MERGED: Divorce in the Philippines

[juleskiboi]

Epokrito? Paminawa imung kaugalingon hunahuna-a ug tarung kung kinsa ang Epokrito.

Dili na lang magpakasal kung dili makatuman sa saad. Maayo nimong "til death do us apart" "in sickness and in health" unya tawgon lang nimo ug epokrito tungod kay lagi nag tuman sa saad? Ka BALASUBAS ug KA WALAY PUANGOD gud nimo ug panghunahuna. Nabuang na ka?!

Pasaylo kung naglagot ko. Mga mods ug mga istoryans. (I will never erase that word give me infraction me if you want)

No. You are not killing your children emotionally. You are just showing them that despite the hardships and mistakes and deeply wounding sorrows your family is experiencing, YOU as a parent (be it the mother or the father) is still there. Strong and confidently believing in GOD that everything will turn out the way they were meant to be.

Catholics (whatever your religion is, everyone who believes in GOD whatever name you call him and no matter how you worship him) are forgetting what and who they really are. Forgetting the teachings of your church, teaching of common sense and of universal morality. Why? Because you want the EASY ****ING WAY OUT.

A society slowly drifting away from the pure and beautiful culture once treasured, loved and celebrated by our ancestors. A culture of close family ties. Of sacrifice, passion and understanding.

NO TO DIVORCE!
YES TO FAMILY!

HELLO..lagot ka? sorry ha if na offend ka...but what i said is REALITY. u can't deal with it, that's your problem, we are entitled to our own opinion(and that means me too).

I came from a broken family FYI, and my mom did me and my sister a very big favor by bringing us along with her when she left our home kay dli na jd maundang ang away nila sa akong dad(may his soul rest in peace)...akong dad, way trabaho, naay bisyo, naay babae, magulata sa akong mom, scolds her when she comes home beyond 9pm everynight (considering sa maribago mactan iya work and mambaling mi puyo), kung saputon makulatahan pa mi ug apil sa ako sis,you think im exaggerating? that's true...naagi-an na namo while gagmay pa mi...and YOU tell me if my mom took the easy way out? ikaw paminaw sa imong self..don't dare call me balasubas dong, who do u think you are? do u know me? NO...mas maau pa ko kay naka sabot ko that not all stories (fairy tales) have happy endings, ikaw nag lutaw pa kas damgo...u may be lucky cos basin imo parents together pa and doing okay mao sulti ka ana...i admire my mom sa iyang gbuhat kay wala sya nagpakatanga ug nagpaka martyr for herself and for us her children; she realized that it's not worth all the pain considering siya ra ang breadwinner sa amo family adto na time. to quote her when asked why she bailed out, she simply said "because he's (my dad) not worth fighting for."

also dong, we are devout catholic, even me was an altar boy when i was a kid, but we were never DUMB and SABAY2 lang kung unsay isulti sa church..we have our own lives to run...but that being said, it doesnt mean nga wala maningkamot akong family nga dli mi mabungkag..but what can my mom do if she can't take it no more, and bata pa gd mi kaau adto...

so don't take things personally with me because of what i said, because tinuod man pd...there are many of us nga maskin klaro na kaau walay padulngan, stick together ghapon..but ila pd na..ug ang ako ma suggest nila(whether ila sundon or not) is "why not bail out if you can't take it anymore?", or "why complain rather than do something about it?"..ngano mag antos man ka always when there's a chance for you to be free and breathe lightly, then be happy?

We're wired differently, it doesn't mean just because you are against divorce for whatever your reasons have, it gives you right to say bad about me. Mao nay ibutang sa imong utok dong nga lahi lahi ta ug kaagi, and i myself did not just said it without basis/experience, kay naagian na nako ug nag antos mi sa akong mom and sis ana.

Pasensya na pud mga mods ug uban istoryans, but i can't take shit from someone talking smack about me when they don't really know me at all..

[kajrot1]

dapat open minded tang mga pilipino sometimes let's just use our logic kay not everything gsulti sa church tinuod.. they only tell u what's good but they themselves never have a clue kay wala rba cla naka agi anang relasyona(marriage). mao d cla ka relate or di cla kabaw onsay balati-onon sa mga asawa na gpangkulata gpang paso-an og uban pa..

