What to do about a daughter who has been doing NOTHING since graduating from college?

[BloGgerGurL]

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Ma, i don't want to be like this for life it's just that i don't know where to start..
Ma, i have an emotional problem, im depressed
Ma, Stop pressuring me.lol

so you're the daughter then ha?

well, you know what, you're not alone with it, your mom is with you.

[kerengkeng42]

wake her up! obviously wala pa na ni sink in sa iya.

she definitely has to grow up, she has to face another chapter nasad if she really wants to evolve as a person...

[Soul Doctor]

sulti sa uban swerte kay wala nag drugs, wala nag kiat, dili mulaag.

PERO, all she does is eat, play on the computer, sleep, eat, play on the computer, sleep, eat, play on the computer, sleep, eat, play on the computer, sleep,dili gani manglaba sa iya clothes, usahay ra mohugas plato.

i am tired of her!

tapulan?
dapat tagaan nimo og task.
ayaw pagamita sa computer unless nanglaba na siya.

entitlement mentality ni maam.
basin imo siyang premyohan kung naa siyay mabuhat nga maayo or ma-achieve sa bata pa siya (which is not always right).
asa man diay iyang papa?

inig human og kaon dapat siya maoy muhugas sa iyang plato.
ayaw osa pabalika sa kwarto unless iyang gihugasan ang plato ug kutsara nga iyang gigamit.
you own your house, you lay your own rules.
kay naa sila diha kinahanglan sila mofollow.
rules are important,
they push kids to grow
and if they do not like your rules
they are always free to live on their own.
which forces them to grow independent.
they will need to find a job then to live on their own.

palabha, paplantsaha, palimpyoha sa iyang kwarto.
palutua sad siya or tudlui siyag luto para naa sad siyay skills.

usa sa makahook sa bata sa computer mao ang ilang kakulang sa basic survival skills.
since dili sila confident sa ilang self ug sa reality adto sila retreat sa ilang other reality or virtual world.
didto maayo sila. ex. dota, idate, etc.
didto daghan silag mabuhat, daghan silag friends.
daghan moappreciate nila.

[Soul Doctor]

she has been relaxing since.

di gani magtuon.. naka graduate ra man. karon nga humana..super relax gyud.

lupig pa nya nakadaug ug jackpot sa lotto. dalaga na pero iya pa mama ang mulaba sa iya underwear..waahhhh

sayop na nimo maam. imong gispoil imong anak.
wala diay ni syay papa diri karon?
usually man gud out of guilt kay wala ilang papa, i-spoil sa mama ang anak. hatag tanan nga gusto. dili patrabahoon.

unsaon pagkakita sa bata sa value sa work
kung sa inyong balay pa daan wala man nimo siya patrabahoa?

akong anak ingon ana man sad, pero i lay the rules.

1.) kung naa siyay hagbong sa school, siya maoy molaba sa iyang clothes.

2.) kung masakpan nako nag magduwa og dota sa school or internet cafe duol sa school--siyay palabhon sa iyang uniforms
kung naa siyay time mag duwa siyag computer then she have to find time to wash her uniform and clothes.

[sui.caedere]

Thanks so much to all who posted and gave advice in my thread.

I am closing this now.

Kind regards to all.

Goodbye.

[john^^]

your daughter will always be your daughter...talk to her as if like your talking to yourself..talk something inspiring...something that will make her realize her current situation right now...your her mom and im sure she'll listen to you..and do not stop showing your love for her...

[kajrot1]

hey every person have different plans in mind.
wla ta kabalo ur daughter is just waiting for that big break(opportunity)
it's not like she's been like that for many years so give her some time