Feeling Betrayed By A Friend

[Blackjellybean27]

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If you said something (a-for-your-ears-only kind of thing) about your bf to a friend, and that friend tells him about it (with every intention of telling it. Not just a slip of the tongue thing), what does that make her?

A. A tattletale
B. Secretly in love with your bf
C. Spiteful
D. Insecure
E. All of the Above

I posted this on my fb wall. and people kept saying E. so that includes letter B. hala noh?!

help!

[angel_thea89]

yeah.. coz nganung iya man gisulti sa imong bf pah.. ug wala man lang syay lain nga intention.. iya to gi tuyo para bah naa reason imu uyab mag lagot na sa imoha kay nag tabi2x ka sa imung amiga nga abi nimu imung masaligan..

a saying goes, relationships these days, one female, one male. either an ex trying to mess it up or a friend secretly hoping it ends..

...so watch out sa imung mga gusto asa e.share...

[azaleayve]

except B.. you can also include has secret grudges on you.. been to this kind of situation..and that is one of the reasons....lesson learned, never tell your friends all your secrets, or if you do, do not make your friend mad at you

[saulrhyz]

all of the above jud and much more sa way pagduha2.... ^_____^

[Klave]

You might have probably misjudged how close your friend is with your boyfriend.
Also, being a girlfriend doesn't automatically rise you up in the trust rankings of anyone.

All your current choices are simply components of one major possibility of being Jealous.
There are a few more possibilties. Concerned and Protective (e.g. she is asking your bf why you know that secret)
, Blabbermouth (she doesn't actually care but just want to run her mouth)
and the last one is She-never-really-liked-you-in-the-first-place-so-you-shouldn't-be-telling-her-secrets.

I always believe that if someone was capable of hurting you then it your weakness.
A weakness bound to be exploited by anyone at anytime.
So rather than focusing on the fault of others, you can also think about why that possibility occured.
Why would you share one's (bf pa gyud nimo) secret to another?
Aren't you just the same with your friend?

[Blackjellybean27]

yeah.. coz nganung iya man gisulti sa imong bf pah.. ug wala man lang syay lain nga intention.. iya to gi tuyo para bah naa reason imu uyab mag lagot na sa imoha kay nag tabi2x ka sa imung amiga nga abi nimu imung masaligan..

a saying goes, relationships these days, one female, one male. either an ex trying to mess it up or a friend secretly hoping it ends..

...so watch out sa imung mga gusto asa e.share...

that's true. ambot na confused ko nya. with that friend. i would understand kng nag slip of the tongue sya and all. unfortunately, i am pretty sure na gi sulti to niya just because..... i dont see the point with what she's doing. unless she's got the hots for my bf. which i think is pretty impossible. so ang ma think ra nako k lagooooot kaau sya nako. and i didnt do anything to her. im pretty sure.

except B.. you can also include has secret grudges on you.. been to this kind of situation..and that is one of the reasons....lesson learned, never tell your friends all your secrets, or if you do, do not make your friend mad at you

kana, secret grudges. naa jud na sya nako. i ddnt make her mad ui. sya lng palagot sa self nya.

all of the above jud and much more sa way pagduha2.... ^_____^

as in noh. kaluoy pod niya if nag think sya na by doing that my bf would like her. LOL >.<

[Blackjellybean27]

You might have probably misjudged how close your friend is with your boyfriend.
Also, being a girlfriend doesn't automatically rise you up in the trust rankings of anyone.

All your current choices are simply components of one major possibility of being Jealous.
There are a few more possibilties. Concerned and Protective (e.g. she is asking your bf why you know that secret)
, Blabbermouth (she doesn't actually care but just want to run her mouth)
and the last one is She-never-really-liked-you-in-the-first-place-so-you-shouldn't-be-telling-her-secrets.

I always believe that if someone was capable of hurting you then it your weakness.
A weakness bound to be exploited by anyone at anytime.
So rather than focusing on the fault of others, you can also think about why that possibility occured.
Why would you share one's (bf pa gyud nimo) secret to another?
Aren't you just the same with your friend?

Why? Because I believed she was a close friend. as in super close friend.
clarification, d man to secret ka bf ko. it was more like naglagot ko bf ko that time. i said something in passing. and she relayed it back to him. she knows shes not supposed to say anything nlng cz after all she doesnt need to dba?
it's not the only time diay na she did that. the other time mura ko niya gi siraan sa bf ko. this time i didnt say anything. feel lang jud niya mag sulti. u know when kids say something like: "ui, c ano bah, she did this" to a parent? like e sumbong, para kasab-an? thats how she did it.
aw, feeling close lang sya cguro sa bf ko. >.<

[cuteboy_kahoy]

shit dli nako ka relate og love2x ...hehehe

[Klave]

Why? Because I believed she was a close friend. as in super close friend.
clarification, d man to secret ka bf ko. it was more like naglagot ko bf ko that time. i said something in passing. and she relayed it back to him. she knows shes not supposed to say anything nlng cz after all she doesnt need to dba?
it's not the only time diay na she did that. the other time mura ko niya gi siraan sa bf ko. this time i didnt say anything. feel lang jud niya mag sulti. u know when kids say something like: "ui, c ano bah, she did this" to a parent? like e sumbong, para kasab-an? thats how she did it.
aw, feeling close lang sya cguro sa bf ko. >.<

Ok, thanks for the clarification, now that you have clarified, I agree in this situation you are the victim.
You do understand if you haven't had clarified your situation, anyone else might see it as how I saw it, right?
It is sad that the person whom you thought you could express your emotions to turns out to be a tattle tale.

Well, on a positive note, since it was an issue with you towards your bf, she acted like a catalyst so things can be resolved.
Right now, it is up to you how you can make this a positive or negative experience.
So maybe if you want things done at your own pace, you better leave out this friend of yours.

Also, it might be good if you can make the turnout good, so you can show off to your friend.
Your bf will give you a bit of leeway to explain since you are the girlfriend.
Find out what she exactly said, to find out if there are exaggerations, and you can use this against her.

Lastly, If you find out if her way of saying the issue is quite neutral,
you can say that she just wanted to do a soft nudge to get this issue resolved.
because sometimes friends don't do things to impress you, they do things that they think are best for you.

[Scott Bernard]

Nosebleed ko dah...

Bitaw, word of advice TS, next time ayaw ug diretso salig ug tao, labi na if wala pa kaayo ka naka ila sa imong pagtuo nga friend.

Beautiful Disaster jud...