[RemohDude]

HELLO..lagot ka? sorry ha if na offend ka...but what i said is REALITY. u can't deal with it, that's your problem, we are entitled to our own opinion(and that means me too).

I came from a broken family FYI, and my mom did me and my sister a very big favor by bringing us along with her when she left our home kay dli na jd maundang ang away nila sa akong dad(may his soul rest in peace)...akong dad, way trabaho, naay bisyo, naay babae, magulata sa akong mom, scolds her when she comes home beyond 9pm everynight (considering sa maribago mactan iya work and mambaling mi puyo), kung saputon makulatahan pa mi ug apil sa ako sis,you think im exaggerating? that's true...naagi-an na namo while gagmay pa mi...and YOU tell me if my mom took the easy way out? ikaw paminaw sa imong self..don't dare call me balasubas dong, who do u think you are? do u know me? NO...mas maau pa ko kay naka sabot ko that not all stories (fairy tales) have happy endings, ikaw nag lutaw pa kas damgo...u may be lucky cos basin imo parents together pa and doing okay mao sulti ka ana...i admire my mom sa iyang gbuhat kay wala sya nagpakatanga ug nagpaka martyr for herself and for us her children; she realized that it's not worth all the pain considering siya ra ang breadwinner sa amo family adto na time. to quote her when asked why she bailed out, she simply said "because he's (my dad) not worth fighting for."

also dong, we are devout catholic, even me was an altar boy when i was a kid, but we were never DUMB and SABAY2 lang kung unsay isulti sa church..we have our own lives to run...but that being said, it doesnt mean nga wala maningkamot akong family nga dli mi mabungkag..but what can my mom do if she can't take it no more, and bata pa gd mi kaau adto...

so don't take things personally with me because of what i said, because tinuod man pd...there are many of us nga maskin klaro na kaau walay padulngan, stick together ghapon..but ila pd na..ug ang ako ma suggest nila(whether ila sundon or not) is "why not bail out if you can't take it anymore?", or "why complain rather than do something about it?"..ngano mag antos man ka always when there's a chance for you to be free and breathe lightly, then be happy?

We're wired differently, it doesn't mean just because you are against divorce for whatever your reasons have, it gives you right to say bad about me. Mao nay ibutang sa imong utok dong nga lahi lahi ta ug kaagi, and i myself did not just said it without basis/experience, kay naagian na nako ug nag antos mi sa akong mom and sis ana.

Pasensya na pud mga mods ug uban istoryans, but i can't take shit from someone talking smack about me when they don't really know me at all..

depende gyud hinoon na sa scenario bro, dili man gyud tanan parehas ug na experience unlike yours, but majority man gud nato mga pinoy if madala pa ug salvage ang rocky relationship between our parents mo prefer man gyud sila nga mo stick gihapon for the sake nato mga anak labi pa sa mother side, instinct man gyud na sa mama nga protective sa iyang mga anak, naa gani oban anak diha mas mosugot pa nga masakit ang ilang amahan para wala nai samok o awai nga mahitabo sa ila panimalay..kasagaran ma blame man gud ang papa pod mostly ang issue naa man magikan sa amahan, if naa man gani sa inahan rare ra kaau..so dapat studyhan gyud ni ug maau sa kongreso kani nga bill..

[jumper_stage]

Para naku dili gyud ni makaayo.

If mahitabo man gani nga dili na magkasinabot ang managtiayon, pasagdan usa og kinahanglan gyud og iampo aron malamdagan og magkauli kay ang away, need time and space gamay og nig abot sa time nga bognaw na, ma ok ra ang tanan og dili sa ingon ani nga pamaagi.

[stew_griff]

HELLO..lagot ka? sorry ha if na offend ka...but what i said is REALITY. u can't deal with it, that's your problem, we are entitled to our own opinion(and that means me too).

