Priorities and Importance

[jowee-chan]

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I have a question fer ye..

My BF went to Ormoc last March 23 to have a vacation with his relatives since the last time he went there when he was still in grade school (and he's already in 2nd year college). He said that he wont be staying long there because he will enroll this summer. I just said yes since I can't say no to this man (I wish I could. haaaah~). Anyway, I thought he'll just be staying there for two weeks. After two weeks, he told me that he'll extend until April 16 since his cousin will be celebrating his birthday on the 15th. So nisugot ra ko. Hangtod nag April 16 na jood, the most awaited day came. kalit lang siya ni-ingon na dli xa kauli kai ghitagaan xa'g work sa iyang uncle and his kuya had already called him, telling him that he'll be taking the semestral classes.

nangutana ko niya nganung ingana man ang nahitabo.. ana xa na ganahan pa jood daw xa mustay didto. dee pa daw xa ganahan mu uli.

Guys, kung kahibaw lang mo pila ko ka gabii wai tarung tug tungod sa kamingaw. Wa ghapon pulos kung maglingaw2 ko kai dee japon ko ana malingaw.

My question here is... do you think he thinks na important ko niya? or apil ko sa iyang priorities? i mean, it's not that im comparing us to other couples ha, but dba kung naa kai uyab na love kaayo nimo, you cant stand even a single day na dee mo magkita? kung ako ang pangutan-on kung importante ba xa nako, i'd give my biggest YES. ako man gani gisalikway ang akong relatives para lang niya. I can say na I can sacrifice things for him, to the extent na wa nai mahibilin nako. I'm not exaggerating here. I'm just saying what I can do for him. haaaaaaaah~

what do you think guys?

[the Messenger]

I used to have an attitude like your BF's. The parents of my partner described it as "career-oriented" but then I eventually changed.

If your relationship is still new, the magnitude of prioritizing love over other matters hasn't sunk in yet.

[tylerdurden]

it's probably a mix of want and need on his part. he wants to stay because the experience is new to him and he probably missed a lot of his kababata's and relatives. he needs to stay as well because of the job and whatnot. these combined results in him having to forego being with you.

you have to remember that, at his age, he can't really decide for himself fully yet. he can't just be at your side and abandon his family/work whenever he wants to. he has to work for his future (maybe for your future as well).

in any case, you guys need to talk. don't wait for the rift between you to be too big to handle. it's better if you can do it face to face so you can gauge his emotions and yours.

[didi_tsai]

sis, give him time... he wanted it. anyway you can always call or text him... sinabtanay lang sa sis. pila ramay pag ligid sa panahon ba...

[jowee-chan]

I used to have an attitude like your BF's. The parents of my partner described it as "career-oriented" but then I eventually changed.

If your relationship is still new, the magnitude of prioritizing love over other matters hasn't sunk in yet.

***how did you manage with that kind of situation? did you quarrel with your partner? what did your GF do?

it's probably a mix of want and need on his part. he wants to stay because the experience is new to him and he probably missed a lot of his kababata's and relatives. he needs to stay as well because of the job and whatnot. these combined results in him having to forego being with you.

you have to remember that, at his age, he can't really decide for himself fully yet. he can't just be at your side and abandon his family/work whenever he wants to. he has to work for his future (maybe for your future as well).

in any case, you guys need to talk. don't wait for the rift between you to be too big to handle. it's better if you can do it face to face so you can gauge his emotions and yours.

***i've planning for that already, to talk things out. but the question is... when will he come back for us to talk FACE TO FACE? it pains me whenever i ask that question to myself. and i don't want to talk to him regarding that matter because he doesn't want to be pressured by me. that's why he, sometimes, feels that he's being "choked."

sis, give him time... he wanted it. anyway you can always call or text him... sinabtanay lang sa sis. pila ramay pag ligid sa panahon ba...

***that's true na we can just communicate. but i think not this time since naa na xai job. he works in the morning while i work at night. would you think we could still communicate with that kind of situation? and please add pa the disturbance sa signal sa network.. double ang kasakit girl. grabe.

[BaDz Abadia]

si kinsa na jowee chan?

[Peenut]

Don't let your perception ruin your belief.

Don't beat yourself up if you don't meet your expectations.
I mean, if that job is important to him, just let him be.
Support him.
Maybe he just grabbed that opportunity.
And when he comes back home, I'm sure you'll be just fine.

[jowee-chan]

si kinsa na jowee chan?

***wa man ka kaila nai niya martin.. taga amo ma ni xa.. ehehe

Don't let your perception ruin your belief.

Don't beat yourself up if you don't meet your expectations.
I mean, if that job is important to him, just let him be.
Support him.
Maybe he just grabbed that opportunity.
And when he comes back home, I'm sure you'll be just fine.

***i hope so. i just wish everything will be okay.

[madz_makatigbas]

basin nka kita to dd2 og girl mao ni sugot nlng pd sa offer....khbaw nka mga guys polygamus...dali ra madagit...

[abewtifulmind]

pagtalk nalang jud mo og tarong ana.. and pahibaw-a cya sa imong na feel... and ... kung wa man gani cya magbinuang ngadto.... .. para nako... e accept nalang jud ang changes nga nahitabo.. sometimes man gud.. kung love nato ang taw... we have to undergo man gud sacrifices... sometimes lisod sabton but... wa tay mabuhat kundi sabton nalang.... and.... make sure nga ang imong sacrifice.. worth it pud.. basin maong na wili imong uyab ngadto kay basin naay laing putahe ngadto... aguy... (tag-anon nako naglatagaw na imong utok ron)