Is he my son?

[elvandesantos]

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like i said in the first post, i married her out of responsibility for i believed and convinced that the baby was mine.

wah! WTF. support nlang tah sa divorce law hehehe

[kuyabog]

as long as you love each other. why question it? it could lead to a downside to your marriage.

TS support nlang sa divorce bill

you know my vote if madayon ang referendum sa divorce bill.

[walker]

Wa diay ka nag "what if" sa imong utok while naghinay-hinay ka ug tangtang sa iyang panty??

Kani jung toyi² sa mga batan-on bahh...

bro sandman, kato nanangtang ka ug panty sa kilid sa catacombs, nag "what if" diay ka ato?

[reginakrys]

TS, let's say nga you have definite proof nga that child is yours, then what? will that be enough for you to try to make your marriage work?

if, on the other hand, naa kay proof nga dli na imoha, what do you wish to bring about by telling your wife's ex about his son?

[rAiNe_]

ill have to be honest, the reason i got married was not love but responsibility. abi nako ug ako ang father sa iya gi preggy kay ako man gud naka una. she had a bf who i thought was an ex at the time.

waaaahhhhhh laina sad paminawn ani ui..
pakasal lang tungod ana kay nabuntis xa.
karon doubtful pa jud ka..
basin diay isolated na case sa imo wife.
basin sayo ra xa nanganak.

ikaw man kaha nakauna ana? ngano doubtful paman ka?
saonz ka

[zrach]

have you talked to your wife about this?

[JezzyCalm]

mao jud.. lain kau para sa girl noh.. ikaw bya nkauna ai.. den kron deny2 nka.. sakita oi.. she really loves u kay she gave herself sa imu gud..

[yiennahs]

TS, feeling naku ba
kung niregret man ganeh ka pag-ayo nga nakapamabdos ka niya,
mas niregret siya nganu gihatag niya iyang self sa person nga walay amor niya.

[burikoy12]

First of all, the foundation for all marriages should be LOVE. Pero in your case, you took the leap because of RESPONSIBILITY. The worst thing you can do is start building your marriage with DOUBTS. That marriage is doomed to fail.

Nakasal ka na for whatever reason. That is immaterial. Don't live in the past. The present truth is...nakasal na mo. So karon naa kay problema, ato kunong tabangan ug thresh out kay mora'g nagkagubot pa ni's lukot.

1. Have you talked to your wife? Imo na ba siyang gipahibalo sa imong dilemma? Para nako unfair kaayo nga nijump dayon ka into conclusion nga giilad ka niya tungod lang kay 8 months ra iyang pregnancy. You were her "first", sure ka kaya ni wifey nimo magpahilabot sa lain? Tan-awa sad iyang mga lihok while mag-istorya mo. Naa ba'y signs (dili kaharong ug tan-aw, nervousness) nga namakak siya? Bear in mind though that accusing your wife of two-timing will be devastating to her if she were innocent.

2. Wa pa gani mo nagkastorya sa iyang OB Gyne. Ug dili ka salig sa iyang OB get another professional medical help/advise kay basin unya ug you are giving much ado about nothing. Doctors are not perfect pod, usahay masayop sila'g kwenta. Daghan na ko nakadungog ani nga istorya nga 8 months lang nanganak na.

3. If ma-establish nga dili imong anak, that is enough ground for the annulment of your marriage. Kay wala man ka niya pahibal-a before mo gikasal.

4. Mora'g troubled kaayo ka. Ayaw padala. Wa ra's katunga nang imong problema sa uban. You mentioned about guns. Dili na maoy solution, Dong. Solution na sa mga talawan. I'm sure you are not that.

5. Motoo ba ka'g lukso sa dugo? Unsay nafeel nimo kun imong kugoson imong anak? Motoo ko ani kay nahitabo ni nako. First time I saw my daughter, mora'g nabali ako kalibotan sa kalipay-wa na gani kinahanglan nga sultihan ko nga ako'y amahan adto. Wala lang mi nagkadayon sa girl.

In the end, imo na na nga choice TS. Tambag ra mi taman. Kaming imong mga igsoon sa istorya wish you the best. Unta'g happy ending ni.

[reigel99]

the biggest mistake i have done here is getting married because the gf was pregnant.

i hope others will learn a lesson from this.

you marry for love and nothing else.

And thinking, you might again do a mistake....

Let's try using our "imagination"...
then here's a situation...
in your hand, you have, let's say, matchbox.
2 matchboxes and a super glue...
then you were told to glue the matchboxes together...
and you did as you were told...

now, the matchboxes were then given to you to own...
it came to your thinking, you want to separate the matchboxes...
and you did.... you don't want them together...


now using our "imagination", what do you think happen to the matchboxes??
maybe, torn a part?... then some scratches?.... one of it is now broken to pieces??
the point is, the matchboxes would not be the same as what it is before...

same as marriage... both of you were tied...
and if both of you try to separate,
either one of you may then be hurt badly... or both...

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TS, upon reading sa imo mga reply, murag wala pa nimo sultii imo wife...
sultii bro...