Advice from the Dumpee (are you a dumpee too?or the other way around?)

[kaytee]

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when you’re young, and impecably dependent on the odds to dictate your destiny, you end up realizing how amazingly stupid extroversion is. everything you do isn’t based on a single mapped out storyline. every choice, every decision is your own doing, and you have no one to blame but yourself.


love is… let’s skip that part. we get way too much of that word everyday. it’s too overrated. and much abused. so we use the word relationships. love ‘em, hate ‘em, go to hell with ‘em. what’s new? there are those that last long (hooray for them!), then there are those that end quicker that the speed of light. one snap and KAPOOSH! you’re back to square one.


so for those teens and early adults who are yet to experience enough deceit and dignity-smashing humiliation, here are some tips on how to survive relationships. let’s just say it is the UBER of the real world.


1. hold on to the big “V”. it’s NOT worth giving up. especially to someone who’s been with only-God-knows-how-many partners. it’s not only disgusting, it doesn’t only make the risk for STDs higher, but once you make someone your first, it serves as another trophy added to their case. unless of course you’re absolutely, positively sure your lover deserves it, and is willing to wait till your ready to hit the home run.


2. forget the first. okay, so if you’ve already lost the “V”, and regretted it, try not to think and whine about it for the next century or two. it’s done and over with. we can’t do anything to take it back. just move on. hey, it happens to the best of us. only the lucky ones get it right the first time.


3. don’t get attached. it’s probably the biggest mistake you’ll ever make. once you allow a person to gain control of your emotions, it’s pretty hard to feel any kind of happiness. when something doesn’t go the way you want it to, and that person isn’t really affected by any of it, it heightens the emotional tension. and all you can do is slump and accept that you are the only person in the world who cares.


4. never fuss when confronting a cheater or a liar. he’s more likely to either deny it, or manipulate to the conversation, making it your fault why he ever lied or cheated in the first place. how about trying to talk it out, detail by detail? don’t blurt everything out; don’t also be afraid to speak up. do it in such a way that your sides get through, and he’s able to air out his side (even if your gathered facts imply otherwise!)


5. don’t pine after someone who’s constantly “busy.” it’s a waste of time, energy, and cab money. if this person can’t even spare a lousy five minutes to talk to you, especially if it’s as important as a formal break-up, then you’re allowed to wish him all the hell you want. that’s unbelievable immature for someone who even thought getting committed. if you can’t handle a relationship, end it properly. don’t just leave the other party hanging. it’s an unbearably bad case of missing manners.

in this very cruel world, you can only guess what’s coming. so don’t be bitter when something in your relationship goes wrong. if you can solve the problem, do something about it. but if it’s too much to handle, why stay with someone who wishes to leave?

be vigilant about the stuff that happens to you. don’t ever let your guard down. the more sensitive you are, the less you are likely to survive the relationship jungle.






this is just a friendly warning to those who dare to read this. or, it may be just a simple discourse of someone who has experienced the bad side of all five tips, and is trying to get her feet back on track.





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PS: tell me what you think? were you a dumpee as well? share lang if yah want. girls and guys are welcome here ^_^

[kaytee]

upsie! ^_^

[gARN]

Before I pour out my thoughts vis-a-vis the "friendly warning/simple discourse.." above, i'd like to commend the TS for her praiseworthy disclaimer.. It made me smirk..ú

My “guy” opinion and/or 2nd demotion and/or non-sense in relation to the original notions of the TS..ú

1.The big “V”? Huh?! What is it? I guess I lost mine while I was playing marbles with a bunch of whackos. Yay! Guys, if you’re over 18 and you’re still a virgin, please call/text me at 0919-336-GARN, so that I can hook you up with ISO:9001 certified service providers. Toinks! Seriously guys, since it is in our nature to seek for such pleasure, we should bear in mind that safe s*x is better (sounds like a rhyme). It will not only diminish the risk of acquiring STDs, it will also ensure that headaches triggered from being a 14 year old dad is averted.

2.Make you’re first count. It is advisable to do it with our significant other/our special someone. However, desperate times call for desperate measures, thus I can’t blame you for chartering the “Bang Bus”. Bwahaha..ú

3.To get or to not get “too” attached?! Hmm..ú I’d say take Kaytee’s advice. It is best to have a buffer in a relationship. So that in case the dreamlike moments you’ve shared with you’re significant other will be cut short, you can pull through and save yourself from plummeting through a world of agony, despair, and worthlessness.

4.To avoid experiencing the wrath of a half crazy, furious, enraged woman, don’t get caught cheating. This will save you from loads of profanities, tons insults, and calamitous consequences. Listen to ERAP’s advice: “Iwasan ang isang gabing sarap, dahil baka ang kapalit ay habangbuhay na hirap” – He knows better..ú

5.If it is glaring that the gurl doesn’t like you, do not force the issue. Although persistence has conquered ample hearts, it has also devastated the life innumerable individuals. So don’t waste your time and moolah on someone undeserving of you. Sounds bitter right? Hehe..ú

Bored and sleepy yet restless and twitchy. I hope this cup of coffee will save me from this world of misery. Rock On TS!

[kaytee]

@ gARN

you really are my constant follower. haha.

thanks!

good job on the post..

[gARN]

@ gARN

you really are my constant follower. haha.

thanks!

good job on the post..

OT: ahihi.. i just love reading and commenting on threads which are worth my time..ú so keep on posting coz i'll read and comment on 'em..

ur welcome..ú

[kaytee]

OT: ahihi.. i just love reading and commenting on threads which are worth my time..ú so keep on posting coz i'll read and comment on 'em..

ur welcome..ú

sure sure. haha ^_^

[kerel09]

nice thread ts.. I agree with gARN, that this is worth reading...

[kaytee]

nice thread ts.. I agree with gARN, that this is worth reading...
I was dumped lately by my MU... it hurt me a lot because he is my first love...And i'm having regrets and self-pity right now... Wished i could turn back time.

aw thanks.

am sorry to hear that. do you mind sharing it to us as what happened why he had done such?





and btw, try reading to some of my threads too. you might find it useful. haha

[sadgirl]

i have been dumped lately, so heart-breaking...

[gARN]

Upsie..ú

TS: Do you have new threads? ahihi..ú