I came from a broken family FYI, and my mom did me and my sister a very big favor by bringing us along with her when she left our home kay dli na jd maundang ang away nila sa akong dad(may his soul rest in peace)...akong dad, way trabaho, naay bisyo, naay babae, magulata sa akong mom, scolds her when she comes home beyond 9pm everynight (considering sa maribago mactan iya work and mambaling mi puyo), kung saputon makulatahan pa mi ug apil sa ako sis,you think im exaggerating? that's true...naagi-an na namo while gagmay pa mi...and YOU tell me if my mom took the easy way out? ikaw paminaw sa imong self..don't dare call me balasubas dong, who do u think you are? do u know me? NO...mas maau pa ko kay naka sabot ko that not all stories (fairy tales) have happy endings, ikaw nag lutaw pa kas damgo...u may be lucky cos basin imo parents together pa and doing okay mao sulti ka ana...i admire my mom sa iyang gbuhat kay wala sya nagpakatanga ug nagpaka martyr for herself and for us her children; she realized that it's not worth all the pain considering siya ra ang breadwinner sa amo family adto na time. to quote her when asked why she bailed out, she simply said "because he's (my dad) not worth fighting for."

also dong, we are devout catholic, even me was an altar boy when i was a kid, but we were never DUMB and SABAY2 lang kung unsay isulti sa church..we have our own lives to run...but that being said, it doesnt mean nga wala maningkamot akong family nga dli mi mabungkag..but what can my mom do if she can't take it no more, and bata pa gd mi kaau adto...

so don't take things personally with me because of what i said, because tinuod man pd...there are many of us nga maskin klaro na kaau walay padulngan, stick together ghapon..but ila pd na..ug ang ako ma suggest nila(whether ila sundon or not) is "why not bail out if you can't take it anymore?", or "why complain rather than do something about it?"..ngano mag antos man ka always when there's a chance for you to be free and breathe lightly, then be happy?

We're wired differently, it doesn't mean just because you are against divorce for whatever your reasons have, it gives you right to say bad about me. Mao nay ibutang sa imong utok dong nga lahi lahi ta ug kaagi, and i myself did not just said it without basis/experience, kay naagian na nako ug nag antos mi sa akong mom and sis ana.

Pasensya na pud mga mods ug uban istoryans, but i can't take shit from someone talking smack about me when they don't really know me at all..

kudos to ur mom bro..

lisod jd ni lalison nga topic... lainlain ug naagi an ang mga taw..hope d lng ta prejudice sa uban...

[ilovedogs]

bitaw, there are different sides of the coin bya jd. ang baruganan sa taw about divorce depends on their current or past situations. we can't blame people nga gnahan ani, and we also can't criticize people nga dili gnahan ani.

i also grew up in a very dysfuctional family, i was too young to realize that life was not the same as what i read from story books. sakt bitaw na permi makit-an ang parents nga mag-away, mas sakt if pati mga anak madamay. and nothing hurt more than seeing the parents i love quarrel at the silliest things, kanang pinakagamay lalisan. but im not in favor of divorce because my parents were able to overcome their problems. they still fight now, but not a lot and not as explosive as before. and id say kng naay divorce at that time, bacn ngbuwag nani akong mga ginikanan, and i think that nga kng nahitabo na, i dnt know if sane pa ba kaha ko ron.

so, kng madala pa ug hilot ang relasyon, unta buhaton lng tanan before mugive up sa marriage. and ok raman pud kng magbuwag, jst dont marry someone else.

but of course, we're not so close minded bya pud, kng manakit na ang inyo partner, abusive na unya ang mga bata mas mgsuffer nga mg-uban mo kesa magbuwag mo, then i guess you have the right reasons. pro i hope that every decision you make will be for the benefit of the kids, dili lng unta inyong kalipay ang tan-awn. luoy bya nang mga anak, they can't choose their parents, it wasn't their call to be born in this world.

[tingkagol]

Lain2x lagi ta kaagi, but just because your family is so well-knit doesn't give you the right to deprive those in troubled marriages the choice of divorce. As a matter of fact, doing so is immoral.

we also can't criticize people nga dili gnahan ani.

On the contrary, it's extremely easy to criticize them. And rightfully so. Especially those who go out of their way to crush the legalization of divorce.

[silent-kill]

HELLO..lagot ka? sorry ha if na offend ka...but what i said is REALITY. u can't deal with it, that's your problem, we are entitled to our own opinion(and that means me too).

