Do you think I'm a bad Mother for my kids?

[Hammer_and_Sickle]

TS, i am a product of a single mother who started from scratch to raise two children.... i dont know your whole situation, likewise you dont know mine.... we have experienced hunger, shame, humiliation, threat and rejection from people who were supposed to be close to my mother... But instead of giving up, my mom persevered, sacrificed and dedicated her life in raising us... our troubles molded our awareness of the realities of life... My mom could have given us to our dad, who was very well off and very capable of giving us a good life.... Your situation is very familiar to me because we have almost the same situation, pero ikaw lang ang mother and i was the child.... My mom knew how irresponsible my dad was, so even though the inlaws can take care of us, she decided to raise us....who would've known, na bankrupt intawn ang datu nakung amahan... nagkawatak2x ilang pamilya.... if we were raised by them, dili unta mi ayahay karon... im just blessed to have a strong mom... You are so wrong to only think of the conveniences of your children....Character is formed through adversities... im apologizing for being imposing....makarelate lang gyud ku.... Godbless on your family...mas better if maguli mu....hehehe peace!

ot: maka-hilak mn sad ko ani bai

[kuyabog]

Maam, you should have gotten yourself a lawyer. You should have taken your kids with you and legally COMPEL your erring husband to support your children financially. You are within your rights to do that. Naa na sya sa Family Code. Especially if the guilty spouse happens to be your husband.

bai noel, i can not help but react here.

why wud she need a lawyer nga the ts does not want to have the children in the first place man? inconvenience ug burden ra na ang mga bata sa iyaha, while rich man kaha iya in laws, oh di ba? the ts herself said nga mamatay ra sa gutom sila if naa niya ang mga bata kuno!

[yvonne6]

i will be commenting both as a daughter and as a mother. my mom left us for good and never looked back, its been over 20 years and she has another family now. i know its a different situation but please let me elaborate. when she left us, mao na iyang reason, mas ma comfortable mi sa among dad who was working abroad before, now he is retired. truth is, dili lang financial ang importante sa bata, for me, its not the most important thing. maka adjust man ang bata depende ug unsay naandan. there were times that we were not so nicely treated by relatives and it could have been different if our mom was there to at least protect us. the father of your children could have been dating another woman because he is rich, are u sure your ex's gf is treating your kids right? its not usual for a mom to be away from her kids. sakit para sa imo but its easy to say that, at least ni try siguro ka, before ka ni give up on them nga dili jud nimo kaya. ang uban man gani, mas lisud pag kahimtang nimo but they are there for their kids. u can demand for financial support man sad para sa imong mga anak kay ila manang amahan. now, as a mother, you said u will not be offended man diba? i am a single mother of 4 kids, no joke. no financial support from the father, 3 from my previous marriage, 1 from an almost 7 year relationship, pulos failure, but thats life. it was so hard at the beginning but i mastered the skill of being a single mom and being self sufficient. i can only imagine kung unsa ang ilang life ug ako silang gibilin sa ilang amahan nga naa nay lain woman karon with kids, ngil ad kaau ug batasan ang babay and i bet iya lang daug daugon ang mga bata. its not an easy task pero dili ko gusto mabutang akong mga anak sa feeling nako sa akong mom, dakung pag mahay. until now im praying nga moabot ang time nga mapasaylo nako among inahan sa pag talikod namo. im not judging you but im just hoping that your kids will not be feeling how i felt towards my mom

[elvandesantos]

OT. TS i tot your lesbo

balik sa topic... in the end sacrifice for the better future sa kids will prevail!

[Vanity]

No, you're not a bad mother at all sis! You just did what you think would be best for the kids. Someday,somehow, your kids will Thank you for what you have done which is saving them from experiencing economic hardships which we are in right now. Just keep on communicating with them, and let them know that you may be physically apart for now, but you never left them in heart and in your mind. Move forward, and when they grow up, you will definitely be together again by God's Grace! Be blessed

[street_of_no_return]

there's nothing to wrong about it. mom knows best!

[Sand Man]

there's nothing to wrong about it. mom knows best!

I hope you aren't referring to all moms kay not all mothers are alike, and some moms are capable of doing despicable things to their own children.

[sui.caedere]

Only you and your children have the right to answer your question in this thread TS. How they will grew up and what kind of persons they will turn out to be, depends a lot on the decisions you make today.

Be a good mother to your children. Be worthy of the word - MOTHER.

You know what I mean.

[dearlabe]

I am sorry to hear about this TS but if I were in your situation I would have brought up my kids with me and not with their father.

You said you are an average-earner, career woman that should have given you the guts to bring them up yourself. It may not have been a a "luxurious" lifestyle as it is now with their father but it would have been a "luxury" to you as a mother to have stood up for your kids despite your financial incapacity. A luxurious life is not a need, it's a want.Your kids may have wanted that but do they really need it more than having you?

Many mothers have single-handedly raised their children to become good and loving persons. The road may have been a long and tiring yet they took it with enough guts, perseverance, courage, hardwork because in the end it's not always the luxury that pays, its the experience of having truly lived a life, one that you would not regret.

It's really about our choices and how we are happy with that. Peace in your heart dear TS.

[tsarlen]

well actually it depends man jud no.. at first kay ibilin unta nako ako baby sa province kaya ko work naa diri sa cebu man but d jud nako makaya bayaan xa. so ni ari mi last feb. 1 month pa baby nko adto nya mao pa pag pangita namo ug bhouse sa ako ate. HARD but i need to be strong for him..
i can see my boyfriend's cousin man gud layu ang mama ba nya awa karon layu pd and buot sa iya anak niya though naniguro xa work sa layu para sa iya anak, awa karon d magpatuo iya anak or to say d maminaw iya anak niya..
i earn 13k each month but i still have time/money to buy toys, clothes(ukayukay lang kay mga nice and branded). d man pd jud neccessary nga luxurious life..

a hug, kiss, smile sa ako baby mawala tanan kasakit nimo..