really can't take it.. badly needs help and advice

[dearlabe]

Hi sis I'm sorry to hear about your agony. In your situation you have 3 options:

1) Continue living with your inlaws and that means more patience and more understanding with the people around the house. Kapoy pud bya ng mag puyo ka nga nay kalagot sa imo rapud kauban. Wlay peace of mind.

2) Go back to your parent's house. I think you'd be better there. The last time adto mo puyo ang imong issue kay "kaikog" raman diba? Kay napasad didto ang imong brother's family pud. Ayaw lng kaikog, basta molihok lng pud mong duha sa imong bf, help in the household chores, find work, contribute sa finances sa blay. Ok rman na, kay imo bya ng family. Asa man diay ta mag ask ug help diba nila pud? Wagtanga lng pud tong pride sa imong bf nga kay salig laki sya adto pud gyud mo dapat niya. Unya ingon anang wla kay peace of mind sa ila? Adto ghapon ka? Malas ng ingon ana oi. Samok kaayo na.

3. Get your own place (soon). Since dli pamo kaaford now to settle on your own, this should be your goal. Lihok lng gyud mo, kugi lng gyud para sa inyong baby, family ug sa inyong future.

You're still young pa sis. Daghan pamo maagian. Karon rana. Kugi lng gyud and don't lose hope. Good luck!

[Iamalbertrebs]

Patience is a virtue.. antos gamay unya work hard para makabalhin mo sa imong bf og maglahi kay kung diha magdako inyong anak murag lisod na kay masunod nya niya ang kinaiya

[walker]

you have to get out of there.

i know that is easier said than done, but that is the best immediate option u've got. every moment in that house is a very stressful existence.

perhaps go back to ur parents muna maam. continue your studies, or find work, anything decent and that would be a good start on your own.

sakit gyud mangipon, strive to be on ur own roof.

[gurlydalma]

Naa jud ingon ana na batasan na sabtonon kaayo! But all I can advice you girl, finish your studies and be with yourself always even to your bf's family. As long as your in good terms I know God will provide you with everything. Antos lang gamay gud...!

[azinec]

naay trabaho ang wife sa imo bro-in-law??

[chinody]

Unsay trabaho sa imohang bf?

[yvonne6]

@irishe : nindot imo advice..haha.. maka tawa ko and ur right, as long as wala koy nabuhat daotan sa laeng taw and i dont have to owe them anything.. i know justice will be on my side.. bwahahaha..!

@yokam88 : ma-ikog na ko sa ako parents mo puyo oe kay they are taking care of my brother's child man pod.. didto bitaw mi puyo before pero ako uyab kay siya byay laki then dapat siya nay mo accomodate namu.. kung asa ang laki tu-a man jud na ang baye..

@yvonne6 : sis, it's easy to say but so hard to do.. basin worse pa ako ma experience nga stress kaysa sa balay sa ako uyab if we have to live on our own considering that i just recently graduated and don't have enough to provide bisan ako bf.. we are a young couple.. if u do the math ang gatas, diaper, rent, 3 meals a day, pamasahe, kuryente, tubig, and miscellaneous needs.. paet!

believe it or not, dili raman ikaw ang ingon ana ang situation. kadaghan diha nag lain nga mga young couples and ni survive man sila. u will not know unless u try, pero imo manang decision. if u cant move out yet, then i suggest, deal with the situation na lang. u cant be too stressed out emotionally and mentally and save some pennies. kung tanaw nimo worth it ni kaysa mo adjust ka financially, then its your choice. para lang nako, bahala siguro ug mag utan ko kada adlaw basta lang malinawon akong pag puyo. lisud kaau nang nakay kauban sa balay nga sayo pa lang sa buntag mao nay hinungdan nga saputon ka

[neurain]

aw dubol tym jud mo duha para makabalay mo

[anm]

mas lisod jud sis kung ang parents jud sa imong bf ang imong kontra. mas maayo nalang na kay wife ra sa imong brother-in-law. pait na jud kaayo if 2 na ka families ang mag-ipon sa 1 ka balay.. kay naay mga values nga contradicting kaayo... maayo na imong principle, paninguha para makahawa mo dha.

[mickaela]

believe it or not, dili raman ikaw ang ingon ana ang situation. kadaghan diha nag lain nga mga young couples and ni survive man sila. u will not know unless u try, pero imo manang decision. if u cant move out yet, then i suggest, deal with the situation na lang. u cant be too stressed out emotionally and mentally and save some pennies. kung tanaw nimo worth it ni kaysa mo adjust ka financially, then its your choice. para lang nako, bahala siguro ug mag utan ko kada adlaw basta lang malinawon akong pag puyo. lisud kaau nang nakay kauban sa balay nga sayo pa lang sa buntag mao nay hinungdan nga saputon ka

sis i do believe, don't worry!..i'm not thinking that i'm the only person dealing in this type of situation sis, since i didn't mention any or something! that is why i'm here for a a few advices especially from those people who experience or dealing the same case as mine.. uu naay ni survive sis, but that doesn't guarantee a 100% survival and if you are too hasty with your decisions just because "DMD" ang show, it would lead u too nowhere.. i'm the type of person whose patient and if the situation is not too crucial for me to make abrupt decision then i don't.. i take the time to mend things if ok lang.. i'm not a hypocrite.. moving-out would just mean that there is no way we can make it OK.. okay?! hehe.. it was a relief for me to know and have the advice from one of our fellow istoryans here that as long as i'm not stepping on one's life then i'm not liable or oblige to something.. right now i'm doing my best to excel in my career, have a good life, and kibir with hir.. LOL! mao to xa