Do you think I'm a bad Mother for my kids?

[Rider]

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T.S., I think you did what's best for everyone involved. Just so you will know, that opinion is coming from a father of four, ages 21, 19, 10 and 2 (with another one coming out next month).

[unique]

just like the real mother in king solomon's court, she'd rather give her child to the other mother rather than physically slice and equally divide the child.

[GuyOfYourDreams]

its the purpose that matters.. more than the act.

[reginakrys]

if it were me, the last thing i'd do is be away from my kid.. yeah, basin idealistic ra kaayo ko but then i think dli jud na kapulihan ang mother's presence sa ilang lives.. and if i were to leave them to someone, i'd make sure nga that someone's very trustworthy and will really focus on the kids' physical as well as emotional needs.. you said your husband is irresponsible.. do you think he's setting a good example of himself to your kids?

you said you're an average earner and you can't give them a luxurious life.. but you see, you don't have to spoil them - living simply will do.. with your income, will you not be able to feed them 3x a day on your average income? will you not be able to give them decent clothing and shelter? ako, for as long as i can provide them their basic needs, then i will fight for my right to be their primary caregiver.. i would want to be physically present in their lives, to really see them grow up and mature..

but still, i won't say you're a bad mother.. dli man lang baya black and white ang world.. and i'm not saying what you did was wrong, just because i would have done things differently.. i just hope you really do have their best interests at heart..

[black_vixen]

sa g-ingun pa why ma hadluk man ka nga kamao man ka mo work....mangitag kwarta.

[yelow]

for me lng ha,,lisud na au na kwaon balik imu anak ts kai na anad na cla sa rich environment,,pero na ra jud na sa pag disiplina,, pero for me your not a bad mother ois hope igka daku sa imu anak maka sabot ra cla para sa ila imu ge buhat good luck ts

[PURPZ LOCKHEART]

Thanks a lot to everyone who shared their views on this matter. I truly appreciate it. We all have different views and opinions on this, but what is important we are all standing up for our different values. There is no right or wrong with each of our differences in looking up on things. I must say that I have truly learned a lot on your posts sharing different views from different perspectives of your lives. At the end of it all, irregardless of anyone condemning me or agreeing with me. I still am the best judge for myself. I did something for the best interest of my kids. You may not understand it fully coz you are only looking from the outside and it's not your situation. Nevertheless I have gathered possible information and thoughts for me to ponder. Just so you know at this time there's never been any problem with me and my kids, and our relationship is truly fine. I teach them to be GOD-fearing and if they have that value, it surpasses any value in this world. That should be the best foundation in their soul for them to become good citizens someday. Thanks ISTORYANS! God bless us all. Cheers!

[FukenGruven]

TS...sounds like you're just looking out for the welfare of your kids, since you did stated that you can't support them financially,i admire your honesty and being a parent these days isn't exactly easy both emotionally and financially...as long as your kids are happy, you're happy and you still get to spend quality time with them, you're an ok mom...let's just hope your ex hubby is doing his part and not exactly spoiling them....

[ace_82]

Dili ingon ana kasayon sa usa ka inahan nga malayo sa anak,as a mother I don't think makaya nko. . .the fact nga imong gi antos ang kasakit nga malayo sa imong mga anak para sa ilang kalipay saludo kaayo ko nimo, as long as sigurado ka nga happy ang imong mga anak, walay problema. You have your reason nganong naa sa imong ex husband ang imong mga anak, others may not understand that reason.

[emow]

people really do have different values.... if i were in your shoes, if kabaw ku aku partner datu pero inutil ky irresponsable, antuson naku pagbuhi.... through that sacrifice, makita sa akong mga anak unsay realidad sa kinabuhi.... kanang kaprichu, temporary ra kaau na... tinoud, comfortable imung mga anak karon....but i doubt they will have character.... you entrusted your children to an environment through which your own husband has become irresponsible? ambot lang ha.... the values people learn through adversities is more important TS... who said life is easy? The lives of your children will not always be comfortable....kaila kag mga anak sa datu na na anad sa kaprichu ug wala na anad sa kalisud? nangapobre intawn.... my girlfriend said it best when she related her life.... she said, her mom cannot give them the comfortable life but her legacy is the fighting spirit that they have developed through adversities... you just taught your children, choose money over sacrifice...choose convenience over struggles.... tinoud, they may feel hungry if they will be raised by you, pero kung malampas na ninyu, dili nana cla magutman...they would have built their character through hardships... that is something you fail to see...