Wo Ai Ni: Regarding Relationships with Chinese and Chinese-Filipinos

[wikerfish]

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if u'r a pinoy, naka-uyab nkag chinese? or vice versa, are u a chinese nga naka-uyab ug pinoy? how did ur relationship go, did it work out? adjustments ? parental/familial interferences?

or even if not, anyone, unsa inyo masulte about this? advice? not necessarily pinoy-chinese, pwede pud muslim-christian relationship....or whatever nationality like african-japanese... hindu-french....etc...

PS i'm not being racist okay.

[gb]

wikerfish are u talking about interracial relationships?

[vern]

I don't see why this is an issue anymore except for the prejudice.

[crinkle]

^but maybe he/she's just asking about how relationships go if cultural gaps are present.

[wikerfish]

yes inter-racial relationships.......just wanna know knsa dre nkasuway, and what happened. did u make it "thru the rain"?

[crinkle]

well, ako, my first ever real boyfriend was 100% Chinese. at first, we were kind of hesitant to tell his parents about our relationship because everyone was expecting him to date a Chinese girl too. But we fell in love, then blah, blah, blah... until we no longer had a choice but tell them about us.

it wasn't a huge problem, though because before we became a couple, i was first and foremost, his bestfriend for a year or so. i was already used to hanging out at their place with some friends, so his parents already had an idea on who i was. so when they found out that we were already together, his father kind of reacted negatively about the idea but eventually, he got convinced that we were really "clicking" as a pair.

soon, i was already dropping by their house--even when my bf wasn't around--coz his mom would call me up and invite me for a cooking demo ( his mom didn't know her way around the kitchen ) and occasional party planning and stuff like that. it was really fun. too bad, it had to end. he had to go to the US and we know we couldn't survive a long distance relationship. that was it.

gi narrate jud ang life.... hahahahah....

[gb]

ive been through this twice, it's up to u both if u want to make it work. there are cultural differences but u can to work it through if u care about each other. it didn't work for me coz i was still young then. i dont see anything wrong with it. so if u like each other i'd say go for it.

[mysteryman]

hmm.... ana diay mangita nya ko chinese. hehehhee

[giver_bert]

i'd been in a relationship with a 100% chinese.. it was 4 long years of endless struggle just to keep of fire of love burning.. one thing that i realize cultural difference could sometimes be more than enough for a relationship to reach it's virtual collapse.. it's a painstaking experience when you accompany your girlfriend at such an unholy hour, only to end up you'll part ways everytime you reach the danger zone-that is at least 10meters before their house gate.. i never had regrets.. though i'm not sure if i would still plunge into the same kind of relationship..

[CrasHBURN]

I'm chinese... my girlfriends (ex's) arent... or arent anymore...
My parents are after the quality of the girl (batasan, lifestyle, mature level, looks, etc...).. not the race... but my mom said... "if possible lang, chinese"... so wala'y pressure...

In my side... I had no problems on race-related-issues since though... coz mo depende ra gyud sa tao... i have my business, i'm super busy, money rulez, and most important... I have a good family... UNDERSTANDING ra gyud ang problema pirme.. not the RACE...