Falling in Love
It is a mystery why we fall in love.
It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery how it happens.
It is a mystery why some love grow and why some love fail.
You can analyze this mystery and look for reasons and causes,
but you will never do any more than take the life out of the experience.
Just as life itself is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and electrical impluses of the body,
so too is love more than the sum of the interests and attractions and commonalities that two people share.
And just as life in itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time, so too,
the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways.
Sometimes, hopefully, at least once in your life --- the gift of love will come to you in full bloom,
and you will take a hold of it and celebrate it in all its inexpressible beauty.
This is the dream we all share.
More often than not, it will come and take a hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, and then move on.
When this happens to young people, they try too often to grasp the love and hold on to it,
refusing to see that it is a gift that is freely given and just as freely, moves away.
When they fall out of love, or the person they love feels the spirit of love leaving,
they try desperately to reclaim the love that was lost rather than accepting the gift for what it was, and then moving on.
They want answers where there are no answers.
They want to know what was wrong with them that made the other person stop loving them,
or they try to get their lover to change, thinking that if things were different,
love would not have gone away.
They blame their circumstances and think that if they went away somewhere to start a new life together, love would grow.
They would try just about anything to give meaning to what has happened.
But there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its own mysterious ways,
they will continue to live in a sea of misery.
You need to know this about love, and accept it.
Whatever it brings to you, you need to treat with kindness.
If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you in return, be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If someone falls in love with you but you don't feel love for them,
feel honored that love came and knocked at your door,
but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.
How you deal with yourself is how you should deal with love, we all feel the same pain and joy,
even if our lives and ways are different from each other's.
If you fall in love with someone and he falls in love with you, but love eventually chooses to leave,
do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame.
Let it go.
There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love.
Love chooses you.
All you can do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life.
Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you each and every way you can.
This is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places that must be filled with love,
and they begin to look at love as something that flows into them rather than from them.
The first blush of a new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love fades, they revert to seeing love as a need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead becomes someone who seeks love.
They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to heart.
Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying.
You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover,
there is nothing you can do and there is nothing that you should do.
Love has always been and will always be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
If you keep your heart open, it will come again.
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Falling In Love - mystery unlocked!
Originally Posted by randymunz
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