nothingness in the end... that is why your having a hard time looking and appreciating marriage in its truest essence..

well i guess diff strokes for diff folks lang.. some stands on being in a relationship with no commitments, some stands being committed and closing that commitment in the altar..

It might not be practical nowadays getting married.. but it's sure is not practical living out for the sake of just trying trying lang...

anyway.. thanks for the nice inputs.. well appreciated.

[reginakrys]

yes, kay better man jud if legal inyong pagtipon.. even a civil wedding is a ceremony.. but you don't have to be too extravagant.. option ra man na..

wala man gani ko nagchurch wedding.. i never got to wear a pretty white dress and walk down the aisle.. but it's okay for me..

[mYta82]

church wedding is every girls dream jud, that's something that you can't take away from us....but it doesn't necessarily mean na dapat bongacious jud ang wedding,it can be a small affair lang gud, few of your closests friends and realatives....and gettingf married is one thing that as a a couple inyo jud na iplan ahead, meaning you guys get to save for it, and kung unsay kaya, go for it..if daku2 mog na save o di ba, pag engrande jud mog kasal...=)

[babygrace_pilapil]

need not! but for legality, pwede mnka ka settle for barato...like judge lang, then eat all u can after...haha

[hanybee]

need jud ang kasal ui..

[leyum]

in building a family need jud ang kasal for children benefits most especially... not necessarily bongga. but personally its not a need for me this time dunno if il get preg maybe ma-change ra akong perception in life considering my child's sake.

[lalala69]

A man and a woman needs to be wed to be united to have the blessing of procreation...
It is also important that both should be committed to there unique roles.
The wedding does not have to be bonggacious...

Adam and Even was married without any clothes and not in a church.

"The man and his wife were both naked and they felt no shame." GEN. 2:25

[rejiel]

karon panahona praktilay na...pero para nako kinahanglan japon mga legit ang pagtipon sa lovers, meaning bisan civil lang ba... bahala walay bongga nga handa...