I came from a broken family FYI, and my mom did me and my sister a very big favor by bringing us along with her when she left our home kay dli na jd maundang ang away nila sa akong dad(may his soul rest in peace)...akong dad, way trabaho, naay bisyo, naay babae, magulata sa akong mom, scolds her when she comes home beyond 9pm everynight (considering sa maribago mactan iya work and mambaling mi puyo), kung saputon makulatahan pa mi ug apil sa ako sis,you think im exaggerating? that's true...naagi-an na namo while gagmay pa mi...and YOU tell me if my mom took the easy way out? ikaw paminaw sa imong self..don't dare call me balasubas dong, who do u think you are? do u know me? NO...mas maau pa ko kay naka sabot ko that not all stories (fairy tales) have happy endings, ikaw nag lutaw pa kas damgo...u may be lucky cos basin imo parents together pa and doing okay mao sulti ka ana...i admire my mom sa iyang gbuhat kay wala sya nagpakatanga ug nagpaka martyr for herself and for us her children; she realized that it's not worth all the pain considering siya ra ang breadwinner sa amo family adto na time. to quote her when asked why she bailed out, she simply said "because he's (my dad) not worth fighting for."

also dong, we are devout catholic, even me was an altar boy when i was a kid, but we were never DUMB and SABAY2 lang kung unsay isulti sa church..we have our own lives to run...but that being said, it doesnt mean nga wala maningkamot akong family nga dli mi mabungkag..but what can my mom do if she can't take it no more, and bata pa gd mi kaau adto...

so don't take things personally with me because of what i said, because tinuod man pd...there are many of us nga maskin klaro na kaau walay padulngan, stick together ghapon..but ila pd na..ug ang ako ma suggest nila(whether ila sundon or not) is "why not bail out if you can't take it anymore?", or "why complain rather than do something about it?"..ngano mag antos man ka always when there's a chance for you to be free and breathe lightly, then be happy?

We're wired differently, it doesn't mean just because you are against divorce for whatever your reasons have, it gives you right to say bad about me. Mao nay ibutang sa imong utok dong nga lahi lahi ta ug kaagi, and i myself did not just said it without basis/experience, kay naagian na nako ug nag antos mi sa akong mom and sis ana.

Pasensya na pud mga mods ug uban istoryans, but i can't take shit from someone talking smack about me when they don't really know me at all..

sorry to here that bro, kong mao na imong gi agi-an.... pro i still think kong magpa kasal ka sa tao dapat kaila najud kas tao.. basin pud og nasayop imong mama ato nga time di pud ko ka basol niya, maybe kananglan og "warranty" period ang marriage heeheh. nga pwede i uli, or onsa ba kaha.


2 points nalang para mo tabla ang No. vote namo mga pips.

mas maau unta, nga taas taas ang mga seminars before/after marriage to avoid this situations. mao rana akong ika sulti kong di mo sure, ayaw jud pakasal kai mag basol ramo eheh

[juleskiboi]

sorry to here that bro, kong mao na imong gi agi-an.... pro i still think kong magpa kasal ka sa tao dapat kaila najud kas tao.. basin pud og nasayop imong mama ato nga time di pud ko ka basol niya, maybe kananglan og "warranty" period ang marriage heeheh. nga pwede i uli, or onsa ba kaha.


2 points nalang para mo tabla ang No. vote namo mga pips.

mas maau unta, nga taas taas ang mga seminars before/after marriage to avoid this situations. mao rana akong ika sulti kong di mo sure, ayaw jud pakasal kai mag basol ramo eheh

bro, i respect your opinion...but bear in mind in life, there is no absolute guarantee labi na kinaiya or batasan ang storyahan..i am not judging anyone who's against divorce, im not saying sayop ila decision, ang ako rman kay magpina maau man gd ng uban tawo kay abi perfect ilang kinabuhi ug tibuok ilang pamilya, swerte mo, but u don't know shit how hard it is to be in a broken family but we have to go all through that...

[bolshevik]

Now that Malta embraced Divorce, are we ready for it? in the news is the PI is the only Asian country left without divorce?

ARe you in favor of it?