i'd rather lose them.. i don't want to have them kept in a place where i can still find it after a long time of being seperated from this guy, lets say my EX, and i'm married already.. if it was a bad relationship, i don't want to remember how much pain i've been through because of those letters.. so why would i keep them? but in the case of it belonging to the person i'm married to, then it's fine..