BE ATTRACTIVE: Surround Yourself with Winners

[mik0y]

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Or should I say “Stop Hanging Out with Losers?”

Lol.

As of this writing, I just came out of a meeting with my manager and we were discussing about training branches for our newly hired supervisors.

He was telling me to modify the training programs that I made by reassigning some trainees to a better branch to prevent “bad fruits” from influencing the “good fruits.”

When he elaborated, he used the following analogies:

Students who enrolled in a bad school, later failed in passing a licensure exam, and eventually have a hard time in landing a job.

A religious person hanging out with a group of robbers.

“Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.”

Satorai!

(“A-ha experience”)

His examples were so good that I was reminded of the lessons I learned in college.

The point that he was trying to tell me is that people “acculturate” to the environment they’re in. We adjust to its culture, we become influenced by it, and somewhat shape our personalities.

In the same way, you’ll likely become a “loser” if you’re hanging out with them most of the time.

Of course there are exceptions on a case to case basis.

Okay, let me give you my definition of the word “loser.”

Losers are people who are narrow minded and judge anyone right away…

Losers are people who are shallow, immature, and have unrealistic expectations with life….

Losers pull others down so they go up on the status ladder…

Losers are needy and insecure people…

Losers settle for less…

Losers settle for second class behaviors…

Losers dream small…

And so on…

Am I making sense here?

But I’m not saying that you’re immediately tagged as a “loser” when you do those stuffs.

We are human beings. We are capable of being strong and being weak. There are times that we dream small, and there are times that we dream big. Sometimes we settle for less and sometimes we settle for more.

My point is we’re capable of committing mistakes. It’s like the Yin and Yang. That makes us human, so please don’t be too harsh with your self, ok?

(That’s a different topic by the way.)

Moving on, I believe that every one of us has his own strengths that we can harness.

Passions that we can pursue…

Talents that we can develop…

Gifts that we can share to others…

Blessings that can bless the world…

And so on…

Lastly, if you surround yourself with like minded people YOU BECOME ONE OF THEM.

And that my friends, MAKES YOU MORE ATTRACTIVE.

For more, please do check out my blog at AttractiveByDefault.blogspot.com

[Cory1986]

yup! maojd ni akong kasagaran mabasahan sa mga Business books. "sorround yourself with people who can be your role model"

Maau pa ma bogo sa pinaka bright nga group kaysa pinaka bright nga sa bogo nga group

[mik0y]

yup! maojd ni akong kasagaran mabasahan sa mga Business books. "sorround yourself with people who can be your role model"

Maau pa ma bogo sa pinaka bright nga group kaysa pinaka bright nga sa bogo nga group

Correct.

Which reminds me of someone I met at Mango a few days ago. A friend told me na okay ra daw tong nawnga kay "siya daw ang pinakagwapa sa mga batignawng" didto.

Hehehe lol

[messy_babycate]

this is soooo true! ma-insecure man gud ka ug naa nay naabot imong mga kauban so maningkamot pud ka ug apil para ka-level japon mo!

when I was in highschool, there was this guy nga problem student kaayo sa mga administrators. So what they did, ila gi-transfer sa cream section. the result? he graduated with honors.

[bastywarts]

saktoha ato miss cory ui.."mas maayu pa ma bogo ka sa pinaka bright na group,kaysa ma bright ka sa pinaka bogo na group"..

[BanshEe]

Haha.. correct kaayo uiee..
samot na si ms. cory..
ug ang dugang comment ni mikoy..
LOL..
And actually, I can be one of the losers..
That's why I get to quarrel with my loved ones..
cz most of the times, ako silang badlungon, for aiming high..
and id always say, stay here and be contented..
only to realize, i was trapping them w me in my loser world..
now, that i know, that being positive and smart,
can make me attractive, i can no longer be trapped
inside my own selfish world.. and i get to mingle and
settle for more with my loved ones.. sakto mn pud ilang dreams..
its just that im always afraid, to fall.. to fail..
but, now i know..
thanks ts..

[maran]

Or should I say “Stop Hanging Out with Losers?”

Lol.

As of this writing, I just came out of a meeting with my manager and we were discussing about training branches for our newly hired supervisors.

He was telling me to modify the training programs that I made by reassigning some trainees to a better branch to prevent “bad fruits” from influencing the “good fruits.”

When he elaborated, he used the following analogies:

Students who enrolled in a bad school, later failed in passing a licensure exam, and eventually have a hard time in landing a job.

A religious person hanging out with a group of robbers.

“Tell me who your friends are, and I’ll tell you who you are.”

Satorai!

(“A-ha experience”)

His examples were so good that I was reminded of the lessons I learned in college.

The point that he was trying to tell me is that people “acculturate” to the environment they’re in. We adjust to its culture, we become influenced by it, and somewhat shape our personalities.

In the same way, you’ll likely become a “loser” if you’re hanging out with them most of the time.

Of course there are exceptions on a case to case basis.

Okay, let me give you my definition of the word “loser.”

Losers are people who are narrow minded and judge anyone right away…

Losers are people who are shallow, immature, and have unrealistic expectations with life….

Losers pull others down so they go up on the status ladder…

Losers are needy and insecure people…

Losers settle for less…

Losers settle for second class behaviors…

Losers dream small…

And so on…

Am I making sense here?

But I’m not saying that you’re immediately tagged as a “loser” when you do those stuffs.

We are human beings. We are capable of being strong and being weak. There are times that we dream small, and there are times that we dream big. Sometimes we settle for less and sometimes we settle for more.

My point is we’re capable of committing mistakes. It’s like the Yin and Yang. That makes us human, so please don’t be too harsh with your self, ok?

(That’s a different topic by the way.)

Moving on, I believe that every one of us has his own strengths that we can harness.

Passions that we can pursue…

Talents that we can develop…

Gifts that we can share to others…

Blessings that can bless the world…

And so on…

Lastly, if you surround yourself with like minded people YOU BECOME ONE OF THEM.

And that my friends, MAKES YOU MORE ATTRACTIVE.

For more, please do check out my blog at AttractiveByDefault.blogspot.com

very well said TS.....nothing more nothing less

[kelv]

agree gyud ko ani. its the people around us that build us.

agree pd ko na we are capable of being strong and being weak. if we are surrounded by people who are losers, you can make them winners too kung strong imong pg tuo na sayop ilang ginabuhat.

[KASAAC]

Agree bai! nice post...

[mik0y]

Wow, thanks a lot.

I never thought you'd like this thread 'coz I didn't post any dating techniques.

Anyway, this is all about NATURAL ATTRACTION.

The more successful you are, the more "marketable" you are to others.