What to do about a daughter who has been doing NOTHING since graduating from college?

[gurlydalma]

ipa sulod nalang na siya sa kumbento basin d ay mas ganahan siya mo serve sa Ginoo.

[burikoy12]

ipa sulod nalang na siya sa kumbento basin d ay mas ganahan siya mo serve sa Ginoo.

Posible sad.

[ayki]

omg. abe nako akong mama ni join ug istorya.net. LOL!
fresh off college pa sab ko, but just waiting for graduate school to start as well.. that's all i do, sleep.. eat.. go online.. mura na kog mabuang!! hahaha. boring kaayo!!

pero dang, TWO YEARS na? pheww. nagsalig ra jud na siya.. everything is provided to her even though she's not doing anything. pressure her to get a job.. take away her luxuries aron maningkamot!

[ed168III]

ako ma advice is, be nice to your daughter, make her feel shes important, provide good food sa kitchen give her load sa cp, treat her well, look at her with hope, make her feel important, smile before her, give her joke, time wil come she wil realize the family needs her help too, im sure shes going to help the family. by the time maglisud namo, or ang family naa sa ubos, she wil be your savior. ur daughter hav everything, gwapa, bright, kana lng walay attitude pro ma usab mana sya. its just her bad days now, im sure naa syay problem inside of her, pro dli lng jud nya gusto ishare sa inyo, so during this time treat her well. im sure she wil be your savior.

basta be nice to her

[sui.caedere]

omg. abe nako akong mama ni join ug istorya.net. LOL!
fresh off college pa sab ko, but just waiting for graduate school to start as well.. that's all i do, sleep.. eat.. go online.. mura na kog mabuang!! hahaha. boring kaayo!!

pero dang, TWO YEARS na? pheww. nagsalig ra jud na siya.. everything is provided to her even though she's not doing anything. pressure her to get a job.. take away her luxuries aron maningkamot!

short of throwing her into the streets, we dont give her any luxury at all. oh except for the broadband connection, which the family needs...which she used to access her anime favorites.

if we cud afford it, graduate school would have been fine with her. otherwise, she seemed like an ET residing in our home

[sui.caedere]

ako ma advice is, be nice to your daughter, make her feel shes important, provide good food sa kitchen give her load sa cp, treat her well, look at her with hope, make her feel important, smile before her, give her joke, time wil come she wil realize the family needs her help too, im sure shes going to help the family. by the time maglisud namo, or ang family naa sa ubos, she wil be your savior. ur daughter hav everything, gwapa, bright, kana lng walay attitude pro ma usab mana sya. its just her bad days now, im sure naa syay problem inside of her, pro dli lng jud nya gusto ishare sa inyo, so during this time treat her well. im sure she wil be your savior.

basta be nice to her

her major is computer applications. that is a course that just can not be left stagnant, and TWO years a dangerously ancient time in the computer field.

[sui.caedere]

ipa sulod nalang na siya sa kumbento basin d ay mas ganahan siya mo serve sa Ginoo.

mura ka psychic hehehe.. actually, i already brought my daughter sa usa ka monastery hoping to expose her on that option.

pero she said, mag madre sya provided naa internet ug cable tv didto sa monastery.

[sui.caedere]

only parents going through the same problem could probably relate to this question. and for those who are not parents yet, or have not gone through something like this, dont really know the pains of the parents. honestly, no matter how good your were raised, or bad, its still your own path that u follow later on in life. its unfair nga sa parents i put ang blame. lets face it, once the kid is in school, the longer the time they spend with their classmates, other people. of course, daku lang gihapon ug influence ang values from home but do r u familiar of the saying, if u were not once young and stupid, u wont grow old wise. suerte lang kaau na ang ubang taw nga ang ilang path is straight all throughout life. pero we are just human beings, daghan ta ug experiences maagian, naa ang mag midlife crisis, identity crisis, naa ang unsure ka kung unsa imong gusto mahitabo sa imong life. dili na nato puede ipugos sa taw. ang besides, success is subjective to every person. not because someone has a good career and a nice paying job means they are successful, yes, but only in that sense. how about in other aspects of life? ako lang noh, maybe this gal is burnt out. maybe just giving herself a break. ang uban man gani, sa pag eskwela pa lang gabinuang na. at least kani kay nahuman. give her time to determine what she really wants. 2 years is long for u na who sets the rules what is long and what is not? para nimo taas na, how about her? yes, we maybe proud to see her work...what then? she got a job but got pregnant by a married man? example lang. would u still be proud? what im saying is, ayaw kau tanawa ang unsay wala pa niya mabuhat. dont forget to look at what she has done sad. start from there. maybe she needs help and understanding. dont pressure her too much lang sa. anak man jud na nimo, dapat ikaw ang mas makasabot niya

yah, i have been trying to understand her. i dont have much choices have i?

but everyday i see her lying on that bed, the pain in me just mounts and accumulates..

[kitty_kittens]

I have no idea who she confides with, except perhaps her pillows. She does not talk to me nor to her mother. She is an island by herself.

I do not have resources to afford a psychologist. Thanks for the suggestion.

BTW, no, I was not here during her formative years.

So in short sir, she rarely talks to anyone? maski mag chat sa net dli japun xa? isolated na dai kaau xa ana. Makuyawan man sad ko ana sir, makahinumdom ko sa ako sister. Ingon ana pd xa sa una pero high school student pa to xa, cge mokmok sa kwarto xa ra usa. Abi namo ga unsa, sus pag tan-aw namo nag katawa2x na xa ra unya cge storya. Psychiatric case na dai to. Turns out grabe dai xa ka depressed mao to nag imbalance na ang chemicals sa ia brain. If I remember it right sir, magka depression ang tao if there is an ACTUAL or perceived loss. Feel jud nako sir depressed na imo anak. I hope i'm wrong though. Lisod kaau nang maka agi inu family ug ingon ana.

[DeepwateR]

does she have friends? somebody should take her out of the room.

Haay, paeta...try this, don't pay the internet. get a smart bro for you to use then cut off cable. tell her if she wants internet for the house, let her pay for it and so with cable. see how it goes. and please locate her friends and let them help you.